Quitting jobs
Everyone has a job they don’t like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there’s always are going to be handfuls of people saying “QUIT UR JOB!” not really caring about whether it’ll benefit the complainer or not.
Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it’s not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.
Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you’ve made in how you pay for things.
For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it’s highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.
Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets.
I quit work at 35 and now 58. My only regret in life is not quitting earlier. I get mo pensions or welfare or inheritance, I’m just mindful of spending and ever since I was 19 I invested small amounts of surplus income in stocks and shares that ballooned over the decades to large amounts.
Frugality includes all the other virtues.” – Cicero
With that age you experienced most of the stock explosions and multiple splits (e.g. Amazon, Apple, Broadcom, Nvidia etc.).
No way in hell I could live from my 10k of stocks on dividends and I am aggressively investing as I still am allowed to live at home (graciously btw) to build up some savings.
Believe in Karma. Life is not fair. It never will be.
Thank gawwd the pedos and psychos will be punished in the afterlife.
Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off
What’s wrong about it?
I think one misunderstanding is the goal behind karma. It’s not to achieve good karma, but to have a net zero karma. A way to reach zero karma is to perform good deeds without announcing or advertising it.
But then how will I get upthumbs on the facecube?
You should share everything with your SO. No. Don’t share finances…
Totally disagree, however it does depend on what stage of life you’re on. Straight out of college, sure, married at 50, I would say “no”.
I’ve been married almost 25 years and we’ve been sharing finances since before we were married, but we both started with nothing, and we both had college degrees and equal paying jobs out of college, so there was no real disparity of finances.
You’re with the wrong person then
Why not? Having two paycheck going into one place seems like it would make things easier, since you’d only have to deal with one set of accounts. And if something happens to your SO, you already have access to the finances and don’t have to worry about getting access while dealing with whatever happened
Have both. Things both use like wifi etc. gets paid by thr joint account, some savings also get placed in the joint account and stuff like fun money stays in both personal accounts.
How much money is put into the joint account can be up for debate (e.g. based on yearly salary 50% of each salary or fixed amount).This is the way.
My spouse and I make different amounts, but also have different debt situations. We ran all our numbers and each contribute to the joint accounts based on our ability and needs, and in that way we share our living expenses and build collective savings while still having our own separate accounts for our individual spending. Neither of us is policing the other, we can each buy within our means and maintain our individual financial freedom while also tracking and taking care of our shared responsibilities and savings together.
You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged “one” is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.
“God will bring the right person into your life”
I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don’t even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don’t understand.
I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…
I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…
I recall having seen documentary films about that phenomenon.
"I’ve sent Bill, who’s a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking ‘gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.’ But you know what? It’s fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey’s Anatomy every night like ‘GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe’. --God (Probably)
I can’t imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I’ve found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don’t regret a minute of any of those times.
Follow your dreams
Why is this bad? If people said, “Follow your dreams and they’ll always come true,” I’d disagree with that. But it doesn’t hurt to have goals and work towards them.
This episode is pure gold!
Bulking up to what, fatass? Super fatass??
Eat less, move more
And never forget: slothing is not only an animal
Not bad advice at all.
Maybe not poor at its core, but poor phrasing nonetheless: “just be yourself!”
What we should say is: stop trying to force yourself to fit in. You are enough as you are. Embrace your quirks, passions, and individuality without feeling the need to conform to what others expect. It’s not about “just being yourself” in a vacuum; it’s about freeing yourself from the pressure to mold into something you’re not.
The beauty of authenticity is in the courage to show up as you are, without apology.
“Fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” -Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn’t require losing their individuality.
Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don’t understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.
I think “Just be the best version of yourself” is a better phrasing.
Not sure I like the word “just” though. Not as empowering as it could be.
This is pretty good advice, and something I often need to remind myself of. The word “just” weakens what you’re saying and is usually superfluous. Delete it.
I really like this answer! Absolutely gorgeous response. Confidence is massively important for being happy with oneself, and that starts by understanding you are a singular original human.
The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”
This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with “being yourself” in north korea, or even any east asian countries.
You still need to follow your society’s expected behaviors. Like showering or wearing shoes in public venues.
A big problem is people not picking up certain queues and being ostracized then continuing to follow “be yourself.” It’s a downward spiral.
- Learn to fit in
- Learn when and where “rules” can be bent/broken
- Then be yourself
You know who take this advice too seriously? Assholes.
Compare yourself to the people you see in the movies.
You never see Lara Croft or John Wick get the hiccups. If you do it’s because you’re a jerk and everyone will laugh at you.
creatural realism. thats why i love die hard, hero gets hurt a lot.
Runs 100 yards barefoot through broken glass.
