There’s a very real possibility that I’ll need to confront probably my most important life decision ever soon. I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for the possibility of having to even consider it. If I do need to, I need to find a way to be at peace with that decision.
It’s a doozy too.
adding spoiler tag as the subject could be sensitive for somebody struggling with fertility
“Would I be ok never having a biological child of my own if it meant finding great love and joining an established family?” As someone who already feels like an outsider, would I ever feel like I belong? Am I willing to accept that my life never has a chapter of having and raising my own child if there is potentially an option/scenario where I could? Would I resent my decision?
Heavy stuff. Like I said though, it’s not something I need to confront right now but there’s a possibility that it might come up, so I should probably get my head straight about the concept so I know where I stand.
Anyway… almost weekend time woo. I think I might have a drink or two this afternoon.
I’d say if you like the woman and get along with the kids go for it. As far as resentment and/or feeling like an outsider, you can walk away if its not working out, maybe feeling like an outsider is the price of that freedom.
Hm, that is a doozy. Only you can answer that one, I think. Be true to yourself.
I know for some, having their own biological children is important to them, and for other’s, less so. It’s also important to consider what these Hypothetical Step-Children (HSP (lol)) think as well.
But finding love is hard, and like with all choices, there’ll be pros and cons with whatever is picked.
You don’t have to decide right now, so take your time and see what happens 🤷♀️
This one is tough. I don’t believe I’d have had the strength to do it before I had kids. I really wanted to be a dad and I wanted my “own” kids. The idea of forming a relationship with a single mother was also mega daunting to younger me.
But now that I’ve gone the traditional route, I could absolutely imagine the “other path” to happiness. I can recognise that I’d have loved it had I met my wife and kids as a package and joined the family. I don’t love them because they have my DNA. I love them because they’re my kids.
It’ll depend on the age(s) of the kid(s), but to a kid is under 5, they won’t remember a time before you were in their life. You won’t be an outsider, you’ll just be “dad”.
got a mate struggling with fertility and I gave him some advice recently about this. Course I’m giving it from a VERY privileged position, so feel free to disregard. Once you hold your kid in your arms, you wont give a fuck how you got there, cause it simply doesn’t matter. Biological or not wont matter for shit.
the newborn stage fucking sucks too ey. no one actually talks about that part, cause if we were honest no one would ever have kids.
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Where there is great love there is family.
Blood ties is not the same as love, I have seen it. 😔
Some sort of major kerfuffle down at the shops. At least 4 cop cars and the helicopter was out earlier.
Armed siege apparently. Which makes the huge number of rubber neckers standing at the tape lines taking pictures even more disturbing.
Wtf. I’m not a fan of this stuff. Can it stop happening for 5 fucking seconds? Seriously
Gratitude thread.
I’m grateful that there is so much love in my life. So much more than that one person could’ve given me. Love is everywhere. The food we eat, the beautiful skies, people, sounds. Even though at times I still feel pangs of shitty feelings from the hostility he probably feels towards me, I am able to remind myself that my life is so much better without that person in it.
I’m just happy to be here
That was nicely said. I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads, a split system that’s in good working order and for it being Friday! Sooo tired!
I’m grateful for you lot. Although I don’t comment very much, I love checking in here each day. Love the camaraderie and chit-chat, and the support that is offered when people need it.
I am very grateful FaceBastard didn’t exist when I was a kid.
And for fluffy socks.
The amount of dumb stuff I would have posted if social media was a thing when I was a kid…
I used to post song lyrics and quotes from famous people on my FB, between 2006-2010 (14yo - 18yo).
Now I do that here instead 😂
I’m alive. I’m not struggling. My daughter is happy and healthy. I can do the things I love.
I’m grateful I get to return home soon (Tuesday, hopefully)
The Kapiti triple choc ice cream from Aldi is delicious. And so rich you don’t need very much to hit the spot.
Unexpected last minute arrangement.
Friend has invited me out for lunch for my birthday. Going to be having Japanese, I usually go for a noodle dish but maybe I might try a Japanese curry if they have one.
It’s going to be nice and fun to catch up as well.
It’ll it all lines up I’ll be back home in time to also catch my team playing afl tomorrow.
