I’ve already mailed in my ballot, and I volunteered to be a poll worker (though they haven’t gotten in touch). With a week (maybe two) to go before we get the result, I feel caught in a limbo. It feels more important to me to be copying my important documents and organizing go-bags to be ready for a crisis than it does to do anything at work. I also recognize that that is probably a reaction to stress and anxiety and isn’t helping me. That said, I’m part of many groups that the right-wing hates and is openly threatening, so feeling unsafe doesn’t feel unreasonable either.
How are you all holding up out there? And tips for me to deal with this better?
Stay busy. Get your to-do list done. Take overtime shifts. Spend the angsty energy so it doesn’t turn inward and render your gut into sieve.
Honestly, other than voting and trying to get those around me to actually give a shit, I’m not. Like in the past two elections, I’m having trouble grasping the fact that half of the (voting) country wants to elect a fascist. My mother told me over the phone that one of our neighbors is voting for Trump because “his wife is absolutely gorgeous”. Like, how do you even respond to that, especially in any calm way?
Oh, and someone here reminded me: cannabis. Lots and lots of it.
Reminds me of some French women who voted for Macron because he married a woman 25 years older than him (formerly his highschool literature teacher).
Oh, and someone here reminded me: cannabis. Lots and lots of it.
I shudder to think about how poorly I’d be handling things if I didn’t have cannabis lol
If you vote for someone because you think their wife is hot I don’t think you should be allowed to vote.
There’s no stress. There is zero that I can do about any of it other than vote. And where I’m at my vote really doesn’t mean anything. I’m still going to vote, but my state isn’t going to even come close to turning red.
If he wins I need to make an ernest attempt to find a quiet far away place to get the fuck out.
We’re honestly just kind of stuck in the track we’re in. With the current state of affairs we need billionaires who are okay with being taxed to send sufficient amounts of money into campaigns and fight off corporate entities on our behalf to no benefit of their own. Back in the Nixon and Reagan days we had a chance to have voices heard and run protests and stamp out some of the corruption but we’re well past that now.
We need to put laws in place to stop the propaganda engines into wrest power from the oligarchs. But even the left doesn’t truly want all that to happen.
if trump steals the white house again i’ll be going to buy more security cameras and guns before they add an “acceptable voting history” requirement on those purchases
I’ve literally been registered as “independent” since his first win because I could see the bloodlust even then. I’d rather not have myself on a registered “enemies list”… :(
I’ve already resigned myself to the fact that a) my candidates of choice likely won’t win, and b) the results will be contested with complaints, nit-picking, tantrums, and probably violence across at least several states, and a final decision won’t be known for a few weeks.
I’m trying to avoid political topics and articles a bit not than usual. I also have a lot of things going on in my personal life (not necessarily bad things, but lots of responsibilities) that are keeping me busy right now.
I had also saved up a couple of TV shows that I’ve been wanting to watch to fill in some of the little free time I have right now.
Compartmentalization. I only focus on what I can control. I read local news and mostly ignore national stuff because it is beyond my ability to affect change.
You gotta get to the point where you worry about the things you can control, and let go of the things that you can’t.
A combination of this and avoiding political news and discussion altogether (as much as I can anyway).
What’s the point of reading, discussing and/or arguing when in the end the only thing that matters is your vote (and money/time if you’re able and so inclined).
The news tries to rile you up, and all I really need to know is who won once the election happens, until then I’m avoiding it.
I have blocked every news and political centered community i see here; it helps with the stress and my mental health a lot. Particularly since I have particular views that compels me to ruffle feathers, get nasty comments and be ignored on every political community across the whole spectrum.
It’s easier to just don’t try to post until tempers cool down, if ever. If I don’t see news then I don’t have to reply and share, and probably lowers the stress a notch
But isn’t that like over half the communities? Is there anything left besides meme reposts?
Less than 10, after that I get the occasional reference but deep in the list
Very true. And more easily said than done, unfortunately.
there are more than a million less people alive today from a mismanaged federal global pandemic response because trump was in the big chair the last time, i’m sure the hundreds of millions effected by their loss, share your same karmic acceptance, that their lives were meaningless because they couldn’t control who was making (or purposefully not making) the decisions their fates depended upon. all very zen.
