I, just wanna stop feeling anything. Never had friends but I could live with that, but I just want someone to embrace, someone that feels something for me, even if doesn’t last. Better than 0 for the rest of my life. This situation is slowly killing me.
The only thing that gives me some relief is gaming… (I read the post of like a week ago here that several dudes met their partner thanks to a videogame and I felt even sadder, why that wasn’t me? I’ve been gaming for 30 years now).
Along with all the great answers being supplied about what to do to be out there in the world, what you are proposing can’t be overstated; I would make explicit in that to take an ongoing frank look at how you show up in life
Idk about OP here, but with so many similar posts I notice, for instance, people who basically blame others, or wallow in a woe is me attitude, all the while putting down any suggestions floated their way. We are the common denominator in our own lives. Learning to be honest about our role in things is crucial
Yes. Sure; and most are too shell -shocked to accept that, at first. I certainly was, at least. In my personal opinion, most of us need a little nurturing and time to allow spiritual bones to knit back together a bit first, so the elementary work offers a brief respite from the hamster wheel until we become able to work through the 12th year coursework and get off the wheel. I guess post secondary learns how to stay off the wheel for extended periods, and post grad is a whole other wheel we choose, for self-development in appropriate levels for appropriate times.
There a balance between being gentle and mollycoddling, and each individual and circumstance dictate that balance. And as always, “new levels, new devil’s.” Ourselves being the first, middle, last pit boss, always. We just use others as mirrors and kid ourselves about it, sometimes, for funnies and development, in equal measure. The really neat trick for me, is learning how to STAY PRESENT, in the present moment, especially when it’s painful, because that’s where I’ll find the most answers, doing the homework. In the end, that’s justice, and the difference between karma and dharma has just as often seemed to be in millimeters, as often, if not more often, than light years.
It’s all the same dude. You can line up the creation of each account to the time the previous one was banned going back like 2 months now. He’s on I think his 14th account now. OP is a ban evader, an incel, and persistent troll.
And here I am trying to help this guy with suggestions. You’re right - there’s like 15 people doing the same thing. Same attitude, same responses, same “no can do” attitude. Gotta be the same person - shame on me for falling for it.
That’s why I’ve spent a little bit of effort keeping track of all of OP’s accounts and calling him out. Because his trolling is very effective. His writing style is really good at pulling on people’s heartstrings and then when they show any kind of sympathy he makes them regret it by wasting their time with his nonsense.
Strictly speaking, I’m not an incel (femcel?) if that’s what you’re getting at, in fact I’m an asexual. I am technically an infren (femfren? The suffix “fren” is used to denote a social angle.) though because of all the incels. The things I score low on that stand in the way of me and a good circle are A) conversationalist skills B) the capacity to fulfill physical needs (I’m told I look like I’d work out but that’s as far as it would go) C) opportunities (I did fall to the bottom of popularity at school, so being someone’s classmate/workmate cannot save me) and D) hobbies. There are also a few things about me that rub a lot of people the wrong way, my orientation being the prime one of these.