Everyone has one. lets try to recognize and be grateful of what we have!
Eventually I get to die and my suffering will end.
I’m a white man living in the UK that’s about as close to life on easy mode as you can get. I learned quite young to not care about what other people thought of me which has been very useful.
Truly. I think many does not realize the advantages of being a white guy in a 1st world coutry. This advantage is especially useful when traveling abroad.
White + was lucky to get a good job early on + parents had enough capital in their home to guarantor for my home loan at 28.
White, male privilege and loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed. Seriously, life has been almost on peaceful mode, definitely easy mode.
loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed.
This is the component that I was missing. I have the white male privilege, but I’ve always had split parents and 2 stepfathers that were always dicks. I had to move out at 18. My friend had the exact opposite situation where he could stay at home as long as he needed to and he spent his time studying towards a computer science degree. I always had to worry about moving and paying rent so I never pursued anything “difficult” or time consuming as I never knew when I’d have to move again so I’m now just a worthless, single, factory worker schmuck living in someone’s garage and my friend is happily married working from home making major money from a well known major corporation.
We couldn’t possibly have more different outcomes unless our skin color were also different.
I’m sorry you got a rough rub, man. I’m heading in a similar direction (moved out at 17, now late 20s working a dead end job to barely afford bills and halfway trying to go to school) and yeah, shits depressing, especially when you have friends that had similar interests and skills as you that were able to make something out of them (my friend who’s floor I slept on the last year of highschool is now a literal rocket scientist).
Just remember, we’re never truly worthless! So long as we keep clocking in every day, we have immense value to our employers. And what more could a person ask for.
Pro: I never get seasick, no matter how rough it gets. Con: Terrified of heights and flying.
My mom is absolutely terrified of heights, to the point where she can’t stand on a chair without someone holding it. On tables isn’t happening. Ever.
But she’s perfectly fine with flying, and does so at least a couple of times per year. I even offered to take her flying in a very small aircraft a while back, and she had no problem with the idea.
Everything higher than the second floor of a building is a big nope to me. My family made me go on holidays via airplane back when I was a wee child and I kept screaming for the entire duration of both flights. They never tried that shite ever again. I mean, what did they expect, really, knowing damn well about my severe anxiety issues? Even today I’d never set foot on any kind of aircraft, even with knockout medication and a million Dollars in return. Just no. I do not belong in the sky. I need solid ground or water under my feet. Interestingly enough it’s cool for me to go hiking in the mountains. The mountains are solid and therefore they are my friends. If I fall down, that’s on me then.
I never felt the need to compare myself to others. aka, I’m competing with no one but myself.
I consider that a huge advantage, but who knows maybe I’m wrong.
Def is a huge advantage! Once you stop caring about others you can properly improve your self. A lot of people never does.
Autism ?
Interesting. How do you think thats your advantage?
I’m HFA, so sometimes lack of empathy, sometimes better understanding of things in general, a little bit like “the good doctor”, can be rather strange to neurotypical, but it often does the job
White, male privilege.
Nah, if you aren’t a magat, they revoke your privilage anyways.
If cops know you support any ideology left of Biden, they will shoot you too. We’re in this together.
Yeah, I guess left-leaning white males are just as underprivileged and oppressed as people of color and women. We should rename it to “conservative white male privilege.”
I know you’re joking, but queer white men exist, and they also face oppression.
It’s almost like the system that keeps us all oppressed actually doesn’t give a shit about these marginal differences, and just wants to keep us focused on identity politics and fracturing ourselves.
Did you ever use it?
It’s not something you actively use, it is just “there.”
For example: I applied to a job as a refrigeration technician and during the interview the guy actually fucking said “it’s really hard to get clean cut white guys to apply. I don’t want some Dominican (literally referring to their Dominican maintenance guy) walking into a store with our logos on.”
I had finished a tech school with some other black guys that I know also applied, I got the job and they didn’t. :/
I bet that interviewer cheers like crazy when a Dominican player hits a home run for their favorite team, LOL.
Been there, wasn’t that great.
Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can’t discount how powerful this one is, now that I’m “woke” to it.
Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.
Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.
As a queer person, it feels even weirder. Like I’m a spy and my cover could be blown at any moment.
Even as a straight I kinda feel that way sometimes, all theses assholes keep telling on themselves to me. It’s also depressing how many of them there are
I feel that. I’ve got a very serious redneck thing going on. I hunt, fish, dress like I just got off work at the ranch (that’s true sometimes), and raise a lot of hell. I know why they think I’m one of them. It’s depressing some days because it’s almost like people can’t wait to say fucked up shit as soon as they meet me.
