I’d call the police, she’s in middle school.
Fuck it, I’d tell his wife. He is obviously a POS and my fictional daughter deserves better. If he wants to toy around with my family, I will do the same.
I would tell her these things and hope that she made the right decision for herself.
If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you. The family situation is likely permanent and the affair is probably temporary. You’re putting your heart and trust in a man who’s openly lying to the people he claims to love - including you.
Wonder when I got a daughter.
Her life. Op has clarified everybody involved knows what it is and isn’t.
Need more context. Talking to her about it I guess. But if she is above the age of 18 it’s not really any of my business.
Chances are high that he’s going to make her very unhappy. Married men usually do not leave their families for an “affair” (even when they promise to do that). They just want some extra fun for a while.
Therefore I would try to warn her, as careful as possible.
According to her he has “no plans of leaving his family” and she doesn’t care. She’s not interested in marriage either. She just wants to “be with him”. Says she’s not delusional.
I’d try to find a way to set the issue aside when possible, I guess. I don’t have to support every decision decision my children make, but nonetheless I can support them as individuals.
When it cubes down to it, I guess you gotta ask yourself if you value the relationship you have with your daughter. And let that inform your decisions as you learn to navigate the situation.
Ultimately, though, this isn’t about you, for better or worse. How it influences your own perspective and choices, though, depends a whole lot on the context, all those details the rest of us don’t know.
Report him to the police.
I’m guessing the joke here is that Hossenfeffer has an underage daughter. They’re not suggesting adulterers be reported to the police.
Mind my own business.
If they’re fine with it, so am I. I am in no place to get between people.
Assuming the daughter is an adult: I’d talk to her about it but otherwise not get involved. It’s up to her to choose her relationships. There are also people who aren’t together anymore even though they’re still married, or are in an open relationship, so it’s not something to automatically condemn.
