Whaaaaat I love topping my tall girlfriend. Those people are missing out.

Uncle Iroh is another one

Same. If it wasn’t true, why would they say it?

I am… Not smart lol.

I’m torn. Alaska is about 100 times the size of Hawaii, so this seems about right. But also I like the thought of enormous Hawaii besides very big Alaska.

Their cousin’s dog was attacked by a horde of wild taco bells.

Hey look it’s me with cockroaches! (It’s fun sharing walls with households that have cockroaches. Sharing is caring.)

I like simpler items with fewer parts now.

That’s super cool! I knew a guy that would eat small ropes and pull it out his nose but… Wow that is next level. Thanks for sharing.

Honestly same.

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Brad, the hottest guy at school

That is definitely a thing.

A thought-terminating cliché (also known as a semantic stop-sign, a thought-stopper, bumper sticker logic, or cliché thinking) is a form of loaded language, often passing as folk wisdom, intended to end an argument and quell cognitive dissonance.

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When I was on welfare, I got Medicaid. (Free health insurance from the government.) I chose the plan with no copays or deductibles. It was nice.

They had another plan where the copay was $3. I had it before I moved to the no copay plan. It’s fine, but being on welfare at the time, every dollar counted.

Now I have my employer plan and my copays range from $15 - $50, depending on the type of appointment I see. I pay about $1k/month in premiums.

Just an FYI, that usage of “spastic” is considered an ableist slur. You can use “erratic” in its place.

@[email protected] has a blue name and posts a lot

He’s on Lemmy world

If you dropped something in there, getting it back out again would be an adventure.

Goodness gracious great balls of fire

Oof I was hoping this was a joke about ordering a pizza from an app and the spouse didn’t like that they were only entering the security code and not the whole card number… Because the joke is about having the credit card saved. :(

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I had similar problems with my parents. (But I am not transfem, just queer.)

Do you live with your mom? How long will that continue? Are you financially dependent on her? I ask because depending on her temperament your strategy will need to be more careful if so.

You say she belongs to a religion, some flavor of Christianity. I’m sure you get stories about Christians misbehaving all the time. The next time she says something about a trans person doing something actually bad (like setting something on fire?), bring up Christian misbehavior. Ask her if that means all Christians are bad. (You could do this with really any group she respects or identifies with.) When she says no, segue that into saying that there are bad folks from every group but that doesn’t mean the group is bad.

When she complains about what she thinks is misbehavior but is really not, such as queer people making fun of religion, also turn that around. Has she made fun of atheists/other religions, or does she look up to people that do? Bring that up. She will likely double double down and say it’s different, but insist it is not.

When she complains about a non-issue, like a masc person wearing a dress, you can just reiterate about what not a problem it is. So if she says something like “Look at that man with painted nails… shameful.” You can say something like “I don’t see the problem, he looks like he’s just living his life.” You can disengage but not agree with her at any time… but if she keeps digging like “well he shouldn’t do that,” just ask “Why?” to things that don’t make sense. It will boil down to a core belief that you can choose to challenge or not.

Your other option is just to not really react. Just respond with the bare minimum, like “ok.” Look up gray rocking.

There will always be people that don’t like you, some for stupid reasons, some for petty reasons, and some for valid reasons. It really hurts when someone you care about holds a poor opinion of you, and it’s not because of something you did wrong. At some point though, if her opinion doesn’t lighten up, you will just have to accept that is how she is. But the same way you cannot control her, she cannot control you. You can choose how much your mom is in your life. (And if you are a minor, you still have some control over this. She will only know what you share with her and what she can find out herself. You can only give her the bare minimum if you wish.)

Good luck out there. It sounds like she wants what’s best for you but doesn’t know much about queer people so hopefully she will come around.

What, my first dialect of German shouldn’t be epic memer?