Not many chores left to do tonight, then it’s some tv and sleep 😸
The cats are playing with toys they never touched at the old place. Maybe it’s more fun on the polished boards.
Talking of polished boards, I got a couple of sheepskin rugs for the bedroom as cold boards before slippers is 🥶. I would have thought the cats would be disporting themselves on them with minutes. Nope. Zooks only walked across one to love up to my sneakers, and Sammi so far has carefully walked around one. Cats…Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Slap me with a splintered ruler
my lord it is eight in the morning
Lamb chops and lollipops please - with coffee, lots of coffee.
Also, when is the food truck enterprise starting up? Do we know yet which locations?
🐑🍭🍭☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️
Next week. We will be everywhere and nowhere.
Could you feed the cats for me? Really don’t want get out of warm bed.
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Hopefully this will stop the pitiful mewing for 5 minutes.
Wild-caught horse butt stew thanks
Came across a short on youtube of a customer asking a baker for grass-fed salmon on her bagel. Wtf?
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Was contacted by another place to move forward into the interview the process.
Just emailed the other recruiter to get a feel for what’s going on with this offer.
Let’s see what happens.
Ahhhh yessss! Fantastic! You’re awesome!
Thank you!! Now it’s 2 more interviews next week. Maybe things are looking up. I dare hope…
Wow! Great work! You’re killin’ it, bro!
Trams delayed heading up Swanston st at Collins st. Two police units called to … speak to someone.
Edit. Back under way
I am having this strange phenomenon, where:
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If I think I need my laptop and bring it with me, but then not end up using it.
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If I think I don’t need my laptop and left it home, then I end up needing it.
Yep, a few of you might remember that a few months ago, I had to file a claim using just my phone 3 hours before a flight lol… Might be time I get a Bluetooth keyboard of some sort.
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Good night everyone. Stay warm. 😘
Ironically I was too warm to sleep last night
TV Review. Indian Police Force. Amazon. A Hindi-English series about a counter terrorism unit in Delhi. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_Police_Force_(TV_series)
This is a pretty good show, it fairly accurately depicts terrorism and counter terrorism in a modern country. It does have some Indian tradition story telling regarding the personal lives of the main characters, there was a dance/singing scene! but it wasn’t out place.
Melburnian here so when the power goes out in the Delhi apartment of the terror cell I’m all like" Youse guys are fucked, Special Ops is outside your door " But no, it’s just a power outage in a capital city for no reason, no storms. It’s India.
The military theme music is a little cringy but it’s ok. The graphics and special effects are good. So many pairs of Rayban Aviators. Only 10% of the men have a moustache.
And approx 10% of special forces is women, which is sorta in keeping with the rest of the world.
I give this 4 hobbits.
( I do miss Irrfan, when he smiled he would light up the room. )
Ooh reminds me of hotel Mumbai. That’s a good movie too if you haven’t seen it
I have not seen it, will put it on the watchlist. 😎
Unpopular opinion: Prosecco is overrated. Tastes like hairy balls. There’s so much better out there.
Prosecco is good for making spritzes, that’s it. Limoncello spritz, mmm!
Agree
imo, prosecco is as revolting as pinot gris
You haven’t had good Prosecco, methinks. That, or you don’t have it when you’re drunk enough. Tsk tsk lol
Maybe. It was a Brown Brothers. It was dry and tasteless like soda water.
Agreed. Fuck Prosecco and everyone who likes it
spoiler
Ok not everyone who likes it. They’re okay. Mostly.
Oh dear.
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Day 7 of the lemon tree thorn accident. That tree should be weaponised, finger is still blistering.
It’d be completely demoralising.
There you are standing in the field, bombs going off left right. Tinnitus drowning out the aural horror… Then some fuck comes at you brandishing a lemon tree branch. You need to think quickly, this is life or death. First thought is what type of lemon… Meyer? With those sweet floral undertones… Lisbon? How thick is the pith? Would it make good limoncello? Are they really worth $1.19ea at woolies?
Before you can appraise the lemon and with various recipes flashing before your eyes it’s too late. You’ve been struck!
You return to base, seemingly with a minor injury. Your comrades laughing at you… but over the next few days their laughter subsides into deep pity watching you try and delicately put your right shoe on without using your normal finger.
