Did you have a tipping point between realizing you were trans and you started HRT?
As in, when you de oded to start, what did that moment look like for you?
I think I’m a point where I’m more interested in trying, but have a lot of fears holding back, which I think makes it feel like I want it less than I do.
I was talking to some others about this and it made me realize I think I want it a lot more than I thought.
Does any of that make sense, or am I just rambling? 😅
I was pretty much debating being trans my entire life, not really accepting it. One of the things that weirdly helped me was a meme being pretty much like “if you’re okay/considering HRT you’re prolly trans. Cis dudes are pretty scarred of estrogen.” So kinda feels like I was cool with HRT before I was with being trans, I guess. Tho first day of it, it took me quite a while to actually start and was a bit hard to do that.
Alright, listen.
I understand you’re considering starting HRT, and that’s a big decision, so it’s only natural you have fears and doubts. It’s also natural to seek advice and confirmation from people who have already been through this process.
You ask what it was like when we decided to do it. I believe you want to know what it feels like – what is the feeling we had when we were certain, when we knew for sure that this is what we wanted. Well, allow me tell you.
That feeling doesn’t exist.
I also had doubts when I started. But I started anyway, because, given what I knew at the time, I believed it was the right choice. Now I can tell you that starting HRT is the best thing I’ve ever done – but this is something I can only tell you in hindsight.
Your post is very similar to several ones I have seen from questioning people asking what it feels like to know you’re trans, or what was the moment when you figured it out. They seem to believe they can’t act on their feelings until they’re 100% sure. They seem to believe there is a magic moment when all doubts disappear. Well, there isn’t.
Mind you, I’m not telling you to start right away either – it’s perfectly fine to take your time and think it through. Hell, I’m not even telling you to start at all. You’re the only one who can tell if this is right for you. It’s a frustrating answer, I know, but it’s the only honest one I can give you.
I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’m honestly tired of seeing trans people riddled with imposter syndrome, second-guessing every step they take, and holding themselves to an unrealistic standard of being absolutely certain of everything. You will always have doubts. Don’t let them paralyze you.
This is a perfect comment.
I can’t speak for others but I probably borderline obsessively have to get all the info possible because I fear making the “obvious” wrong decision.
I’m somewhat relieved but also saddened that there’s this many of these kind of posts. I have been feeling like it’s a similar feeling to when I realized I was trans, and when I finally was able to accept it.
I appreciate your blunt honesty. 💜 I needed it. I think that’s where I am. As far as I know to go, looking for confirmation before I jump.
I had 3 years of twice weekly therapy focused on gender between realizing I’m trans and starting HRT. My timeline is excessive by most standards, but I felt that it was right for me. I wanted to be sure of my intentions and the outcome before taking the leap.
It was an intense exercise of identifying my true self and determining the best steps to get there. 13 years later and I’m still certain that it was the right move.
I’m a transman, hope it’s OK that I replied here.
