I used to spend at least one day a week with my friends, and when I was in a motorcycle club it was often far more.
Now I run my own business and have no free time really and when I do its recharge time and time spent with my wife.
I see my mates maybe once or twice a month now
Are people over 40 allowed to reply? Or is that too large of an age gap?
it says 25+ i would assume anyone older 25 can answer.
You would assume that, but op has an obsession with virginity and the age gap in couples.
Whoa, you weren’t joking
OP’s post history is fascinating. You have to check out the modlogs of their deleted posts to get the full story. OP is obsessed with 21-23 year olds dating people over 30. They also seem very conflicted about their stance on it, sometimes defending those relationships and talking about their plans to write a story where the hero is dating an older person, other times saying it’s wrong and asking why such relationships in fiction aren’t called out as wrong, and saying heroes should stop it from happening
Oh man, this is that one? I went through their history a couple of days ago when they made one of their weird posts.
Some stuff seems to be missing from the modlogs, I distinctly remember a post about Reed Richards and Sue Storm and their age gap
Oh, so OP got dumped for an older person and is fantasizing about getting a revenge older partner, and then whiplashing back to irrational hatred of the concept of a moderately age gapped relationship?
If this is the case, statistically, more likely OP is a dude than a gal.
Oh, and below this is another comment saying they’re obssessing over a 25+ yo virgin being worthless.
… Uh, yep, yep, that also fits this scenario.
And then there is the obsession with virginity and being useless if you are one and over 25.
And street racing
I’m surprised OP has moved on from 21-23 year olds
lol. 41 checking in. What are friends? I’m an introverted nerd. I hang out with computers.
Sometimes more often sometimes less, but on average 4-5 times a year.
I’m 48. I have a few buddies that I rarely see in my hometown. I travel once or twice a year on a city break to drink and eat with a few old pals.
But yeah, generally I don’t not hang with anyone outside my own wife and kids and extended fam. This isn’t through choice, it just seems to be the way things have gone.
I see friends every weekday when I walk my kids to school and whenwthe kids have playdates, and when I take my kids to the school playground on the weekend. And on bowling night once a week, and on band night once a week (but I don’t go every week). Also I’m married to my best friend.
I’ve got one friend who’s super social but doesn’t have many friends herself, so she tries to see me almost every day. Realistically I probably see her 2-3 times per month. Other than her, I only really have two friends I hang out with in person. Each one is probably once a month or so, maybe every other month. I’ve also got a friend I like to play games online with, that used to be a weekly thing one time but we haven’t played together in a few months. I’ve got a little bit of time off work right now so I should probably try to hop on with him before I go back.
If you count discord, just about every night. We have a whole list of things we rotate between from movies, games, and brain rot videos.
In person, once every few months. We get together for some holidays, events, etc.
Once a month, when I lived in a place where I resided for multiple years. Now that I relocated and I know literally one person in a non-work capacity, once a quarter probably.
What friends?
I’m 56. I hang out with 5 to 6 friends 10 times a month on average. Mostly to play tabletop games. Sometimes I meet one or two for lunch.
57, almost never, it’s mostly family and work. We do have parties about 2-3 times a year that include whoever wants to come, that gets some friends. But really almost never, family got so big that it’s a big network of people and that’s most of our entertaining.
Do you not have hobbies? Not even once a week or month?
Oh yes, I go to yoga, see people and talk to them. Sometimes games with my (grown) kids, I cook and bake and garden, Pokemon go raid hour I see the same people a lot, and at work of course. I like the neighbors too. Just nobody seems to invite anyone 'round.
That still counts, though. Why would you not count that?
Almost 38, I spend all my free time with my wife. Started a less more balanced between we moved for my work, and the more I focused on time with her, the happier we were. I hang out with work friends occasionally.
My pre marriage friends became vile, Trump-worshipping, incel assholes, so I am very content with my decisions.
Im broke, once a month or every two months, can’t relate to my back home friends after moving back, my college friends are very spread out, we still meet up for raves, they meet more often, I can’t make it as much
I miss just hanging out at houses and saving money, now that there is always a fat gap there is always a need to do some event
Fat gap?
Try to do online games with my best friend once a week, I do jams with people in public once or twice a week, will probably be dancing in some capacity once a week, and I’ve got a second date coming up soon. Then there’s weekly D&D, of course, and any of the unique plans that come up during the week.
Of course non of that stops me feeling sorry for myself when I have even one day where I lay around and do nothing but I try to just let the feeling pass instead of worrying about it too much.
Most weeks I go out and see a friend at least once. I prefer to go out twice a week though but I’m still establishing myself socially in a new city
I’m 31. The secret is hobbies and finding ways to make them social and actually making plans to hang out with friends. You can just invite another couple for dinner, or host a PowerPoint or board game party. Seriously ask yourself if you have friends who might be interested in a Halloween party if you don’t have plans to attend one.
