What should I do if I don’t have anything to enjoy and I don’t have a bright future to work for/ wait it?
As an extra note, I started to hate dealing with humans and I don’t have any friends.
you could start learning c++and contribute to some open sourced games out there
Schedule everything then? If you’re already nothing then suffering through some anxiety to plan something new isn’t much worse than literally nothing right? So plan shit out, and stick to said schedule. Find a hobby where you can meet people you don’t hate? Music, games, fostering kittens, whatever idk.
You clearly need a community. There are millions of them, plenty accepting. Just ideally find a positive one before you end up in a negative one.
Not ironic here: I was at a very low point, and what I did was ditch everything, brought some gear to sleep outside, and decided to see how long I could stay outside with just my fishing gear.
To be fair, I brought freeze-dried food for a couple days, but after about a week I felt better enough to head back to society.
What I did that week was primarily fish for dinner and gather firewood for the evening. Did wonders for my psyke.
Did you try jerking off?
Goddamn I wish I could. People describe it as pleasurable and then relaxing. But I’ve never been able to do it. It’s like either the nerve endings aren’t hooked up right or there is some sort of brain defect, but I lack the ability for pleasure there, myself.
Sorry, I’m not the OP.
I’m almost afraid to ask, but are you sure you’re doing it right?
I’ve tried various different areas. If there is some sort of secret technique that everyone just magically knows, I could never figure it out.
… what are you working with down there?
Vulva/vagina
Explore.
Be patient with yourself.
Keep exploring.
Keep being patient.
Temporary pleasures don’t fill the void.
It would work for small amount of hours before returning to the void of nothingness.
Maybe smoke a joint.
We should hang out some day.
All you a girl with sweet boobage?!
No, but my wife is! 😏
She sounds hot, can I hang out too?
Sure! You like board games? Or retro Nintendo? We got plenty of both!
Antidepressants
Antidepressants just make you feel nothing. In many cases it’s worse than not being on them.
This is not true for plenty of people. Antidepressants saved my life, and I still feel things.
Welcome to my world, friend. It’s not as if I don’t have friends because I couldn’t put on the societal mask and make them; I just simply hate humans that much. Only people I can stand being around are philosophers. People who take a step back and think about the world from a unburdened point of view, and people who talk about what the solutions might one day be.
Only thing that ended up saving me is my wife and children. I would have clocked out long ago. Find someone that hates humanity with you, and cherish them. Or find someone who loves humanity to balance you.
See a professional, seriously, because this sounds like textbook early depression.
Sadly, I saw 3 different professionals, it does not work.
I was expecting that they won’t have a magic phrase to say and solve my issues before I go to them and I partially went due to the advice of the people around me.
After going and finding out myself, I can confirm that I was right.
Therapy is a vehicle, and you are the driver. You’re only going to move forward if you drive.
That being said, finding a therapist you work well with is hard, and, in my experience, takes quite a few tries before finding someone with whom you are comfortable.
My suggestion is to find someone who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and literally read this post to them. I’ve had luck using Alma to find a therapist (in the US).
I genuinely hope you are able to work through this - I’ve been there, as have many people. You can do this, and you’re not alone
I was expecting that they won’t have a magic phrase to say and solve my issues
That is a logical expectation because that’s not what they do.
After going and finding out myself, I can confirm that I was right.
Ahh, so, you were expecting them to TRY to fix you with a magic phrase and when the magic phrase never came, you assumed that they had failed.
You got it all backwards. Those people don’t fix you. They teach you, they point you in the right direction, they tell you the things your friends won’t, they ask the questions you’ve been avoiding.
YOU fix YOU.
If the athlete doesn’t show up for the competition, they can’t blame the loss on bad coaching.
Also go to someone who prescribes meds, and take them.
That said, I feel you are right to hate the other humans. They are really, really stupid.
They kept making me try meds, they never work.
Whether it’s through professionals IRL or strangers on the Internet, it’ll require effort on your part. You’re going to have to want to be an active participant and willing to work on yourself. It will be a process, not a single event.
What does “work on yourself” mean in this context?
Changing habits, thought patterns etc. A therapist can’t do that for you, that’s something you have to do yourself thus “work on yourself”
I am tired from people who talk in wide way that can be applied everywhere and would result in nothing.
To add to this, I was following therapist orders, it did nothing.
That is actually is kind of what I meant when I said that I assumed that they don’t have a magic pharse, meaning that they their orders and pills sadly did not work and I was right in the sense that they were unable to solve my issues as I expected.
