Basically the sister question of that other post here…
I tried to add my frustration there, but i think it’s suited here more. I’m a terrible candidate with no money, properties and almost zero social skills and that will never change. Even my own family thinks I don’t act like a human being. No wonder I’m eternally alone.
If that saying was true then people like me wouldn’t exist plus for what I’ve seen lonely men numbers keep growing. 10 years from now and the rest of the world will catch up with Japan and their own “young people don’t/can’t have families” problem.
What if someone like me is extremely bland, anti social and don’t wanna “grow up”? Is unfair that people like me can’t get anything, then again the world has been always unfair towards certain people. I just don’t see any exit.
Yeah, the world is super unfair in general. Some people get life handed on a silver platter. Some have to work hard. And some don’t even get a chance. That’s not unique to dating but also applies to jobs, health, education, … practically everything. Life’s not fair to any of us. Never has been.
And btw, the situation in Japan and some other countries isn’t because men couldn’t get any women. It’s more they choose not to. They pursue other things.
They pursue other things because they know they are not capable to charm the other sex. That’s it, I’ve seen men in Japan being completely sociable inept. And a small minority basically isolated themselves from everything.
If you don’t want to work on the things under your control, how is it unfair?
Some people are just incapable. That’s why it’s unfair.
I’m sure there are plenty of people with the traits you listed out there for you. Unfortunately, they are probably shut-ins for the same reasons, so it would probably take some work to find them…
The thing you’re trying to get is romantic attention from another person. That person has to decide they want to give you that attention. It’s perfectly fair for each person to be able to make that choice.
What wouldn’t be fair would be a world where people were forced to be in romantic relationships with people they don’t want to be in. While that certainly happens, I think we’d prefer it never did.
What you’re talking about is individual choices. You need to make that a positive choice someone would want to make. If you don’t do that, why should they make it?
And that goes back all the way to my first point: Nobody wants a person like me. Which is sad, especially since I’m sure there’s way worse people out there with partners. Why not me? I hope you understand.