My age says I’m an adult but sometimes I think other people know more about being an adult than me.
Just pretend you know what you’re doing. Eventually you’ll forget you’re pretending.
I often think of this SMBC comic. It left a deep mark for me and it came out over 13 years ago.
https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/2012-06-24
We are all faking it, we don’t have a clue what we are doing. Some are aware of it, some are not.
I’m almost 30 and just starting to feel like a kid.
I’ve had to be an adult since I was 10 but getting sober and having my first kid really brought me back to life. We play with a hotwheels track that we call car thing, we wrestle everyday, we have jam sessions where we switch instruments so for half of it I’m playing a tiny piano. When I buy clothes I let him help me pick stuff out and most of it’s from thrift stores so my outfits have gotten very funky.
He also makes doing adult things more fun, we do everything together so he helps me with house work. There’s the shark vacuum, the carpet cleaner turns the floor into lava, laundry basketball, we cook dinner together. My favorite is making pizza dough with him, it takes longer to clean up than it does to make the pizza but it’s a blast.
I don’t know how to be an adult, but I know how to be a person.
For me it was after both of my parents had passed away. There’s something about losing the people who could still see and treat you as their child, no matter how old you had become, that changes things. I do still feel like I’m waiting to be a grow up sometimes. My great grandfather lived to 101, and still often felt that way. But once the “adults” who raised you are gone, you find yourself out in the open and may have to admit that you’re the adult now.
I just realized the other day that one sure fire mark of adulthood is buying a vacuum. Nobody makes you buy a vacuum and you’re not going to die without one. Nobody really wants to buy a vacuum. It’s just something you have to do at some point. It’s a willful decision to spend your hard earned money on something that’s essentially a chore. Because that’s what a responsible adult does.
damnit I’ve bought exactly one vacuum (well, not counting wet/dry vacs and battery handheld vacs) in my life. and I don’t even have it anymore, I traded it for a different vacuum
other than that, I’ve been using (and still do!) a crappy one that my grandpa gave me over a decade ago
I remember the Dyson my mom gifted me as a housewarming present died (sheetrock dust is deadly to vacuums motors, it’s finer particles than I realized. ) And I went researching vacuums and found what the vacuum repair guys on Reddit thought about best vacuums. I felt so savvy buying the one I chose in the end. Yay adulting!
When I started saying “I can’t do that, I’m an important guy with shit to lose” I became an adult.
I started feeling like an adult at about age 30. But 20 years later I still don’t feel that different than I did in my 20s.
I know I’m mature. I know I’m put into positions of responsibility. I still feel like a teenager.
I have kids myself, but I don’t feel ashamed of letting them know that I don’t always have the answers or that sometimes I like to jump the trampoline for fun.
Adults who seem like they know everything and act responsible all the time actually seem “juvenile” in my opinion.
They don’t really get it, you know? Like they got to that level of life by following expectations and then stopped developing past that and just keep trotting along. Some people get stuck there while others “soften up” when they get grandchildren and less responsibility or whatever.
People mature in different paces, but the whole “being grown up” is definitely just an optional phase.
Im not quite there yet, but literally everyone feels this. You know what you know and you don’t know what you don’t know. Being an adult is figuring out how to distinguish between the two. If you’re able to recognize that something isn’t in your breadth of knowledge and you’re able to consult with someone else who is more educated on the subject matter OR you’re able to self-educate before applying your ignorance, then that makes you an adult in my eyes. Or at least is a large part of the bigger picture.
Yes, definitely
I worked for a guy in his 90s who felt this way.
Adults are just large children. Accept this and move on. You will never understand anything, really. Those that seem to are just pretending.
There’s a reason terms like “man child” exist. And sayings like “boys never grow up”. 😂
When I was a kid, my family made fun of my uncle pretty often with the expression “the only difference between men and boys is the price of their toys”. I’m in my 40s now and holy shit were they right…
I used to genuinely worry as an 8 year old that I’d get older and just lose all sense of fun and silliness.
Turns out in my early 40s I’m just that very same 8 year old but I know a few more things and like boobs more than I used to.
