Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I’m struggling to cope. What are the ways you’ve dealt with heartbreak in the past?
I’ve felt the hate rise up in me…
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves…
It sucks big time for a while, there’s no set time for how long. What I can tell you is once some of that fog has cleared and you can focus on yourself, you can learn to fall in love with yourself again. At least for me, I realized I had my positive emotions tied so much into my old relationship that I didn’t know how to cope without that relationship there. We definitely had some co-depency issues that were extremely unhealthy, and without all that to distract me, I could finally start working on myself and figuring out who I am. What I want and don’t want. It’s a long road but if you can focus on self care and improvement, it will make things much easier and more fulfilling in the long run.
Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions. Take care of yourself. Eat well and stay hydrated, do whatever exercise and focus on yourself and your goals. Perhaps travel. Live for you and you will find someone else without looking.
Listen to sad music, focus on hating myself for failure, self harm, drugs and booze.
Lemon Italian Ice helps me feel better when I’m upset about something
Went on a hike and just sat and looked over a lake for some time. I then realized I was extremely happy that I got to know her, but also that she told what she felt. I also think I got proud of myself, I never thought I would meet some one at all but now I knew it was possible
I use the Cave Johnson defense.
Are you suggesting that OP should burn their ex’s house down? With the lemons? That OP should have their engineers invent a combustible lemon that burns their ex’s house down?
I do have access to like 50 engineers, at least one of them would volunteer.
Treating it like being sick (like a cold) helps me. That way I justify taking it slow. It’s something that will pass and it’s totally normal to feel really bad. It will probably be better soon but I need a lot of rest/self-care.
I uh…
I’ve heard getting absolutely railed helps some people…
Yes, OP. Go forth and embrace the sloot you’ve sometimes imagined to be. Free yourself.
Tryna deal with it right now, going back to the bar where I met my ex
Will update in like 2 hrs
It’s been 7 Hours, you ok?
Time is unfortunately the best medicine. Just take it one day at a time. Don’t stay in contact with them. Reach out to your friends and try to fill your time spending time with them.
Main thing is to keep yourself distracted. The ruminating will come, but right now you need to heal. I wasn’t able to clearly reflect on my ex and our relationship for easily over a year or so later.
Go gym
Booze and hookers
Grindr’s been a big help.
Nothing gets you over the last one like getting under the next one. Or two. Possibly five.
The healthiest way I’ve ever dealt with heartbreak and grief is by putting physical energy into something. Building stone walkway, planting a garden, working out, etc.
Being able to focus on something else will help you from becoming physically and emotionally overwhelmed. Peace, understanding and equilibrium will come with time, the immediate aftermath is the time to move and do something so you don’t get consumed by your feelings.
It’s always okay to cry. People I never thought would understand have supported me.
