Sounds like OP was focused on finding someone cute and willing to date him, than someone he genuinely clicked with and could have fun with even without sex. Don’t get me wrong, sex is great and very important for couples (outside of the Ace spectrum), but I truly pity people who aren’t dating their best friends.
Probably watched too much porn and got used to seeing new bodies and faces every time.
Or gay
Gay men want to have sex with more women? Interesting, please tell me more.
Traditional 4chan response.
I’ve never been there, people on 4chan think gay men like having sex with women?
Fake and gay is the traditional 4chan response.
In this case, as you pointed out, saying gay didn’t make sense for the little story we got.
It was a little ironic in-joke for those who know, but explaining it sucks all the life out of it.
Fuck this is me and I hate it
Get therapy or read Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
I get it. I wouldn’t want to date a girl who has so little self-confidence as to date me.
I Don’t Want to Belong to Any Club That Will Accept Me as a Member
Hello Marx
Could be ADHD. The idea of a new relationship and the dopamine from the chase and the victory would be relatively short-lived, and their brain would naturally start seeking out its next hit.
That’s a really distorted view of what ADHD is.
Do you have anything to back that up? Hypersexuality, which I’d argue the OC describes, is a common symptom of ADHD
The description of hypersexuality in your link doesn’t match losing interest in a partner as soon as there is familiarity. If anything, hypersexuality leads to wanting more sexual activity than their partner. That can contribute to fidelity issues, but that’s not the same as losing interest as soon as they get together.
ADHD doesn’t mean you can only be interested in novel things. People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and have trouble controlling how much attention they can allocate to each subject. They can still hold particular interests for years and decades.
The only argument for the behavior in the OC being attributable to ADHD, is that maybe they are compulsively jumping into relationships before finding out if they have any compatibility with the other person. So it’s not that ADHD made them lose interest immediately, it’s that they acted on impulse and started a relationship prematurely only to find out that they never liked the other person for more than their appearance. But that’s too much extrapolation for what is actually written.
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I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was fourteen. I am now thirty. I’ve done my research to manage my condition and have come across this; and even more, I have experienced this very thing. It is not the whole picture, certainly, and as ADHD is a spectrum, it will not be present in all of us; but it is not an uncommon symptom; and it’s basically what I could pull from the post without making assumptions about anon’s other characteristics.
Anon thinks he “won” by getting the girl, not realising that entering a relationship isn’t the finish line.
What is the finish line
Dying together in bed at 100.
if two people die together at the same time, foul play is always suspected.
After drinking a bottle of wine laced with drugs inside the electrified compound to protect against raiders and clickers
WHOLE ASS FUCKIN LOVE STORY OUTTA NOWHERE
And it was good
ASS FUCKIN
That happened too, yes.
🥹
Movie when?
Wait, there’s a movie planned instead of another season?
Believe it or not? This is avoidant attachment style.
Like literal fucking definition.
Probably, but could just as well be anxious attachment since we don’t have the whole story. I’m on the anxious side and this happens a lot if the other doesn’t show enough interest or is closed off in conversation.
fair. I guess I haven’t dated anyone other than my ex wife so… I guess I really shouldn’t jump to these conclusions.
My first thought was OP is dismissive avoidant. It’s the no-overlap Venn diagram of, “I want to be close enough to be loved, but not close enough to be hurt.” OP: go take one of the attachment style tests online. There’s a lot of good stuff that might help you get out of this Catch 22. Who knows, though? There is scant information.
OP: do you find yourself resenting your partner? Wishing they’d get out of your space/stop bugging you with their needs?
Late but this post has got me curious. Is this a good test?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/tests/relationships/relationship-attachment-style-test
Update: ew, that test asks for a zip code. Nevermind. How about this one?
When I was much younger this was an issue because I’d pursue people out of loneliness, not because they were actually a good match. After we’d be together for a few weeks, the loneliness would go away, and then I’d realise that I didn’t like them to begin with. Awful to do that to other people, I know.
Worked on it through therapy and overcame this behaviour.
