oldie meme but needed to bring this back due to recent incidents 😭
Why do you think you’re better than us?
I like that the name of the platform has been written over.
“This is only happening locally here at <place in the internet> and not at <every other place in the internet>”. And that’s happening for every place in the internet.
Marvellous
So you’re saying Twitter is better?
/jk
Sure, it happens here, but I feel the toxicity on Lemmy is far less then on Reddit or other platforms, and with toxicity I mean including people assuming you’re saying something else because they are triggered somehow. But it’s very hard not to stumble upon people like that. Trolls rule the universe, they are everywhere.
It may be less toxic, but that’s only if you share the sentiments many lemmy users share. The echo chamber is louder here
On the other hand, a failure to make assumptions about what someone is saying leads to people being able either to willfully misrepresent their positions (“Oh, I don’t hate waffles, I just bring up how the world would be better without waffles in every conversation, no matter how tangential!”) or unintentionally fail to see the necessary implications of their statements (“I’m not saying waffles are better, I’m just saying pancakes are worse!”)
All language has some ambiguity, which necessitates assumption in communication.
I just ignore and block of it contonues. I got no time for people who are responding to the voices in their head instead of what I’m actually writing.
You hate Lemmy!!!
I think it can be important to see the intent behind words and ask for clarifications. Oftentimes people are not direct about their opinions.
yuh, totally! i even experienced an example of your counterexample recently https://lemmy.cafe/post/10752342/8934173
egg on my face, i guess i worded a meme so badly it gave 180 degrees the opposite impression (to some). was super thankful to this user for being transparent and helping me identify what part to edit.
In my experience, this happens way less on Lemmy than on Reddit before the IPO.
i can’t speak to the frequency but the tone is definitely different when it happens here compared to on reddit, probably influenced by the demographic and field of interest differences. the ml roots of the place really have echoed throughout the tone of the space, so most of the arguments have a really cynical, high alert, almost superstitious affect to them that i never really encountered on reddit. (some random account i thought i was cool with is trying to like psychoanalyze my recent posts to find my true intentions? i gave up on that convo)
your mileage may vary, of course!
your mileage may vary, of course!
Blocking all of .ml makes your experiences vastly more pleasant
I wish I could do that, but sadly the Linux community is barely alive on any instance other than .ml.
I’m convinced that most people don’t read anything before sharing their opinion. An opinion with zero relevance or weight is absolutely useless.
Yeah but I preffer the pineapple before the pizza, that way the mass feels saltier.
So you hate pepperoni?!
So you admit that you’re checking me out? And you wanna mate?
whut da hell
Oh sorry I was making a reference to Xavier: Renegade Angel, where Xavier somehow misinterprets the phrase “Checkmate” to be a proposition for sex, from a clone of himself. (One of those… “Did I watch this at 3am one night or was that a fever dream?” shows)
bwahahaha good to clarify i would never have guessed that
TBF, I understand this annoying kind of ‘reading into it’. at the same time, if someone starts dropping dogwhistles or starts dancing around something in a convo, i am definitely gonna read into that shit.
If you don’t like waffles just say it…
Me when I talk to my wife…
you too? im sorry dude
It’s okay 😁 we’re both very open about, and aware of, this issue. So I just let her know it’s happening and we giggle about it (sometimes). 😄
Idk, she’s super cool to me.
😆 top notch willful misinterpretation 👌✨
This is anywhere on the internet.
This is anywhere, period. You can do that with letters, you can do that with speeches, or in casual conversations.
And you’re not always wrong about it either.
If you’ve played Disco Elysium, “Welcome to Revachol”. If you haven’t, play it. It’s an amazing game
This is just text written anywhere. There’s an art to making yourself understood in different contexts.
yeah :p bit of a hyperbolic statement my fault
Well, the original post was as well, so fair enough!
Tell me you’re not married without saying you’re not married
well that’s just a depressing self admission :( you doing okay? /gen
So you’re saying everyone should marry???
/s
I see more Motte-and-bailey fallacy.
I see less “I like pancakes” and more “I think pancakes are superior to waffles” from the first commenter.
Then the second commenter responds, “So you hate waffles?”
Then the first commenter retreats to “No, I just like pancakes. Why are you assuming what I’m saying? Don’t you understand I’m being nuanced?”
Also, nuance is one of the more recent words to have a new usage like literally, which can now mean figuratively. When people say their argument is nuanced they mean it is good or correct. It reminds me of the use objective to describe a person to pretend they don’t have biases to incorrectly validate their arguments.
me: lot of pancakes out there
you: actually i see more waffles
(with peace and love haha you make excellent points i just couldn’t resist)
In the context of this self-referencing observation, I would say, I see lots of waffles pretending to be pancakes.
i approve and adopt your extension of the metaphor