Haters, assemble!!!
Jokes aside, I want to know what drives you to inform the rest of a website, chat, forum, or thread, that you don’t like/enjoy/want/do something.
I wanna hear what your impetus is.
Is the act cathartic? Do you have a personal, negative experience with the thing you’re complaining about? Is the impulse automatic or do you think about it every time?
The question is only as serious as you make it, but I’m curious all the same.
Probably mostly to warn others. Sometimes to point out information I believe is wrong. Mostly I’m trying to keep the ship on course.
That is (and I’m really not joking) actually an altruistic motivation.
Good people give bad news.
Just realize that crossing the line is when you become pedantic. No one likes that, especially when it’s obvious what someone meant. Took me a while to realize that and then stop.
You seem to say it as if being negative is the goal. I don’t set out to leave a negative opinion, I just want to give my opinion. Sometimes, my opinion is negative. That’s just as valid as if my opinion was positive.
If someone is asking for opinions or there’s a general discussion then surely negative opinions are just as valid as positive ones
If I hate something I see online I will say it and nobody should stop me. That’s it. There’s no science behind it.
I think you’re over thinking it, frankly. In an ordinary discourse, sometimes ‘negative’ points will arise, and if you aren’t specifically averse to addressing such points then there’s no specific reason to avoid it.
Essentially, there are a great many people who don’t even consider such issues the same way that you do.
This needs to be pinned as part of the mod rules. Criticism is not personal attack but the idea that it is infests Lemmy to its detriment
Not just Lemmy, but discourse overall, anymore.
Absolutely. As a manager, I deal with this at work with my team. The amount of times I have to explain that criticism can be constructive to help them is amazing. Our culture is so soft.
I believe I have some kind of teacher syndrome.
If I know something I think it’s good to share my thoughts about it to other people with the objective of creating a debate which could lead to get more information and a better conclusion for both of the parties.
I must admit sometimes I just enjoy trolling and mocking dumb people, but usually I like to help other people.
If there’s a post already complaining about something I may join in on it, because who doesn’t love a good complain?
If someone is posting positive things about something they like I try to avoid being overly or only negative about it. The internet is too big for me to go around bothering everyone with conflicting tastes to mine.
I’m a negative person. IRL and online. In certain circles I’m considered very positive. Usually I’m faking niceties for convenience or other reasons, but other times I do actually think of the current situation or subject matter positively. This latter situation is somewhat rare though.
Here on Lemmy, I have my share of haters, mainly because I’m an agnostic, antinatalist, anarchist, antifascist. I can also get pretty misanthropic at times, and while I can indeed shut the fuck up, I sometimes don’t, and I can go oooonnnnn, sometimes pissing people off for my lack of brevity and conciseness, like with this very post.
Generally speaking, I think being negative often lines up with the reality we live in. Sure there are small things to be positive about, but overall the situation for humanity as a whole is currently pretty bleak, and a lot of the control mechanisms by which positive change can be enacted is in the hands of a select few of the rich and powerful.
The reason people post and oftentimes like negative posts, comments, discourse, etc. is because it validates and confirms their negative perspectives that oftentimes would cause them to be ostracized if they expressed them in other circles. I know that’s why I express many of my more controversial opinions here, and why I like to read various posts here on Lemmy daily. Most people here keep it real. And reality isn’t pretty right now, but at least I know I’m not the only one who sees it that way.
I very much dislike being negative on-line. I think we could all stand to be more empathetic and humble in our approach to others. In my on-line gaming, I almost exclusively am positive. The rare times I turn negative, is when someone starts being mean to someone. Flaming, blaming, or just posting vile stuff. THAT, I take exception to. Bullies only understand one thing, and it’s their own medicine. I’m all positivity until you post something racist, sexist, or generally vile, then I’m coming at you both guns a’blazing.
Well I dislike being positive or faking that everything’s okay just to not upset people
those are two different things. When things are bad, it’s our duty to address it, lest it become worse. But you can be positive even in the face of a crisis. There are times in my life in which I felt like my world was crumbling before my eyes, and with the benefit of hindsight, I now view those circumstances differently. Sometimes hard changes need to be made, and you can come out the other side stronger and more resilient for having survived it; often times in a better place than you were before (whether that’s physically, mentally, emotionally). Then, with those lessons learned, the next moment you feel like the sky is falling, you can remind yourself that you’ve been through bad before, and sometimes a new perspective is the only thing standing between you and acceptance/peace.
Also, if you’re having to avoid talking about things because it upsets people, then try to find a new avenue for who you speak that to. I recommend therapy, where the attention and purpose is you and your feelings. Having someone listen, and help you through difficult times/emotions, is an invaluable resource, that I hope you’re fortunate enough to be able to take advantage of.
Depends what counts as a negative comment. I tend to swim upstream so the things I say often aren’t popular but I only say what I believe to be true. Why people who for example don’t like Elon Musk, keep posting about him and then circlejerking with all the other haters is beyond me.
Some users need to be told to STFU. Yes, I also block many. But, still want my say.
Calls 'em as i see 'em
Blowing off steam.
Lovely, warm, childhood trauma steam.
After a certain point, you begin to realize that some people just can’t be helped. It comes from a place of fatigue.