And what does me having ulcer from worrying about it do?
There would be far fewer anxiety disorders diagnosed if people did this.
This is the way.
This is actually a big message in the dharma of the Buddha.
I used to be much more into meditation and reading Buddhist literature. I reflect on that time in my life as being happier and more peaceful (I was also exercising a lot more then too). I’ve started going to a yoga class a few times a month, but I wish I had an easier time getting back into the rest of it.
Every moment can be done in meditation. Making time would be great but if it doesn’t happen you can still give presence into whatever moment you find yourself in.
But the fact that it’s not easy is a good thing. The hard thing to do is usually the right thing to do. Dealing with the negative hardship is a positive experience in the end, and avoiding the negative hardship is worse than the hardship itself.
And classical Stoicism. (Not the “don’t talk much” kind, but the roman philosopher kind.)
Letting go of things you can’t control like death also was a big tenet of the Jedi order, which I guess isn’t that surprising considering where Lucas was pulling sources from
If I could move stuff with my mind, I would convert to Jedism today.
Pretty sure I’d go full Sith. I’m not super big on hate, but if I could move things and influence people with my mind I’m under no illusions that I would use that power for good.
I don’t know if I would trust myself with that power. I hope my worldview is correct because if I ever got it I would try to reshape the world into how I wish it could be. Probably not the best idea but honestly beating our currect system is a low bar so I’d give myself a good chance.
Not Jesus? That ain’t my lord and savior! Round this one up bois
Not great… I’m not a US citizen yet so voting isn’t possible. Only thing I could do is vote with my feet… so I moved out of Texas for good earlier this year. I think my current location is as safe as it gets in regards to avoiding political violence (since I’m not exactly in a group that the right isn’t threatening) so there’s that
Other than that? Nothing… If the worst happens I’ll just hole-up in the building and ask my boss for permission to work from home
I feel you on voting with your feet. I left beet-red Indiana for a Democratic-leaning swing state a few years ago. And yet, once you get outside the city by just a few minutes, it’s Trump signs everywhere. Doesn’t feel very reassuring.
It’s cliche to talk about moving to Canada after a US election, but I have started to collect my passport and papers and look at multiple countries for ease of entry, in case shit hits the fan.
If you don’t have a valuable skill/trade or family to sponsor you, moving to another country is not typically an option for most people. Also probably the worst time to move to Canada as there is a growing anti immigrant sentiment.
Fortunately, I have advanced degrees and an internationally recognized professional certification, and my partner is a doctor. I don’t imagine emigrating would be easy by any stretch, but I think we’d have better odds than if we didn’t have those credentials.
Good point on Canada. I’ve also been looking at Panama or Costa Rica. Europe may be an option (I work in clean energy and remember Macron’s outreach to climate scientists after Trump withdrew from the Paris Agreement), but may be harder.
Well, my folks and I will stay in that night. We’re in a heavy Trump area, and I’m more concerned about if he loses than wins. I honestly never thought we’d have to deal with Trump after his horrible presidency, so I’ve been on high alert since he was confirmed their canidate. My mom has all of us renewing our passports as well.
I know this is dramatic, but I may actually stay home “sick” if Trump wins. To reconcile with the fact that people would vote this absolute embarrassment in again would make me so terribly disappointed in my countrymen. And this was the campaign I really put my money where my mouth is: I volunteered, donated (when I could) , even protested. It’s not so much that I like Harris, but the future that Trump and his cohorts has painted has been horrific. I would need some time to “grieve” so to speak.
Election night, I plan to have good weed when it’s all said and done, because good God. Even if Harris makes it, this whole thing had been exhausting. And it won’t stop. If Harris makes it, we still have so much fucking work to do, and just thinking of that wears me out.
As shameful as it may be, I’m reducing my stress by reminding myself that I, personally, will be fine regardless.
But I fear for many friends, loved ones, and strangers who may not fare as well.
This is where I’m at. I’m part of every majority group, but I can’t feel comfortable because I know that anyone who’s not is a potential target.
I’m just going to do what I’ve always done in all the other elections I’ve partaken in.
I’m going to mark my choices, I’m gonna submit the ballot, I’m going to resume life as normal. Then when election day comes, I’m just going to go to sleep. I don’t want to be up to see the polls.
