One that comes to mind for me: “Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?
“Happy Friday!”
You can fuck right off with your happy Friday. Office people, sheesh.
Sounds like somebody’s got a case of the Mondays
No. No, man. Shit, no, man. I believe you’d get your ass kicked sayin’ something like that, man.
When you forget what you were about to say:
“Must not have been important”
How in the ever-living fuck could anybody come to that conclusion?
I meean, if it was really important, it’s very unlikely you would forget it. We use that saying a ton here
I’d only ever say it while referring to myself, and when I do it’s not of a consolation to myself or maybe as a way to tell the other person to not feel sorry about distracting me and making me forget. Is that the same way you interpret it?
Every single time that’s happened to me and I later remembered what it was, it wasn’t important.
Not important to them, very important to you.
"just sayin’ "
Yes. Yes you did. You just said.
“honestly…”
Wait, you weren’t being honest before now? I catch myself saying this and it ignites that inner cringe.
I use “honestly” or “to be honest” myself sometimes.
It’s a simple way to convey “I’m going to give you a risky or unpopular opinion. Can be unpopular with you personally, or for public in general. But either way I value the honesty of sharing that opinion over the unpopularity it will cause”
I can see why you would hate it. it wouldn’t be unusual for people to share bigoted/sexist/violent opinions on subjects they should keep to themselves.
Any phrase that begins with “no offense but”. Just say it, don’t add that phrase, it makes any statement look more offensive.
"No pain, no gain. "
As someone who’s been running for over 30 years and working ou for 20, if there is pain, there is injury. When there is injury, you take a break and regress. People may say that muscle pain or stiff muscles are a sign of a good workout, not an injury. However, even with those your risk of injury is much higher, and you’ll eventually hurt yourself. “No pain” should be one of the outcomes of smart exercise, not an admonishment for not working hard enough.
life is beautiful.
no, it’s not. it’s an ugly, parasitic process that accelerates resource consumption merely for its own pointless existence. the heat death of the universe will come all that faster only because of the presence of life.
and, for sure, humankind is the pinnacle of this selfish and greedy outcome of biological evolution.
“Beauty” is a concept invented by the human brain, not some intrinsic truth. So the statement can be true, although it very often is not.
That’s fair.
Life is not beatiful, but what we make of it can be
Life is beautiful. That it even managed to exist, let alone evolve is fascinating, wonderous, fantastical. That certain species mucked things up isn’t life’s fault.
Beautiful.
Perhaps, but it seems life is but an insignificant speck of energy waste in the universe
And to what would not having life accomplish? What is the point of not having life? How is there beauty in the lack of life when only things that have life even have a concept of beauty? Your viewpoint requires you to believe in some type of inherent value that doesn’t exist.
How is there beauty in the lack of life
i never said that there’s beauty in the lack of life. i said that there’s no beauty in life.
these are two very different statements.
“Well it can’t get any worse” And “Well, you gotta do something”
The first is almost always dead wrong. Trust me, you can make anything worse.
As for the second, it’s shockingly coming that in a given scenario, the best action is to not do anything different at all. It may seem like things are bad and something has to change, but changing your strategy at this point can still definitely make things worse. Sometimes inaction is the correct action.
Whatever doesn’t kill you only prolongs the inevitable!
“it is what it is”
If it weren’t what it is, well, it wouldn’t be anything at all, would it?
Yea as the other commenter said, the idea behind this saying is that ypu shouldn’t malinger in the “oh no I really wish I had done xyz!”. Oh well, it is what it is, no changing the present, only the future.
This one is about accepting things for what they are rather than wasting energy wishing they were different.
“It is what it is.”
“Is it?”
“IS IT!?”
“If you can’t take me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
“Idle hands make the devils workshop.”
The top one reminds me of “I can be your best friend, or your worst enemy.” So you’re a petty asshole, got it.
“If you can’t take me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
I always take that as “l am a garbage person who will abuse you.” It is a MASSIVE red flag.
Or it’s something you tell the abuser, when thy dismiss your emotions.
“Practice makes perfect.”
Let me tell you about my 7th grade all county band audition, where I showed up and skillfully played 40 measures of not what the sheet music said because I misread it and practiced what I misread.
“Practice” needs some kind of mechanism for feedback and correction, such as a coach or instructor.
“Oftentimes”
Damn, why that?
it’s usually just replacing “often”.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results,” It’s like nails on a chalkboard every time I hear it. There is a very limited context where it may be applicable, but mostly it’s used to give up trying or mock someone for failing a task. Have you never gotten better at something over time? Learned an instrument? Played a hard video game? Learned to ride a bike? It stops problem solving dead and kills motivation making it less than useless. Oh and its misattributed to Einstein like every other shitty quote
“It’s human nature” used to describe something horrific like war or rape.
It’s not. Human nature is as when we were children, playing with friends and loving each other.
Militaries have to condition humans to do violence to each other and to follow orders from “superiors”. Half of school is quashing kids’ creativity and making them follow arbitrary rules because “the adults” say so.
“lets agree to disagree”
how about fuck you, one of us is wrong and I want to know which one of us that is!
Hmmm, while I see your point on the phrase, my friend group and I only ever use it on subjective things. Like orange juice or chocolate milk being better, for example. If we’re both arguing (in a fun way) and have no good points to change the other’s mind, then we agree to disagree. Haha
Most people don’t care about what’s true, something that took me forever to realize. Encountering humanity under the assumption that everyone cares about the truth (or any aspect of empirical and normative reality) is bound to be suuuper confusing until you figure things out. People are literally animals (we forget that), and animals are just trying to survive. Some of them are cute or loving. Not all of them are particularly “good,” and even fewer are willing to sacrifice creature comforts in pursuit of some abstract virtues. That’s why Trump gets any votes.
This is also an autistic thing of being more logical in reasoning.
I only got diagnosed at age 30, and had some bad relationships due to me wanting truth and them feeling personally attacked by my questions.
Could be why it took you some time to realise, as most neurotypical people think in past experience for reasoning. https://psychcentral.com/autism/why-people-with-autism-are-more-logical#autism-and-logical-thinking
I find it really useful to shut down discussions where no one is budging and are just overall a big waste of time. As an example, if I’ve been trying to convince someone that the earth is round for 10 minutes and they clearly don’t have any interest in changing their view, I’ll just spare me the trouble and say it. If they still refuse to let it go, I start blindly agreeing with them, that usually does the trick.
but there is just no right or wrong answer to every question… sometimes it’s just about opinion.
sometimes these questions are trivial (which color of tie should I wear with this shirt) and sometimes they are literally life and death questions (should death penalty be legal)… and there will always be people with opposing opinions on them. “agreeing to disagree” is literally the best possible thing they can do to live in the same society.
