I don’t know why, but I always have this mental image of people who identify as male/masculine to just have their living spaces look like a dumpster (okay maybe its a bit hyperbole, not a literal dumpster, but you know what I mean), while people who identify as female/feminine to be extra tidy? (Perhaps its mainstream media’s portrayal affecting my subconscious?) Is this actually true?
Sorry if this sounds offensive, I don’t mean it that way.
I (male) tend to do more tidying, while my spouse (female) tends to do more cleaning.
I’d say the stereotypes are dated from when men weren’t expected to care for themselves or their home. And I know plenty of boomers and a few Gen X who fit into that, but I don’t see it as common in more recent generations.
We have the reverse. My boyfriend can clean the whole apartment and still leave it looking messy, whereas I only clean when absolutely necessary, but will keep stuff tidy.
With my parents, I see that they try to be equal in the work, but my dad rarely comes up with stuff to do on his own, so my mom always has to ask for every chore. He came from a “traditional roles” family, so probably suffering the after effects from that.
Not and n/a, cis woman, too old for this shit. I kind of manage to get rid of any rubbish eventually and to avoid mould but people aren’t allowed in the flat. Somehow I never learnt the necessary self discipline and skills for keeping a space presentable, even though my mum was stay-at-home and kept her household shipshape. She just seems to have forgotten to teach me how to do anything. Is what I tell myself while ignoring that my younger sister has little issue in this regard. In my defense, I have ADHD and chronic fatigue.
If there’s any (any!) magic spell I’d like to be able to do, it’s “Eene meene kidney bean, my flat is now clean - hex hex!” I don’t need money or fame or whatever, just a spell to have a clean living space. I can work from there.
I’m also struggling a lot with that. I’ve found that doing a little each day gets the job done eventually. Idk about you, I kinda have the energy to keep an apartment clean but not always to get it clean when it’s already feral. So if it’s gotten to that point I just try to clean a mess and a half for every mess I make.
I also used to tell myself it’s because of my parents. Which is true but they’re not gonna swing by and sweep the floor. It genuinely only takes a few tries to learn how to clean effectively as an adult and there are tutorials on youtube. And it does get much easier once you don’t have to think about every step.
I care much more about things being clean and orderly than my wife, like, by quite a lot. I do a lot of cleaning.
I am not a neat freak by any stretch of the imagination. The mess my wife can make for just daily tasks is mind-blowing to me.
We have probably a 12-foot long dual sink counter in our bathroom. Her shit fills her side and will make it to my side. I can have all my day to day stuff in a foot square space.
I don’t see a reliable statistical difference myself. For my part, I’ve got ADHD that causes shit to simply stop existing the moment it’s sat down, and that ends up causing a lot of clutter
All I can say is that my wife could live in squalor for weeks without batting an eye, but simultaneously believes I’m high strung for not being able to chill if my space is dirty. Tells me to leave it. But we both know how bad it gets if/when I leave it, and it ends up being me who cleans it one way or another.
34m, live alone. My space is pretty much always tidy because of StumbleUpon haha. I once saw this random post and it said to always keep your hands busy when you’re going somewhere and it was super good advice. Stuff usually needs to be moved/thrown away/put away and doing it bit by bit when you are already moving around is not only less intimidating but also leaves you with a lil sense of accomplishment
Now there’s a name I haven’t heard in a very long time
I would say we both have different focus - I’m more about keeping clutter to a minimum while my partner is more concerned with the dust and dirt buildup.
In hostels, women tend to keep the rooms cleaner than men. However in my personal experience, the filthiest women are much more filthy than the filthiest men.
messy as hell. but it’s my mess so I know where everything is lol
Do Men/Boys usually clean their living spaces less frequently than Women/Girls?
That depends heavily on the question if my robot vacuum is a boy or a girl.
(I admit I haven’t looked yet).
people who identify as female/feminine to be extra tidy?
Yes, I also think that people who identify are sometimes extra tidy.
A friend of mine was / is a cleaner. He said by and large, women are far, far messier than men. Also, that their dirt levels are higher. Particularly dust on skirting boards, benches, windows sills, etc.
This is all I know. My wife and I both are quite clean.
I try to clean as I go and put things back in their place when I’m finished. I also do a full sweep of the house once a week. My room mate on the other hand does nothing so it doesn’t matter, my house is a constant mess and I usually end up cleaning after him. I’m male btw.
I guess it depends on your upbringing and some other factors? I usually do a full cleaning every Thursday, and a small cleaning every day.
I have to do some cleaning of like dishes and things daily or it gets out of hand. Most cleaning I do weekly though, so it’s not great but I never let it get too bad
