• Clbull@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    A mutual friend of ours got into an argument with him because he made some new friends at his local pub and was buying pints for them left, right and centre. He took serious offence to the suggestion that they were using him for his money (he got about £120k in inheritance after his mum died) and cut both of us off, even though I never said anything to him.

    I don’t want to elaborate on his backstory but he had a lot of mental health problems and past trauma. After a lot of bad things happened a few years ago, he decided that he was done with life and vowed not to outlive his cats. Have tried to talk him out of it but he’s set on ending his own life after his cats pass away.

    I presume he’s still alive, but I can’t get in touch with him as he nuked his phone number and blocked me on all socials.

  • EvilBit@lemmy.world
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    My best friend and I suggested online that maybe this friend of ours stop using “gay” as an insult (this was around 2009 or so) and he and his girlfriend became adamantly defensive and mean. When they implied that my best friend was molesting his beloved dog just to be assholes, I just cut the cord and walked away. They were idiots anyway.

    Fun fact: the girlfriend was, and is, a huge “do good” volunteer advocacy leader. So, you know, help each other out, but don’t get in the way of my homophonic slurs.

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    This is ages ago, invited me to an MLM event without telling me it’s MLM. I’ve experienced cult that night.

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      I had someone do that with me too, but in their defense, I know they never had the brains to tell that was a cult. Fortunately they didn’t get trapped either, but they did waste a bit of money in it for a short while.

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      I mean, if my friends knew I was a huge fan of the band, were going and weren’t like, tickets are £50, do you want one? It would sting.

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        I wasn’t planning on it, my GF bought the tickets without asking me about it, and didn’t know about my pal being into the band. But my friend figured I was the one who left her out. Plus, not everyone gets invited to everything, hey I’m dating someone here. Called me up and berated me about being a bad friend without saying what it was she was mad about. I prefer not to have friends that use that kind of rhetoric.

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          I did realise that it’s a specific situation but as the original post didn’t have more context, I didn’t see why I shouldn’t be allowed to suggest some.

          If OP wants to expand on the situation, they’re welcome to.

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      Eastern countries don’t build all their communal events around booze but instead food. One of the many reasons I have no interest in moving back to the West.

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      A drinking buddy of mine quit. I got good at making mocktails. Bonus now when I want a cocktail but not booze I can have a nice drink.

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    Dude became an outspoken anti vaxxer, tin foil hat wearing plandemic twat.

    The final nail was when he shows up at our business out of the blue one day (literally had not spoken with him in almost a year) where he had left some oil paintings & other artwork to pick them up, then sent a shitty passive aggressive text the next day about how they were not kept in perfect condition.

    My dude, you left them without a word otherwise over 4 years ago, we have shit to do besides take care of discarded art.

  • Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world
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    I bought tickets for a concert for us both provided she drive. She never showed up and didn’t answer her phone or anything but was somehow mad at me a few days later.

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    Back in primary school (end of 1997), my best friend went to a different high school the next year and we never spoke again.

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    I used to have an online friend who never really texts me first unless I do. Since they’re a leftie, I wished them on Happy Left-handers Day and they replied that I don’t need to wish them, which I only did to spark some conversation. This put me off and I went “Alr I won’t bother texting you ever” and they went “Ok”.

    Haven’t texted them in 3 months, neither did they (as they don’t ever). Idk who is the idiot here, me, she or both.

    I don’t really like ending friendships from my side, so I might text them on her birthday and see how it goes.

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      So trivial lol, maybe both of you are kinda in a petty mood that day.

      If it was me I’d probably just ask what went wrong immediately cuz I’m impatient.

      I hope you can make up.

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      What a bizarre reaction to something very innocuous. I knew a woman on FB who thought that “thumbs upping” her comments was somehow offensive. I wrote her off as nuts.

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        I knew a woman on FB who thought that “thumbs upping” her comments was somehow offensive.

        Online texting/interactions do cause a lot of misunderstanding especially when you are talking to someone who is not very online.

        My friend wasn’t that simple though, she kept insisting that she didn’t care if I texted or not. Now that I think about it, I am not very sure to text her back.

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      For the whole paragraph the pronoun in use is 'them ’ except for the end, it is ‘she’. Can I assume her sex is female and her gender is something different?

      Also you sound like a caring and persistent person. It is valuable to have a friend like this.

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    I canceled on the biweekly DnD session because it was scheduled for Halloween and I had plans. Told him a little last minute (day before when I realized).

    Dude torpedoed our 10 year friendship over that.

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      Agree with other responder. End of October was… Stressful. Way more for some than others. This might be one of those situations where trying an “Are you OK?” would be all that’s needed to start mending.

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      Was that this year? Halloween wasn’t too long ago, maybe he was in a bad mood/unstable situation. You may recover if he reconsiders, it feels a bit extreme to burn a decade old bridge just because of that

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        Not really? It was his first time DMing. He was doing a homebrew story. Actually Foundry, not DnD. It was my first time playing and I was really struggling with it. I wasn’t a fan of where the party was taking it and each session was basically wandering aimlessly through a cave and repeating my only attack (sling a rock) at whatever monsters we found. I let him know that I wasn’t enjoying it and there wasn’t a lot for my character to do and he just linked me to the rules website.

        I asked for advice on Lemmy, and they suggested I ask for like a 15 minute out of character period at the start of next session to express what our goals were in the game. That was scheduled for the session that I ultimately bailed on.

        I got a long string of texts the next morning about how I don’t respect him and never respected him and a lot of other shit. I dunno.

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          It seems that in the past he felt bad about something you did to him, he give you another chance and you did the thing about cancelling at the last moment. So the real issue was the previous one, nor the latter (the one you said at the beginning)

          Sorry for my english.