I don’t think it’s a therapist’s job to fix your problems. It’s a therapist’s job to help you figure out how to fix your own problems. If you don’t what that, they will absolutely be useless.
Therapy takes work, my friend. Professionals can’t help you unless you want help and are willing to work toward change. If you’re expecting some external factor to “fix it for you,” you’re going to be disappointed
Therapy isn’t geared towards men who don’t know how to put their expressions into words. It’s geared towards women. Many professional therapists agree that Therapy is not suitable for all men. Therapy is W.E.I.R.D. Designed around White, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic. It’s only one tiny slice of the pie when it comes to human emotions, expression, and the science of psychology - which makes psychology – at best – a pseudoscience.
As a (male) psychotherapist, I really have to disagree with you on all counts. A common goal in psychotherapy is to learn how to recognize and describe your internal experience. Lots of people struggle with this, men and women. Every single person walks into therapy with a different set of circumstances and a different set of objectives, and I’ve never once heard a single psychotherapist say “therapy is not suitable for all men.” That doesn’t make sense.
Anecdotally, it is true that men seem less likely to approach therapy with willingness. This is a trend I’ve noticed, and is by no means a rule. What this demonstrates is a difference in socialization and acculturation between genders, so that men and women tend to “start” psychotherapy in different places in regards to social/emotional development. But psychotherapy as a discipline is absolutely not geared toward women over men.
This is sexist af
If you think me pointing out that therapy isn’t designed around how men operate somehow makes ME sexist, you need to step back and evaluate yourself.
Why’d you respond to this guy and not me, who posted a long, professional response ten hours before him? Btw, I agree your take is sexist, because you’re basing your view on stereotypes of men and not on any evidence.
Either get used to change in the hopes it will become better, or get used to being miserable in my life you have now. By the way, you’re gonna be uncomfortable in One Direction or the other, so I suggest you choose the better one.
If you hate your life now, but are also terrified to change, you’re gonna have to decide which one is worth, and during that discomfort: things staying the same, the way you hate it, or enduring the terror of the unknown, your life, possibly improving.
I don’t think you fully got me here, so let me explain it better.
I feel anxious if I have appointment with a doctor for normal test or diagnosis, I feel anxious about having any new thing introduced to my uneventful days, no matter it’s significance.
The best treatment for anxiety is to just confront it, feel anxious, and then realize on the other side it was actually fine. Won’t make it go away immediately, but it’ll decrease over time. Anxiety is a normal human emotion, it just gets a little to intense for some people sometimes
OK, I think I better understand where you’re coming from, but my advice is pretty much the same.
Life is changed. Constant, unrelenting change. How will you get through that and how happy you are throughout your life often depends directly on how well you can handle change in your life.
I suggest, at the very least, trying to get some practice. Resisting change will only ever make you miserable.
“Changes aren’t permanent, but change is!”
-Rush
If the origin of the sentiment was Rush Limbaugh, I’ll never stop vomiting.
Please tell me it was Jeffrey Rush or some other rush
Oh my god why would anyone quote that greasy perverted narcissist. Rest In Piss.
This is a quote from Tom Sawyer, by Rush, one of the greatest rock bands of all time and Canada’s finest
This happens to a LOT of us with ADHD.
Go burn a Tesla. They’ll put you in a place where you don’t have to worry about changes for a few years. And it’s for a good cause.
I think that is called the human condition.
Learn to love yourself. And look for help. You don’t know what the future will be, things can change drastically sometimes in just a few weeks.
shit sucks
no fucking doubt about it
antianxiety medicine helps but
really you need to find you
nothing else matters.
once you can understand your self, telling others your limits and expectations is just the flow of life that you’re expecting
If possible, I recommend therapy. Been relying on it for decades and eventually learned to love myself. Everything good in my life now is because therapy helped me become a better person.
Life is like a garden. If you want to sit around and curse at the thistles and weeds, you can, but they will continue to grow as you fixate on them. If you see beauty and follow it, then cultivate it, you will be in a beautiful garden. It’s not instantaneous, and it takes work. The work starts in your mind. Negative thoughts will blind you to good opportunities. If you don’t know where you’re going, any place will get you there. Maybe a good place to start is finding the tolerable humans, and see where it takes you.
Get a dog. Always happy to see you when you get home, will pester you relentlessly into moderate excercise, #1 wingman for meeting friends or significant others.
I owned a dog for brief amount of time.
Trust me, no.
The dog deserve a better human who can stay active with him.
