…ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what’s one you’ve given?
I’m thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that’s just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I’ve been told not to brag, but also because I’m extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.
My bonus one (and I’m not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he’d never once failed to have my back. He’d be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I’d walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he’d take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of “courage isn’t not being scared, it’s being willing to face it.” I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I’m not sure I phrased it well at the time.
Randomly stopped by a random guy as I was walked off the sky train “uhhh excuse me could you be a model for us?”
Hands me a business card etc. I’m nothin special lol. I’m also a dude.
Models come in all shapes and sizes, you don’t have to be Calvin Klein level to get jobs.
Someone told me that I talk like Christian Slater. I wasn’t sure if that was a compliment or not, but Slater is pretty cool, so I said thank you.
I’ve only ever experienced Slater in Broken Arrow and Archer. Both were good fun. One was decidedly better than the other.
I don’t know enough about the man to offer any in depth analysis, but he seems like a very confident person and apparently that’s attractive. Sounds like a good compliment to me!
“You have the charisma of a garbage man’s cologne”
“I like your butt hair.”
I had totally forgotten about it until now, but I got that same compliment.
OK, that’s truely weird.
Is it? Some like it hairy.
When I date, I seem to usually end up dating women who enjoy a hairy man.
A PTA mom once told me that she’d commit murder for my hair.
Considering the giver that is extremely high praise.
I know there have to have been even weirder ones I got over the years, but what stuck with me is when a nurse in a psych ward called me (a patient) being like a “weird, confused professor” as a genuine compliment.
Funny story I actually am a psych nurse and “manic professor” isn’t the most dobbed on the bingo card but its definitely a classic and waaay better than the more common “neo-nazi wife-beater pretending they’re depressed to try and duck their charges.”
My better example was the dude that remembered all the weird and vaguely menacing sexual shit he said to me while manic and was mortified and I was like,“dude I worked with actual psychotic rapists for like two years, you ain’t shit by comparison, trust me” and he was like “oh thank God” but the patient who only heard that last half of my sentence was like “What. The. Fuck.” And it wasn’t like I could explain it without illicitly putting the dude on blast.
Honestly I actually believe he was sorry (most who apologize for the weird sex shit aren’t) for the exact same reason I wasn’t worried about it when he was doing it; he really just hit me as young, dumb, and scared and trying to act bigger than he was. Idk I’ve just got a good feel for that kind of thing and even when he was doing it I was just like “…nice try kid. You are gonna take a nap now tho.” He was actually really relieved for me to be like “no I’ve met actual horrible people you’re not even close LOL”
Oh, I just realised (English not being my first language), I meant “just” a psychiatric clinic, not a criminal psych ward, I guess that’s the confusion part showing on my end, lol.
Thankfully, no manic phases for me, but I met several people over the course of my life that had them (one woman I had a short relationship with used to tell me about the stuff she ended up doing during manic phases in her past, oh boy, it can get both scary and funny, but always interesting). I can fully believe and understand that he would have been genuinely sorry in that moment and appreciative and glad to have heard that from you. Another patient only hearing half of it makes it quite funny, I wonder what he thought in his head about the context with seeing the other guy go “oh thank god”.
When I perform, the best compliments are the people who have to look away. I think that qualifies as weird. Not JD Vance weird though.
I was dancing at a club a couple years ago and someone came up to me and yelled without pause “Are you a boy or a girl you’re gorgeous”
that sounds like a fantastic compliment! your beauty is universal 😮😍
The best I’ve ever received! 🥰
“You have perfect teeth.” I don’t, which is why I find it weird. One is cracked and another is chipped. Two separate women 2 years apart have told me that several times.
Several men have told me I have a great smile. I’m a cis-straight man. One of them was a martial arts instructor that looked like the Rock. He told me this in front of my girlfriend and the whole class. He then pointed it out a few times throughout the weekend-long workshop.
