Because the idea that a man attracted to trans women could not be straight is transphobic. Trans women are women and a man attracted to women can be straight regardless of whether they’re trans or cis.
I would argue that sexual attraction to a non-op trans woman involves attraction to male genitalia, which by definition and logic extend beyond the label “straight”.
A different case would be a man attracted to masculine presenting women (tomboys), or post-op trans women, which would not rule out bisexuality, but be within the defining bounds of straightness.
Because the visual overlap between non-op trans women and femboys is quite noteworthy, an umbrella term for attraction to both male and female identities such as “bisexual” is appropriate. Denying that is arguably Bi-erasure!
I hope you understand my point.
Nah. Even if it’s hetero, it’s probably not straight. Straightness is similar to whiteness; simply a term to say “you’re normal and deserving of respect.” It’s a normal word, not simply a descriptive one.
Dating a nonbinary person as a binary person is definitionally hetero, but hard to call straight. An agender person and a bigender person would totally be het, but totally not be straight. If it’s not a relationship between 2 monogamous, cishet people assigned opposite sexes at birth, it’s weird and unnatural.
Bigots can literally gatekeep straightness from a cishet woman dating a cisbi man. It’s like a tainting of her for being with a queer person, even if neither she nor the relationship is queer. It doesn’t matter if they’re monogamous for life; it’s one drop of queerness poisoning their ability to be normal. They’d need to hide his true orientation.
True, but if a guy doesn’t like male genitalia and the woman is non-op, well, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with him not wanting to have sex with her. That’s his preference and it’s valid.
I suppose that’s possible, but the lack of clarity on that point still makes me uncomfortable. And there’s nothing wrong with bi dudes liking trans women, obviously. I am a bi dude who happens to be dating multiple trans women.
I think boils down to “similar optics, different gender identity”, but I’m neither of these flavors so I really don’t know. But for this joke, I think either works.
Calling for assistance: we need a ruling here. Halp.
i would say femboys are generally seen as not wanting to be female, just feminine. Same as how crossdressing doesn’t make you trans, it just means you like crossdressing.
a term sometimes used synonymously with femboy is tomgirl, as a mirror to tomboy, and you wouldn’t start calling tomboys trans men would you? They’re people who identify as female but present less femininely.
so the feminine character is a femboy and not trans because of the bi flag in panel 2? also what’s the difference between a femboy and tomgirl?
the more I read this thread the more confused I get 😓
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This sucks. Implies he can only like a trans woman if he’s bi and not if he’s straight.
I just like the female form. The plumbing is secondary.
So I think it can be more nuanced than bi/straight.
Why does it matter?
Because the idea that a man attracted to trans women could not be straight is transphobic. Trans women are women and a man attracted to women can be straight regardless of whether they’re trans or cis.
I would argue that sexual attraction to a non-op trans woman involves attraction to male genitalia, which by definition and logic extend beyond the label “straight”. A different case would be a man attracted to masculine presenting women (tomboys), or post-op trans women, which would not rule out bisexuality, but be within the defining bounds of straightness.
Because the visual overlap between non-op trans women and femboys is quite noteworthy, an umbrella term for attraction to both male and female identities such as “bisexual” is appropriate. Denying that is arguably Bi-erasure! I hope you understand my point.
Nah. Even if it’s hetero, it’s probably not straight. Straightness is similar to whiteness; simply a term to say “you’re normal and deserving of respect.” It’s a normal word, not simply a descriptive one.
Dating a nonbinary person as a binary person is definitionally hetero, but hard to call straight. An agender person and a bigender person would totally be het, but totally not be straight. If it’s not a relationship between 2 monogamous, cishet people assigned opposite sexes at birth, it’s weird and unnatural.
Bigots can literally gatekeep straightness from a cishet woman dating a cisbi man. It’s like a tainting of her for being with a queer person, even if neither she nor the relationship is queer. It doesn’t matter if they’re monogamous for life; it’s one drop of queerness poisoning their ability to be normal. They’d need to hide his true orientation.
You definitely have a point there, although I would say that any person with interest in cis-hetero relationships only could call themselves straight.
Mods here deleted my comment, idk why tho. Seems like a classic case of: "bisexuality is le heckerino transphobia!!1!!1!
True, but if a guy doesn’t like male genitalia and the woman is non-op, well, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with him not wanting to have sex with her. That’s his preference and it’s valid.
Not sure what that has to do with what I said. I didn’t suggest anyone should be compelled to have sex with anyone…
wait how tho?
bi flag in the bg of the last panel.
oh jeeze egg on my face for not recognizing it!
What makes you think there’s a trans girl involved? Could just be a femboy. Also, there’s nothing wrong with bi dudes liking trans girls.
I suppose that’s possible, but the lack of clarity on that point still makes me uncomfortable. And there’s nothing wrong with bi dudes liking trans women, obviously. I am a bi dude who happens to be dating multiple trans women.
Goddamn, dude. Leave some genitals for the rest of us.
Lmao
So wait, are they a femboy and not a trans woman then?
I think boils down to “similar optics, different gender identity”, but I’m neither of these flavors so I really don’t know. But for this joke, I think either works.
Calling for assistance: we need a ruling here. Halp.
i would say femboys are generally seen as not wanting to be female, just feminine. Same as how crossdressing doesn’t make you trans, it just means you like crossdressing.
a term sometimes used synonymously with femboy is tomgirl, as a mirror to tomboy, and you wouldn’t start calling tomboys trans men would you? They’re people who identify as female but present less femininely.
so the feminine character is a femboy and not trans because of the bi flag in panel 2? also what’s the difference between a femboy and tomgirl?
the more I read this thread the more confused I get 😓
Thank you for replying. This makes complete and total sense.