Basically the sister question of that other post here…
I tried to add my frustration there, but i think it’s suited here more. I’m a terrible candidate with no money, properties and almost zero social skills and that will never change. Even my own family thinks I don’t act like a human being. No wonder I’m eternally alone.
Again?
No way. I see all sorts of guys paired up with women. All the time. I think your problem is YOU don’t like you, fix that first. Not just whine about what you don’t like about you (most of which is fixable, by guess who? You.). You seem to be caught in a loop of bullshit beliefs and trying so hard to get others to agree with them, when they are simply wrong.
Liking yourself isn’t a requirement to get someone. My problems aren’t fixable.
Your listed problems are fixable:
No money? Job.
No property? Job.
No people skills? Job.
I hope you understand now why I can’t save myself and just don’t try to attack me personally.
Not attacking. Not agreeing is not attacking. I wholeheartedly disagree. Nothing you have said here is unchangeable, and if you don’t want to change it, you must be getting some pleasure out of staying as you are.
I don’t, trust me. I wish I was born somewhere else and lived another life, but that’s not how the world works.
I had a job, didn’t fixed shit, if anything made me more miserable plus having a body in pain. And I’m low class so I’ll not go beyond that. I’m sure that if I had another job it wouldn’t fix my life right now either.
This one’s fixable lol, and I’d argue likeing yourself is the first requirement, if any. (
getbe with)That’s not true at all, my father never loved himself or believed in all the modern stuff about mental weakness, stone faced and scary dude yet managed to marry my mother for over a decade.
You would know better than I do. Everything I see here is internal, though—an amalgamation of the grievances some men might express online. If these issues are legitimate, you should seriously consider the advice you come across. If it helps you at all, then keep posting
Edit: I didn’t really give it much thought because I found it hard to believe that anyone could take these seriously. However, all you really need is confidence, which to me means loving yourself.
Well is not possible for me.
A lot of people on here have already admitted defeat or something. It’s honestly depressing. I forced myself out of my house, my heart pounding with anxiety each time for a short walk. But every time it got easier. Then I tasked myself with simply buying something in a shop. Just a small snack. It was terrifying at first, but it got easier. Then it was taking a bus into a city. I’d just wander around and not do anything but look at buildings, talk to nobody. Then I tried shopping. Then I tried finding events and observing them, sitting at the back and watching church services, etc. People would approach me to talk to me. I’d be terrified, but each time it happened it would get easier. I forced myself into a course and was terrified, I wouldn’t even leave the classroom. But then as each week passed I was able to go ten metres down the corridor to use the toilet. Eventually in a few years time I was able to go with classmates to a cafeteria. Then I was able to do a work placement and get a job.
It was painful. I envy people who can do something like this easily first try. But I do not regret it one bit.
“Touch grass” is a common snide remark. But I say literally, touch grass, be proud of yourself for it, and keep setting yourself little quests each time. It’ll work wonders.
Oh, and I did meet a girl, too. So that also counts for something 🤣
I’ve touched grass for almost 20 years, eating alone, walking alone, drinking alone, going to the movie theater, going to the arcade alone. IT DOESN’T WORK. I’m not going to do it anymore… That lonely walk back home when you realize you wasted your time destroys you, makes me wanna kill myself. I rather stay in my room safe.
If you aren’t like me you wouldn’t understand and I don’t expect you would understand, that’s ok. But I find insulting that you think people give up for no reason.
Did you ever talk to anyone
To the waiter and people there doing their job.
What did you talk to people about to suck the life out of them?
I didn’t. I just don’t talk I have “empty” as a talking argument. Because nothing happens with me and I’m not a generic functional adult.