Find someone you can share the good and the bad. Someone who won’t judge you for how things turned out. Someone who will just listen and appreciate you being there. Be that person to them as well.
It doesn’t have to be a partner. It may or may not be your parents. But find that person. And never let them go. You may not talk for years even. But always remember them.
I like everything except that last part. DO MAINTENANCE ON YOUR RELATIONSHIPS PEOPLE. Not enough people maintain relationships
Don’t grow up super religious and become a conservative operative on Capitol Hill for 7 years. Just trust me, it’s not as good as it sounds.
I think a lot of people might be interested in your story right now.
Don’t date someone through high school into college. You are young, you don’t know yourself, and you will change a lot. Also, there’s thousands of new people to meet in college and, if you’re already taken, you won’t know where a conversation after class could take you. Be free and experience life.
I can’t really speak to this personally except that from what I’ve observed in friends it seems fine for people to just end up even marrying their high school partner. Not my thing, but they seem as happy and stable as anyone else.
Either way I would highly recommend staying at least friendly with old friends / intimate partners. They provide invaluable insights later in your life.
No one can call you on your shit better than someone who’s had their fingers up your ass.
Yeah, we are still good friends. But all the opportunities we both missed because we thought we were forever is kind of disappointing. And you don’t get those college days again.
And for the downvoters - I’m not saying don’t marry your high school sweetheart but, if it’s meant to be, then find your way back to them and at least you know and it’s not just default mode.
I think people romanticise (fetishise?) relationships in university/college. People are only marginally more mature than they were in high school. I’m sure dating as an adult sucks but a relationship is a relationship regardless of how you meet each other.
Damn that last sentence made me laugh.
Brush teeth 3x day, floss 2x day, checkup 2x year
It really helps later. Like life altering
Yep. Look after your teeth folks.
You only have to brush x2 daily and floss once daily for the teeth you want to keep lol
Don’t push too hard to poop. Just try again later or take something to help it out.
OR WHAT!?
Or you get hemorrhoids to contend with the rest of your life or have a painful procedure to fix it.
Look up prolapse if you’re brave.
If you’re being hailed as a hero in the US and you aren’t a politician…
Run. Do not walk away, run. Society is absolving itself of caring for you after the inevitable sacrifice of your health and/or sanity.
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You can offer help, but do not take action until the person you are helping has actually asked. This is of course talking about “real help” not helping someone pick up a book they dropped.
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It takes a modicum of selfishness to live a healthy life.
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You CANNOT fool yourself, the sooner you work within your reality the better it will be for you and everyone around you
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If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.
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honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy
Hey you’re like seven steps ahead of me.
I only entered the phase of hating society instead of myself when I was like twenty-three.
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You could also be autistic and have the same experience like me or even both
Me too actually
Or you could just be comparing yourself to the unreasonably high standards set by archaic cultural norms.
Basically if you’re a teenager and think you’re failing at life: No, you aren’t, just give yourself some more time to figure things out.
Isn’t ‘failing at life’ the normal teenage feeling? It sucks, but it will pass.
Exactly, just because your parents or grandparents were married and had good jobs at 18 and bought a house with cash at 20 while having their 3rd child. That’s not normal anymore. Do your best with what you have, and repeat to yourself “I’m not responsible for the economy. Things don’t work the same way they did 20 or 40 years ago.”
Also works
Important note: just because at some point you felt attraction to people of opposite sex, doesn’t automatically disqualify you from LGBTQ
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The opposite is also true. Just relax and like who you like. Sexuality is a spectrum. Just don’t worry about it and didn’t stress about who you’re attracted to.
Citation on that? I’m sure it’s possible, but weirdly-specific percentages with no citation make me suspicious.
In in my, it was just a lot of factors of upbringing and had really weird ideals and probably a dash of neurodivergence that combined to give me this feeling. Getting out of the environment I was in, getting some mental help, etc. solved that for me.
The percentage is just a quirky way of saying it’s a high chance, dw about it.
Getting wasted in bars and clubs is not how one finds quality life partners.
Similarly, if no one is into you, that might be because the core of your identity is feeling desperately lonely while getting drunk in bars and clubs.
There’s a saying that can come across kind of gross, but I would be inclined to vouch for, in broad terms: “Don’t look for a bride in a brothel.”
Also, “people don’t change.”
Also, “history repeats itself.”
Just be careful dating (“former?”) prostitutes, guys, that’s all I’m saying.
weight loss is great but as you get older building muscle and strength is just as important - especially if you are female.
If you’re going to “chase your dreams,” it might be a good idea to first figure out whether they actually really are yours.
I’m sick of following my dreams, man. I’m just going to ask where they’re goin’ and hook up with em later.
I’m just going to ask where they’re goin’ and hook up with em later.
This is the way.
Now I wonder if I even have dreams… Damn
Also research the downside first. Some “dream jobs” are marketed that way for a reason.
Get a dashcam. It’s worth your whole car and everything in it.
Tell people in your life what they mean to you and that you love them.
Often and always, you never know how much time you have together.Call your mom, dad, your grandparents, spend time with your kids, with your nieces and nephew. Tell them all, that you are proud of them or grateful for them and that you love them.
We always think we have all the time in the world to spend with family and people we love. But if one of their lives is cut short, you might regret it forever!
Some people can’t do that because their parents will use that against them. They love their parents but need to maintain a certain emotional distance so they don’t leverage that for emotional blackmail.
Of course who you tell is not universally the same. Just tell the people that are important to you. It doesn’t matter if that is your biological family or your chosen one.
Also, after breaking with my parents, and telling my kids I love them, I realized how very rare it was for my father to tell me he loves me. So, tell people what they mean to you and that you love them because it might not seem like much at the moment, but it means a lot in the long run.
Don’t get fat. It is so hard to lose weight once you get over 40 years of age because you are fighting a reduced metabolism.
Your metabolism basically remains the same across all of adulthood.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/surprising-findings-about-metabolism-and-age-202110082613
Investing even relatively small amounts of money monthly or weekly into an indexed mutual fund or similar at a young age should result in substantial growth and returns over 30 years or so.
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into an indexed mutual fund or similar
Financially speaking, yes, absolutely. It’s “easy” and rather low risk. Yet… being on Lemmy I assume a lot of people reading this advice do care both about technology and privacy. Such funds often support, rationally, “winners” which right now would include e.g Meta, Microsoft, Google, etc. They could also include big banks with questionable practices, e.g HSBC, or “energy” company that basically stick to oil. This kind of companies might be at odd with what people want to support. I would thus suggest to check “how the sausage is made” by understanding which stocks are actually part of the fund.
Maybe a company making greener solutions like electric cars could be a safer bet?
looks at tesla stock
Oh shit
If it weren’t for Musk, yeah, Tesla would be a great bet. Unfortunately, he’s made everything he touches radioactive, and a company that should be selling huge numbers are seeing sales cool because people don’t want to buy a product sold by Musk.
Do not allow humans to pick your stocks. I recommend ETF index funds as opposed to Mutual funds. Mutual funds, or any fund that is controlled by humans, could morph into something else, i.e., whatever gets them the highest return. In an extreme example, you could buy a Green mutual fund only to find out later that it shifted a lot of its investments to fossil fuel companies. Index Funds pick a sector and follow it brainlessly. No broker or manager f#ckery.
Yeah, I can’t argue with that. I try to avoid funds that have significant investment in weapons manufacturers. If a person’s needs require a minimum level social and/or environmental awareness, there are tools in the Fidelity research system that show that kind of thing. This may be limited to specific stocks and not funds though. I can only speak about Fidelity since that is my only point of experience.
