I, just wanna stop feeling anything. Never had friends but I could live with that, but I just want someone to embrace, someone that feels something for me, even if doesn’t last. Better than 0 for the rest of my life. This situation is slowly killing me.
The only thing that gives me some relief is gaming… (I read the post of like a week ago here that several dudes met their partner thanks to a videogame and I felt even sadder, why that wasn’t me? I’ve been gaming for 30 years now).
I don’t think OP is actually interested in making their life better, but for anyone else who saw the post and was like “oh that’s me” there are good answers in the other replies.
Nothing I’m going to write is especially original.
First off, you probably need to be somewhere where there are people. Cities are great. Nowhere, Nebraska is going to make things harder. If you’re out in the country you’re probably going to need to move or commute. There may still be local stuff happening, but with fewer people there’s probably less of it.
But once you find where people hang out, you can probably find a meetup or similar, and go.
There was a board game meetup I went to before the pandemic that had regulars and new people every month. Good way of making friends. I don’t like board games that much, but it was still fun.
There’s a bar near me that runs events from mixers to movie nights to kink stuff. I’ve gone to the mixers and made a handful of friends and acquaintances.
The local library by me does stuff. Lessons, talks, I think they might have book discussion groups.
Stop making excuses. Sitting there going “I don’t like bars. I don’t like board games. The library is too far away. The city is too loud” isn’t helping. You can make excuses for anything to justify not changing, but then you won’t change! You’ll stay just as you are, with opportunities slipping away. No manic pixie dream girl is coming for you. The would-be friend you could make is at the movie night chatting with someone who actually showed up, even though he doesn’t like the genre that much.
If some of the problems are actual blockers, like “I live deep in the suburbs with no public transit and no car”, then cool: that’s your first problem to solve. You’re not really going to get anywhere (no pun intended) without addressing that.
How are those excuses? That’s a reality I live and I can’t change, I’m not trying to lie to you. Also notice how I’m only replying certain people
It’s hard to engage with your problem specifically because I don’t know your specifics. I understand you might not want to share details like where you live.
It feels like just making excuses when someone’s like “find a board game group” and the other person’s like “I don’t like board games”, and dead ends it there. Like, the deep meaning there is to find a group based around a shared activity. It doesn’t have to be that specifically. Board games, bird watching, bike riding, choir, book club, just general mixers for people in the area, kink groups, whatever. There’s a whole world of stuff. It doesn’t feel like you’re making any effort beyond shooting down suggestions.
But, as I said, if the problem is “I don’t have a car or means of getting to where people meet”, then you should fix that first.
I like certain videogames, that’s it. Majority of adults and especially women aren’t into them.
I kind of think you’re trolling. There’s really nothing else in the world you like? Not even food?
If that is true, or at least you believe it to be true, you should probably consider a wider entertainment diet because that doesn’t sound healthy.
There’s a whole world out there. Go try more of it.
I’m not. Yeah, I like food but that’s basic nature. I despise trying to cook.
There are food groups.
There are social groups for other “basic nature” stuff.
Go find something you like.
You asked how to cure loneliness. There’s your answer. Go find stuff to do with other people in person. Stop sad-posting on here.
I wish you understand, we’re going in circles. I don’t like anything and most of the things you say aren’t a thing here.
It is impossible that you don’t like anything. You’re either lying/trolling, mistaken, or clinically depressed.
Most of the things. So some are?
I literally went to a neighborhood park hangout this weekend. It was just people in the neighborhood wanted to hang out. That kind of stuff can exist anywhere. You don’t need to like anything in particular to go.
But again, it sounds like you don’t actually want to do anything to change your situation.