Obligatory: “YOLO”, it is true we only live once – so make it count.
“Big boys/girls don’t cry”
This is some archaic-level advice similar to “pull up your bootstraps” that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to “take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being” and “be kind to yourself”.
“Listen to your body” No, that’s how you get fat. Your body wants to build up fat! That’s how we survived famines. Famines that don’t happen anymore.
Listen to your doctor instead 👍
Listening to the body is a rule of thumb. If you feel bad after eating/drinking something it’s probably not good for you. If you cough from something in the air it’s not healthy to inhale.
It’s especially true in high octane workout culture like cross-fit, if it hurts then don’t continue, this is how you end up with a herniated disc.
That being said, if you’re on heroin you shouldn’t listen to the body. Same with cigarettes, junk food, sugary drinks, candy etc. because the body is a dopamine whore.
Listen to your body as in observe your body and how it responds to activity, certain foods, medications and environments. That’s good advice. There are many bad doctors out there.
It makes sense with exercise, fatigue and recreational substances. Not much else though.
It makes sense when it comes to what you ingest also and your environment. Say you have allergies to particular elements, pollen for example.
Listening to your body is meant in the context of over-exercising though. It’s not a blanket get out of exercise card. That’s called “listening to your brain”.
That is not bad advice
You want to listen to your body because it tells you way more things than just feeling hungry. That is a gross simplification of that suggestion, almost assuming human bodies are machines.
Bad advice in this context is saying “you are gonna be happier if you lost weight” or “you are gonna look better if you lost weight”. That is extremely personal and changes person to person, some might even feel worse.
Listening to a doctor’s concerns is for everyone with no exclusions, but feeling good in oneself’s body is another different topic that needs to be tackled appropriately.
Don’t listen to food adverts. Broccoli doesn’t have a marketing budget.
That’s what Big Broc wants you to believe.
Listen to your body, assess how its feedback comports with your goals, then use your brain to decide what to do.
famines are increasingly likely.
Getting married, thinking it’ll improve your situation. Nope it’ll just solidify what’s there.
Sorry for your luck.
a good marriage drastically improves your life. a bad marriage will obliterate it.
A good marriage can be a good (but not essential) step in a good relationship.
Can confirm. My marriage to my amazing spouse is the most wonderful gift my life has ever had and lifts me up like nothing else. My past relationship with an abusive partner nearly destroyed me.
If you receive letters demanding payments… just don’t open them, they will sort themselves out.
I mean it’s always worked for me. Debt can be easily ignored in the United States, and I’ve gotten by just fine without ever opening a line of credit. I always pay cash for everything, including vehicles, and we used the girlfriend’s credit to get a house so it’s all turkey and gravy. Even then I could always just rent through private landlords like I always have.
If you can make it work that’s probablya highly specific situation you are in.
Generally speaking it’s bad advice to ignore open payments. At least initiating contact with the demanding people can be good.
“Don’t take that raise, it’ll put you in a higher tax bracket!”
Some people who don’t understand tax brackets actually believe this is good advice.
For anyone here who doesn’t understand why this is bad advice, it’s because income tax increases only apply to income made above that threshold.
Let’s do a simple example and pretend there’s only 2 tax brackets. From 0-50k tax is 10% and over 50k it’s 20%.
If you make exactly 50k your tax burden will be 5k and you’ll take home 45k a year.
If you get a 1k raise, only the final thousand is taxed at the higher rate, so your tax burden will be 5200 (10% of the first 50k and 20% of the remainder), and you’ll take home 45,800 a year.
So even though you change tax brackets, you still make more money.
USA here: Or people saying “Don’t work overtime, they’ll just take it all in taxes”.
Well, my marginal tax rate on income has never been 100% (yet). While there are other factors to consider if you feel working overtime is worth it or not to you personally. That is not a valid logic to use.
The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.
In the UK there is a point between 100 and 125k where the tax levels of being in that region make it more financially prudent to do pension salary sacrifice or a similar scheme. You should still take the pay rise obviously.
Edit: To illustrate it I think the marginal tax rate jumos to ~60% or something like that between 100-124k. but then moves back down to 47% after you earn over 125k for some reason.
Yeah, there are some regressive taxes and fees that cause that anomalous decline in the marginal rate.
I’d say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.
My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it … but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn’t actually discussed finances with them.
On Reddit, the answer is always “Break up.”
“Guys I just hooked up my new set of 5.1 speakers and I’m getting a little buzzing in the subwoofer I can’t track down, what do I do?”
“You should break up, he’s totally cheating on you.”
Break up!
Grab a brush and put a little make up!
if it moves, bet on it. if it doesnt, eat it.
