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  • Rose Thorne(She/Her)@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    Eh. I have thing going on that I’m looking forward to, trying to keep my head up with things, but right now there’s this issue that’s putting a shadow over everything.

    I try to talk to the person involved, but they’ve kept at it to this point where I don’t want to be around them. I’ve tried to be gentle about it, but it’s like everything I said gets forgotten in a week and I’m the bad person for putting my foot down after.

    I think it feels worse because I know what I need to do, but it’s going to make a lot of things very difficult, and it’s going to take accepting that someone who was very important in my life isn’t the person I knew when we reached that point. That neither of us are.

  • frank@sopuli.xyz
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    1 month ago

    So excited and so overwhelmed.

    We’re moving from the US to Denmark soon. We just had a hurricane destroy our city. We are fine, thankfully, but our city is in bad shape. I also just had a decently big surgery a few weeks ago and my doctor’s office is gone, so in the midst of all this I have to find a doctor. Just coincidental timing on all of it.

    But it’s net positive. I look forward to the future more than I dread the bad stuff.

    • flashgnash@lemm.ee
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      1 month ago

      Is it that bad? I had thought the buildings would have mostly survived given the city was built to withstand them and that it was just too dangerous for people

      How do you recover from that? Does insurance cover it?

      • frank@sopuli.xyz
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        1 month ago

        I’m in Asheville NC not Tampa. We’re not built for the hurricane we got.

        Insurance covers very little. Not the fact that the city won’t have water for months, nor access to you property, nor flooding for the majority of people, and many many businesses are gone

  • Rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Sad, sometimes, and a little lonely most of the time. Been through a rough breakup this year. But getting better all the time! Hope you’re well!

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
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      1 month ago

      Last night I had a mild panic attack for no reason. I think it might have been induced by a mixture of beer and sugar, a combination I don’t do very often.

      I’ve just come out of a long term relationship with someone I thought I would have kids with. She was the best thing that ever happened to me, but somehow that wasn’t enough for me and I wanted out. I still have no idea if I did the right thing, but at least we left as friends who care deeply for each other. The separation was slow and excrutiating but I think we’re both on the road to healing.

      I used to think that if two people love each other, that was enough, but I’ve come to realize than I wanted more than just love, I wanted to feel less lonely in my head, and a severe language barrier was preventing that from happening. With time, we might have gotten there, but with time, I also may have grown to resent her, and so that’s why I ended it. I banked on my pessimism instead of my optimism.

      Time heals all, and I guess we’ve just got to tread water until that time comes. Sorry for the word vomit above, your post apparently struck a chord with me

      • Rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        1 month ago

        Heya man, thanks for sharing. I hope you’re doing okay. That sounds tough, and it’s a hard realisation that love isn’t always enough on its own - relationships take work outside of love, and that has certainly felt like a disheartening realisation for me. It feels the world is a little less magic now, but that’s okay - there are better things coming for us both, that we will be better equipped to handle correctly with what we’ve learned from this. Happy Monday!

      • Rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        1 month ago

        Thanks! I actually did consider it but my landlady won’t allow pets, and if I’m honest I both can’t afford and am too disorganised to take good care of something living. Good suggestion, tho!

    • Miss Millie@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
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      1 month ago

      It’s been a really long time since I bought / wore a skirt or a dress or even makeup… shame on me really

  • eskimofry@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I feel terrible because I didn’t buy even a card for my wife’s birthday. I just took her to her mother’s house. This was two weeks ago. I am still baffled why I didn’t buy flowers or something. My wife isn’t demanding at all.

    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.mlEnglish
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      1 month ago

      Thanks for giving your kitty as good a life as you could. Don’t let the end cloud your vision from the good times.

      If/when you’re ready, there are more lost souls to save out there. I wish I could have cats myself, but I am not stable enough to house them. Maybe some day I will foster, but even that is probably to much for me to handle.

      • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        1 month ago

        Thank you for your kind words. He lived an incredible life. Working is going to be a lot more lonely without him constantly bothering me to snuggle with me all day.

        When his brother died five years ago, he was so lonely… so we adopted two baby kittens so he could be their mum. He took to them immediately, cuddling and playing and loving them. I think that might have extended his life. They’re a little confused right now with him not moving, but we didn’t let him see his brother after he died, which I think was a mistake.

        About to go drive to his brother’s grave to bury him with his brother so they can snuggle eternally.

    • Miss Millie@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
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      1 month ago

      That’s good to know… I have the same feelings whenever I go back home from college… like college is good but nothing is cozier or nicer than being able to rest after a busy day