Never underestimate the power of a white man saying “that’s some fucked up shit bro” to another white man
I use that power. I say things ranging from “Dude, that’s not ok” to “Are you fucking stupid or something?” if I’m looking to get their attention.
I’ve also pulled out “You know my cousin is black, right?” (true statement) and “That’s my sister” (untrue statement). When you make it personal they get real uncomfortable and start apologizing.
The number of times I’ve been “accused” of being gay just because I don’t have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with “so what if I am gay” which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.
Let them believe I’m gay if they want, it’s none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.
I also like to act like I have no clue what the punchline of the racist\sexist\homophobic\hateful joke they are making is, having them explain it out loud gets em really awkward
Yes! Weaponized naivety is a powerful tool.
Welcome to being “high functioning” autistic, which is basically an undercover assignment from birth where if you slip up suddenly you have enemies.
Nobody, literally zero people, will acknowledge treating autistic people differently but holy shit.
I’ve never felt like someone might kill me if they learn I am on the spectrum. I have felt that way if they found out I fuck dudes.
Actively kill me? No. But take away my ability to earn money? Yes. Fortunately our society has safety nets for people who are expunged from groups, so in our civilization it’s not killing to kick someone out of the group.
That’s nothing compared to good looks. Opens literally all doors in life. Secret cheat code.
I hate it when you see those images on other SM of poor white people and some knuckle dragger says “I see no white privilege here”.
Why do you hate that?
Because white privilege doesn’t mean you were born rich, it means you have to work harder for the same or less.
College educated parents. Education and early career is so much easier to navigate with parents who know the ropes and have a network.
a lot of my peers underestimate how much their parents can help them in their career.
I’m easily satisfied with life. I have a pretty good job and make pretty good money, good friends, and I have a beautiful wife, and that’s all I need. I’m not the ambitious type who needs to keep making more and more money. I don’t need the fanciest car or designer clothes. I don’t want to be famous, and I don’t have anything to prove to strangers. That makes it much easier to be happy, I think.
Wow, something that I would never say but good on you! A simple life is in no way a wrong life to lead
I’ve had lots of problems in life (late diagnosed neurodiversity), walked out of jobs, changed careers, gone back to uni three times, and had a series of mental breakdowns. But despite all that, because I had a caring family, I knew that the worst that could happen is I’d have to move back in with my parents, which might be. A bit humiliating but would be easy, comfortable and safe.
This security allowed me to spend two decades fucking up until I got the right diagnosis, medication and a satisfying professional career. I’m extremely conscious that if I’d not had love and support I’d have ended up an unemployed alcoholic, or dead. I have so much respect for people fighting through life on hard mode, but I’m also so glad I happened to get the lucky draw.
Similarly, being a normal looking white guy is an amazing superpower. Although “invisible disabilities” absolutely have their own challenges, the fact that my problems aren’t easily spotted means that despite being repeatedly terrible at a wide variety of jobs, and a general screw up, I have gotten every job I’ve interviewed for, often massively beyond my actual skills and expertise. And it’s not just the external appearance, the confidence I grew up with from being white, male, straight passing, and middle class, has meant that people just believe stuff when I say it, and take me seriously even if I don’t really know much about whatever we’re discussing.
Obviously there’s some small amount of individual traits and whole lot of luck (you can still lose a game in easy mode, and sadly I know folks who have) but it so obvious I’m playing with a stacked deck compared with most of the world, that it boggles my mind that people try and deny their ‘privilege’.
A lot of people saying white + male, I’m not white but I’m light skinned in a country where colourism is a social plague, random people literally call me “whitey” and “blondy” despite me literally having a black mother, when I tell them I’m not white they reply “yes, you are”, and I’m like “OK, mfer, apparently you know better than me to what ethnic group I belong”. Can’t say I haven’t benefited from it, the police has almost never given me shit (they did once to be exact). I’m also a heterosexual cis man, and even tho I was born and raised in the poorest district of a big city my father always told me to cultivate my intellect, so I learned multiple languages (English being one of those), went to community college, taught myself software development, etc. I didn’t have the biggest head start in life, but compared to my friends in the hood, and women and immigrants across the whole country I simply cannot complain.
Huge dick.
You should try being nicer.
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Being born in our times.
My dad was a union electrician. His medical benefits literally saved my life. You’ve probably heard how expensive it is to treat type 1 diabetes, well most everything I needed was covered by his benefits, and I did have to deal with a copay at the beginning of the year, but I didn’t have anything denied.
Good to hear!
