People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life

Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.

  • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    You can’t fully trust anyone, not your parents, siblings, extended family, spouse, best friend forever, no one. Don’t count on anyone for anything and accept that the only person in your life who has your best interests at heart is you.

  • deegeese@sopuli.xyz
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    6 months ago

    “First is best”

    To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.

    Save your indecision for stuff that matters.

  • jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    6 months ago

    Don’t do anything you’re going to have to lie about. If you do, don’t lie about it. If you do, make it right as soon as possible.

    This is something I learned from experience. I have plenty of problems in my life but a heavy conscience isn’t one of them.

  • KrakBamKrak@lemm.ee
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    6 months ago

    And even without reprimanded - I can damn well guarantee that person will EVER make that same mistake.

    Not everything requires a paper-trail.

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    6 months ago

    Try to live a happy life while impinging on others as little as possible. Pretty much the exact opposite of right-wingers.

  • nickiwest@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    The way that someone responds to you is a reflection of them, not of you. If someone in your life is wildly inconsistent, all you can do is make sure that you are maintaining consistency yourself.

    I’ve worked with a number of people who acted like we were besties one day and then gave me the cold shoulder for weeks. I spent too many years wondering what was wrong with me before I finally figured out that their mood swings had nothing to do with me.

  • hactar42@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    Don’t make excuses. If you fucked up admit it and make a plan to prevent it from happening in the future. Excuses themselves do nothing to help a situation.

  • m-p{3}@lemmy.ca
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    6 months ago
    • Knowledge is meant to be shared, not hoarded.
    • The act of kindness is free, but its impact is priceless.
    • Discipline matters, but so does self-care.
  • Rottcodd@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I have no more right to interfere in someone else’s life than they have to interfere in mine.

    Avoid people who don’t share that view.

      • cheese_greater@lemmy.worldOP
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        6 months ago

        I find I easily forgive myself if I immediately recognize the fuckup and have a plan started or in the works to prevent it happening again.

        Kind of a “fool me once: shame on this. fool me twice: shame on me” alto its infinitey recursive so I would simply start back at 1

        If I learn a lesson from it, its money in the experience bank and I trust myself to make it right and mitigate it as best as is possible

        It helps with inverse thinking cuz now you know one of the paths or constituents of failure in whatever the endeavor and you have the opportunity to get closer to success next time

    • underwire212@lemm.ee
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      6 months ago

      Also, if you’re not fucking up occasionally, then you’re probably not pushing yourself hard enough