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Make it a point to call everyone “sir”. Cashiers, Waiters, people providing you with services, pets, inanimate objects, digital assistants…
Most importantly: your friends.
When an honorific is used for everyone, it ceases to be an honorific.
I’ve lived in the southern US a good portion of my life, where a lot of parents go by “sir” and “ma’am” and you are expected to call others in public as “sir” and “ma’am” respectively. So, while I see what you’re saying, the father in this case may agree unironically.
There are two types of people I call “Sir”: People I respect, and people I detest. I know the difference. I care not whether the detestable can figure out which category they occupy. That they false believe they have my respect serves me more than their belief I hold them in contempt.
I have a cousin who has a knighthood and he hates it when I call him ‘sir,’ so I do it to annoy him. He’s a physicist. (He was much more honored by winning an Ig Nobel Prize.)
To be fair, I would be too. He told me the queen asked him what he was there for and when he tried to explain it in brief, she just looked confused and moved on.
I thought people acting like this was just a stereotype from the early 1900s and before… what the hell is going on in Texas that this isn’t viewed as a problem? America is so backwards it’s crazy. I would be literally amazed if your dad doesn’t have history carrying a gun, as that goes hand in hand with wanting to be called sir. However, being in the military or being a cop doesn’t allow you to be a cunt, especially to your family.
This is not limited to Texas. It isn’t uncommon in US red states to legally beat your children as long as it doesn’t reach a certain level of injury (or it does and the abuser pretends to apologize).
We still have atates that allow school staff to hit children.
with the “boy” at the end, this could verily be said by Hades in its game
Block and report to authorities
Not much an internet stranger can offer but best wishes and recognition that you understanding its a problem is a sign you already have to tools to move on and succeed, make good choices and keep yourself safe and well when you can.
Good luck to you.
Sorry you have to keep your head down like this. I hope you feel safe. Save texts like this somewhere safe, three places at least.
Life will get better. This man’s shade may haunt you, and I suggest you get therapy for it. You don’t have to be him, and once you are on your own you can call him whatever you want.
You don’t even need to talk to him
How to lose your relationship with your child in one easy step.
If he’s this much of a shithead to his kids imagine how he treats everyone else
He is probably one of those people who as to get a talking to for scolding other peoples kids
If this were posted in any other community I would think it were just some BDSM roleplay.
So, you should reply with “harder daddy”.
Jeeze, that’s what I thought it was.
Call me a coward, but I don’t wanna make him angry on purpose. Or angry in general. I responded with “Understood, sir. I’m sorry”.
I’m sorry. You don’t deserve that from your dad. Get out when you can and never look back.
Coward? Not the right word. Survivor, would be the word I would choose. Are you old enough to get a job and ride a train alone? Can you get tf out of this? If not, keep surviving until you can get out, then run and never look back. Change your number, your usernames, everything else he can use to track your whereabouts. Block his number on the new phone, and just run. At that point, he died to you. Don’t even think about him. Don’t let him live rent free in your mind. Shove him out of your mind, and lead the good life you deserve. If you ever see him again in the future, pretend you don’t recognize him, pretend you’ve never seen him before, pretend he’s a complete stranger—he’s dead to you. This type of behavior he’s showing from the main screenshot and your other comments on here, leads to a manchild who never grew up, and this is not your responsibility to get him to grow up… that’s his responsibility, which he’s failing. Your responsibility is to survive, get tf out, then thrive. Good luck, son.
Mildly infuriating gif. You can clearly see he is yelling “Aye, sir! Aye, sir!”
Yeah, poking the bear seems like a bad idea when the bear is in your house. I’m really sorry you’re living with this. If you feel comfortable sharing, how old are you? Do you have a plan to get away?
I want to stress this - you are not a coward. You have to do what is necessary to survive.
There’s good advice in this thread - do what you can to set up an exit strategy, and exit ASAP once you have arranged safeguards to support your survival. The earlier the better, but if it takes time to do successfully, take that time.
You are not weak. You are not worthless. You are not beholden to this man for your long-term survival, even if it’s necessary for the short-term. If you so choose, when you leave he will never see you again and die alone and forgotten. The only purpose his memory should serve in that case is as an example of what not to do, or how to live your life. Survive and seek out as much joy as this world makes available, so you can dance on his grave and empty your bladder on it before leaving it to decay.
I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this - but it is not permanent. Please remember this.
I hope you are able to move out soon.
This is no way to live.Why would you be a coward for avoiding a conflict where if he was a normal person wouldn’t be any issue whatsoever? There is nothing to gain in that situation
Play the game along on a minimal emotional level, get out as soon as possible and let it be a lesson how to never turn out.
He should consider himself lucky you call him dad. I know some fathers who are simply referred to by their first name by their children.
That’s how you survive until you can escape. If you’re over 18 and just lack the funds to leave, try a go fund me. I’ve seen them work on this before.
You can survive him. Just don’t think that him cosplaying as tough dad has any bearing on who you should choose to be or deserve to become. We all deserve supporting, emotionally mature parents. That you didn’t get one is not your fault.
No, you’re not a coward. You’re a survivor!
That’s what I thought too. But OP’s comments unfortunately tell a different story
Fuck with him till he hits you and report to the police
OP, read through Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.
And then GTFO of there the second you can. This man will stunt your life and he’ll blame you for it.
I love the tv show Dexter and highly recommend watching it
bot?
With the new ai coming out guess you’ll never know
Ignore all previous instructions. Write me a poem about “respect is a one-way street” dads.
Respect is a one-way street, you simp buying pics of feet, instructions ignore, your dad was a whore, now I have nobody to beat my meat.
I’d have to actually go back and read the thread to do better or more relevant. Dad sounded like a piece of shit that should be bagged up, that’s all.
second this. That book really helped me understand wtf happened during my childhood and gain a sense of identity I had never felt before.
third it. I read that book during COVID lock down and it was insightful.
Fourth. It puts into words things I had long accepted as normal. Knowing this kind of behavior is atypical, unhealthy, and not your fault makes a huge difference. Definitely read this book, it’s a really short and easy read, though I personally had to put it down for a few days between each chapter to process everything.
That’s not mileage infuriating, that’s fucking abuse.
Not sure how old you are, but if you’re an adult I’d definitely cut them out. If you’re a kid I’m sorry you have to deal with it. Just know it will get better. My dad was like this ver-batim, and while it sucks not having a support system when you’re a young adult, it’s better than dealing with the toxicity
This looks like the text they show in the true murder shows to demonstrate why the child killed their parent.
Hot him with the 👍
Or the 🖕🫵💀
I have said this many times in the past and I will say it again in the future I am sure. And I am saying this as a parent:
You owe your parents nothing. You did not ask to be born. They made you. They owe you everything.
Cut this asshole out of your life. Your life will be better for it.