One guy that I had never met came up to me and told me I was a good dancer. He was with his girl.
I’m really confused about the last two.
Beauty doesn’t have to be mainstream perfect. Perhaps your slight teeth imperfections make your smile especially attractive 😉
“You have really hard bones”. By two doctors in different hospitals. At least I took it as a compliment. They may have been complaining.
No way! That’s a mad compliment. Drinkin’ that milk!
Milk doesn’t work, as it seems.
That i had beautiful eye brows. Didn’t see that coming
A girl in college once told me I have “beautiful, horse-like legs”. I did martial arts at the time and my calves and thighs were very well toned, but I was actually a little self-conscious about them, and I had never considered horses to be particularly beautiful so I kind of took it as an insult after walking away from the conversation. It wasn’t until I relayed the story to a colleague a few months later that they told me it was probably a genuine compliment.
A friend of mine said I had a very good hugging-body. I always pictured huggable dudes as big, but I was really lean back then. She said it was because my lanky body somehow automatically fit the shape of her hugs somehow.
“Friend,” huh? I’ve jumped the bones of someone I barely knew for that kind of thing.
She was my GFs bestie. Her BF was my friend. So yes, it was purely platonic.
This guy once told me “Your hair looks small” as a compliment… I still dont’t know what to make of it.
It’s an It’s Always Sunny reference!
After some research, this redditor sums the moment up thus: “Dennis is incapable of complimenting him he doesnt have anything nice to say he doesnt respect Mac he doesnt even like Mac Mac just likes him and this is the foundation of their friendship no one likes Dennis everyone knows hes a scumbag psychopath but Mac admires and worships Dennis and values his opinions over anyone else which is how Dennis thinks everyone should see him he tolerates Mac because he keeps him anchored and from going to far or drowning while still validating Dennis’s chaos and faults so he simply states the first thing he notices about Mac in the moment which is that his hair looks small which it does because he greased it different (obviously making an effort to be noticed by Dennis) When Mac realizes hes just saying what he wants to hear and not being genuine he goes to walk away which is why Dennis does the speach to let him know that he is important not because hes badass or how he looks but because hes always has Dennis’s back”
I still don’t understand how this could apply to this person’s situation.
I feel like I would have to see your hair at the time if you happen to be able to find a picture (or a similar one).
I was in my early 20s and was visiting a friend’s house. His wife had a friend visiting that I’d never met. We were introduced and the first words she said to me were “Do you know your features are wasted on a guy?” and then went on to provide specific details.
We were married a year later. And that was 30 years ago.
Especially eyelashes. It’s bizarre to me that eyelashes are considered feminine when increased eyelash thickness is practically a male secondary sex characteristic. I’ve always wanted write a historical fiction femdom porn where the men dress like birds of paradise just for the principle of the thing.
Guy here: I have had multiple female friends and girlfriends tell me I have beautiful eyelashes that they are jealous of.
I still find it weird… like I understand it is a compliment and that they genuinely wish that they had such natural lashes…
Probably I just have too many core memories about being bullied for it by guys in high school and middle school.
Man what happened to men’s fashion? We went from heels and frills to grey on black and it’s awful.
THAT’S WHAT I’M SAYING.
I’m a switch and the maledom porn is on FIRE with hot Scottish werewolves and vampires flying helicopters. Then femdom has weird goblin men crawling on the floor eating shit. I’m sure that’s the lid for somebody’s extremely bizarre pot but it’s a bizarre disparity.
WHERE ARE THE PERIOD PIECES WITH HEELS AND ELABORATE WIGS???
Whats a switch
like to be a sub and a dom depending on my mood. I find it comes 3-6 month waves for the most part.
How do people like that thing where the lady steps on your balls in high heels? How could that ever feel good?
That’s so insanely true. Women have IMO much more fashion options than men. WR have jeans, sweater and T-Shirt(maybe a tank top).
Blame this mother fucker from the revolutionary times for inventing the suit.
