I have an active social life but mostly around shared interests, eg book clubs, sports, some activism, etc. Classic friendships not so much, having drifted from childhood friends. Feels like we live in different worlds. My partner has taken that place.
yeah same. i do stuff. i see people. none of them are my friends.
i haven’t had a close regular friendship since my early 20s. mostly because back then we had lots of free time to do nothing but talk about our feelings and shit. once i graduated i no longer had that luxury in life.
all my old friendships ended because we became radically different people and no longer had any common interests or values. same thing with all my romantic relationships. i never found a partner who wanted to grow or change like I did, so we broke up.
Are people over 40 allowed to reply? Or is that too large of an age gap?
it says 25+ i would assume anyone older 25 can answer.
OP’s post history is fascinating. You have to check out the modlogs of their deleted posts to get the full story. OP is obsessed with 21-23 year olds dating people over 30. They also seem very conflicted about their stance on it, sometimes defending those relationships and talking about their plans to write a story where the hero is dating an older person, other times saying it’s wrong and asking why such relationships in fiction aren’t called out as wrong, and saying heroes should stop it from happening
Oh, so OP got dumped for an older person and is fantasizing about getting a revenge older partner, and then whiplashing back to irrational hatred of the concept of a moderately age gapped relationship?
If this is the case, statistically, more likely OP is a dude than a gal.
Oh, and below this is another comment saying they’re obssessing over a 25+ yo virgin being worthless.
… Uh, yep, yep, that also fits this scenario.
Oh man, this is that one? I went through their history a couple of days ago when they made one of their weird posts.
Some stuff seems to be missing from the modlogs, I distinctly remember a post about Reed Richards and Sue Storm and their age gap
And then there is the obsession with virginity and being useless if you are one and over 25.
And street racing
You would assume that, but op has an obsession with virginity and the age gap in couples.
Whoa, you weren’t joking
I’m surprised OP has moved on from 21-23 year olds
lol. 41 checking in. What are friends? I’m an introverted nerd. I hang out with computers.
Sometimes more often sometimes less, but on average 4-5 times a year.
I’m 36 and don’t really consider myself to have friends. Working from home for years and just lot really “clicking” with people in my city keep me isolated but it’s alright. The few social functions I find myself obligated to attend kind of suck so I don’t feel I miss out on much.
Uhh, same. fist bump
Same as I did post school as an adult. Once a week? Could be as little as once a month.
I walk to them all the time online though. At least a couple times a week.
Scheduled friend time. I have a lesbian friend who has never seen Madoka Magica so we do weekly watch parties. My childhood bestie hosts a weekly Twin Peaks watch party and we theorize together. I have a couple friends who my wife and I do D&D with. I also have an autist friend who I churn butter with since that shit is boring af alone.
Idk why but having a dedicated “butter churning friend” is sending me lol. But that’s awesome for you!
40’s. Once every 2 to 4 weeks, sometimes less. As an extrovert, this is killing (figuratively) me.
Like a drifter, I was born to walk alone.
Actually, a psychologist suggested it had more to do with my youth, but whatever. I don’t drift much these days, there’s too many snags, I just keep holding my head above water.
You mean when I’m not depressed, isolated and withdrawn?
I don’t remember…
Me too except also unemployed… I don’t remember which came first.
I aim for weekly
What are these… “friends” you speak of?
I don’t have any friends.
I will be your friend, friend.
40s. Have a group of friends that try to meet up twice a month to play Dungeons and Dragons. Then we have other friends we probably see every few months.
You mean at work?
Oh wait, am I supposed to actually see my non-work friends? I thought we just needed to text each other
What do you mean “text each other”? I’ve been thinking of texting one for a long time. That counts too, right?
I used to spend at least one day a week with my friends, and when I was in a motorcycle club it was often far more.
Now I run my own business and have no free time really and when I do its recharge time and time spent with my wife.
I see my mates maybe once or twice a month now
