People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life

Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.

  • deegeese@sopuli.xyz
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    12 days ago

    “First is best”

    To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.

    Save your indecision for stuff that matters.

  • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    You can’t fully trust anyone, not your parents, siblings, extended family, spouse, best friend forever, no one. Don’t count on anyone for anything and accept that the only person in your life who has your best interests at heart is you.

  • m-p{3}@lemmy.ca
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    11 days ago
    • Knowledge is meant to be shared, not hoarded.
    • The act of kindness is free, but its impact is priceless.
    • Discipline matters, but so does self-care.
  • hactar42@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    Don’t make excuses. If you fucked up admit it and make a plan to prevent it from happening in the future. Excuses themselves do nothing to help a situation.

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    12 days ago

    Try to live a happy life while impinging on others as little as possible. Pretty much the exact opposite of right-wingers.

  • Rottcodd@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    I have no more right to interfere in someone else’s life than they have to interfere in mine.

    Avoid people who don’t share that view.

    • underwire212@lemm.ee
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      12 days ago

      Also, if you’re not fucking up occasionally, then you’re probably not pushing yourself hard enough

      • cheese_greater@lemmy.worldOP
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        12 days ago

        I find I easily forgive myself if I immediately recognize the fuckup and have a plan started or in the works to prevent it happening again.

        Kind of a “fool me once: shame on this. fool me twice: shame on me” alto its infinitey recursive so I would simply start back at 1

        If I learn a lesson from it, its money in the experience bank and I trust myself to make it right and mitigate it as best as is possible

        It helps with inverse thinking cuz now you know one of the paths or constituents of failure in whatever the endeavor and you have the opportunity to get closer to success next time

  • thesohoriots@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    “First thing you learn is that you always gotta wait.” Taken from the Velvet Underground about buying drugs, but I think it’s pretty applicable to everything.

  • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    Work on diagnosing and fixing the problem first, worry about appointing blame later (if at all).

    • daddy32@lemmy.world
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      12 days ago

      This one is very important. This is one of those helpful rules I’ve actually learned in business environment first before I started applying it in personal life.

    • underwire212@lemm.ee
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      12 days ago

      There exists a problem. Problem requires a solution. Solution requires diagnosing problem and using reasoning to solve craft solution.

      Assigning blame (root cause analysis) can wait. First, fix problem. Then analyze how/why problem happened and implement corrective and preventative actions.

      A company I used to work for actually had a policy of never to assign root cause as “Human error”. Individuals actually never got blamed. Instead, it was perhaps that there wasn’t enough training, or certain procedures were lacking which could’ve prevented the problem, etc.

      One time someone had accidentally broke an $8 million dollar piece of equipment. They were never fired, or reprimanded at all. Instead, the investigation assigned root cause to lack of adequate safety procedures, or something like that. Therefore actions are taken to help prevent recurrence instead of just saying “They did it! Fire them!!”

      They were a great company to work for because of this.

  • tissek@sopuli.xyz
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    12 days ago

    Don’t have your mouth write checks your ass can’t cover

    Or

    Under promise while over deliver