If Harris wins, then great, because that just means that we’re not going to have another nightmare circus for 4 more years.
If Trump somehow wins, then I will mute myself from the world almost like I did for the 4 years we had with him. It was just a blur.
Bold of you to think it’ll only be 4 years of Drumpf, or his appointed successor.
Bottled water and prepping the generator. I fully expect the racist fucks out here to cause real problems, regardless of outcome. We already have daily parades of giant lifted trucks covered in Trump flags doing burnouts and screaming the n-word at people. In 2020 we had some protesting high school kids get attacked and beaten by adult Trump supporters, cops looked the other way. My town has a giant painting of a Nazi on its largest building, which is a Mason hall. I hate this place.
Damn, where do you live?
SoCal, maybe an hour away from San Diego. East County is a white supremacy hotspot. It’s all rich white fucks who crow loudly about hating California but stay and make our lives miserable because red states are shit holes and they know it.
I wish we could just banish these people to their own continent like the British did with Australia. Why didn’t we let them stay seceded?
Shit I thought HB was bad.
Shit, man, I dunno. I already voted. I fly my blue-team flag in a red town. I hope that most of the people voting for him are just insensitive clods who aren’t as personally hateful as the jokes they’ll laugh at, or that they’re somehow stupid enough to have been genuinely convinced that our creaky business-friendly center-left coalition is some sort of economy-dooming experiment in socialism. So yeah, I’m reduced to hoping that a large percentage of my fellow citizens are idiots and/or assholes, rather than actual fascists.
It’s too close to know who will win, so things could turn out kinda okay if the Democrats pull it off. If Trump wins, maybe they don’t manage the Senate and little of longstanding legislative harm gets passed. Sotomayor should be okay for the next four years, so for SCOTUS itself the damage is likely already done. Finally, I still mostly think that Trump will be content to line his pockets for four years and then pardon himself on the way out. He’s too old to inspire any energy to repeal the 22nd amendment, and I don’t see anyone behind him ready to slot in as an heir apparent, so maybe the less intensely awful republicans will reclaim some measure of control, or a gaggle of pretenders fragments their base and they can’t really get organized to win nationally. A second Trump term is going to fucking suck, though, and a lot of innocent people are going to get hurt all across the world, many more than in a Harris administration, IMHO.
Shit’s grim, and the Christian Nationalists see this as their time, possibly their last good chance in their current form, to really seize the reins of power.
They don’t need to organize anymore they just need a pulse and an ® next to their name to have a real chance of winning nationally at this point.
If Harris does win, the rest of the world would really like it if you invested in education America. Specifically a robust history curriculum. Especially around 1935-1945.
We all know about WWII. Even Germany is having trouble keeping the Nazis at bay though. I think it might be part of human nature for some of us to be literally evil. To properly resist this requires not only for the majority to be good, but for them to actively oppose evil in their personal lives. Most are unwilling to do this.
It feels like something in the genre of the paradox of tolerance, where the most empathetic and pacifistic people are the people best positioned to remove shitters from the gene pool responsibly
Simply ignore the media. Nearly all of them are owned my synclar entertainment and are designed to keep you mad and engaged for more money.
Cut off the corporation news helped me considerably with my mental health. Also cutting out fascist pro Trump people in my life helped a lot.
Remember the media is designed for keep you mad sad and fucked up so they get more and more views and clicks. Do not engage, and your life will be considerably better.
There is really nothing you can do about it besides wait and see. Just surround yourself self with things/people you love. Ignore political anything sense it’s nothing really going to change anything doom scrolling it.
Get informed, vote, try to change things in your small circles and just live your life and cut out the things/people who actively are trying to enrage and anger you.
I’ve made my peace with either result. If Harris wins, I’ll assume it’ll be relative status quo and a continuation of the last four years, a slow-motion decline. If Trump wins, our deaths are assured and everything falls to shit that much sooner. There may be some personal benefits and opportunities I can try to take advantage of before we all die, but none of it will really matter in the end. My personal romantic life is in such a shitty spot right now that I honestly don’t really care anymore.
I think this is the key right here. The election is important, but most of us have far more immediate concerns.
