Not anymore, but they did help me out a lot during university, when I didn’t have any stable income. Now I am doing very fine. If they ever need financial help, I’d be very willing to help.
No. In fact, I consigned on my mother’s student loans when she wanted to go back to college (and she has since paid them off on her own).
LOL, no.
I grew up poor and I think a good measure of whether someone is poor or lower middle class is “Did your parents help you financially or did you help them?”
I never thought about this topic like this. FWIW I’ve done both. Always got financial help (Dad payed for my car, stuff that was not covered by scholarships, vacation, extra curricular classes or interests, etc.) and then when he lost his job I helped financially for a bit while he got up on his feet again. I miss him everyday ❤️
I help my mom financially a bit. In return she helps me indirectly financially because i can live at home and eat, use water, electricity and so on. I kind of pay a small rent.
A very related question to ask is: did your parents, or extended family, ever help you financially?
Here’s my answer.
Have I ever received help from my parents and/or extended family? Yes. I was able to live rent free after high school while I found my way. When I eventually started college I was able to live at home and commute. My family started a college fund for me when I was little, so I was able to cover about 15% of my in-state tuition. We also got a cash loan from my Grandma to put toward a down payment that we paid back over the course of a few years. Without it we wouldn’t have been able to buy our house.
Am I getting help from my parents or extended family now? No, I haven’t for years. Money and support have started flowing the other direction. I’ve given my mom a (used) car and also let her live with us for a year and a half while she switched careers.
Money left to me when one died has made my life tremendously easier. It’s unfair, really, and I had a lot of complicated feelings about it but worked through them in therapy.
Not anymore, since I finished grad school and started a relatively lucrative career. They did help quite a bit during my undergrad and grad years though… which now drives my guilt about not really interacting with them despite them being unpleasant people overall.
Not really, money probably doesn’t exist in Heaven.
You know it does. Where do you think “virginity” was invented? Hell is where the parties’re at and there’s no inherent need for a currency system in that dynamic. Heaven, on the other hand, is founded on an imaginary and largely arbitrary credit system. Ergo, money exists there.
That would be one short party if going by what one would call my denomination, Hell just being a temporary holding place if anything until purity has been achieved. In the context of any tradition, it sounds weird to think of Heaven as a place that for some reason needs a system of exchange when every demand is taken care of.
Because, as I’ve already stated above: Heaven’s existence is inherently predicated on the knowledge of “sin”, and therefore a soul-themed credit score. Rhymes with “karma”, maybe. Who knows? Any way you spice it, credit makes heaven — that is, if innumerable denominations, et al, are any proof of. 🤷🏽♂️
Somewhat the opposite. My mom started “borrowing” money from me when I was a teenager. I was too trusting, but eventually i learned to say “no”.
Fuck, I haven’t thought about any of this in a long time. My mom was awful.
So sorry your mom behaved like that. Mine would say “Oh you got birthday money from grandpa? Here, I’ll save it for you” and of course when I wanted it back, she would get bent out of shape yelling that she had given me life and she wasn’t expecting anything in return So why should I. Awful all around.
Hell no.
Our parents and my grandma helped us so much with everything - getting us groceries, babysitting, taking vacations together, and just helping us out of jams. We had our kids young and without the help from our families we would not be where we are. We help our kids. It’s hard to know what the right amount is- it’s hard to see them struggle, but surviving difficult times builds confidence and resilience and faith in your partner.
As in are they actively giving me money or helping me pay my bills? No
But in the past they’ve helped in setting me up financially so that it was easy for me not to need their help. They made sure I started adulthood with no debt so I could start saving right away. And for my wedding present they gave me cash that massively helped my husband and I pay for our apartment’s down payment. We probably would have needed another 4-6 months to save up for that otherwise.
When I was still in school they paid me like 50 euros a week to help with grocery bills and they backed my mortage but other than that not really. I’ve been on my own for more than 15 years and I’m doing pretty good financially. I recently went from an employee to running my own bussines so currently my income is pretty much on par with my expenses but I’ve got quite substantial savings so I’m not particularly worried. I’m 33 years old.
Yes, my mom and I own a home together, because she is divorced, and I am legally blind, which makes it a bitch to find work. I’m actually doing better than her though because I did not fall into the stupid debt trap with high interest credit cards or student loans and since I’m blind I can’t drive a car so don’t have insurance and a car payment to worry about. So while I am not rich by any means, I actually have more money every single month than she does. Easily. Except for tax time, that is. That time she does have more money than I do, but only for a short time until it gets eaten by the credit cards.
