Basically the sister question of that other post here…

I tried to add my frustration there, but i think it’s suited here more. I’m a terrible candidate with no money, properties and almost zero social skills and that will never change. Even my own family thinks I don’t act like a human being. No wonder I’m eternally alone.

  • jo3jo3@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Your mind is broken. Fix that shit. Get positive. Find a dream and direction, and go for it with everything you’ve got. Someone will see that passion and follow you. But you’ve really got to fix your mind, stop thinking so negatively about yourself. Positive self talk only. You are what you think, that shit becomes your reality. So think positive, dream up something big, and go for it. You only get to live this life once, don’t just sit there feeling bad for yourself, make this ride as interesting as you can for yourself, you are in control of it.

    • Nobody@feddit.orgOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I really don’t see it, I’ve never been positive, is not my nature. And I’ve suffered enough.

      • jo3jo3@lemmy.world
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        2 months ago

        Where is the suffering? It’s in your mind. I told you, get your mind right. Be the hero of your own movie…Haven’t you ever seen that video? Go search it in YouTube, be the hero of your own movie. Choose the one that’s just a couple minutes long. Watch it. And find another, search Arnold Schwarzenegger you can do it gym motivation. Watch those two videos. Reprogram your mind, it’s broken now. All your bad thoughts are just making your reality, it becomes true, you believe it. So change your thoughts, change your mind, and your life will start to change around you. It’s just a ride. Or a game. It’s just a fucking sandbox. Enjoy the ride. Have a good time. Dream big. Go big. Stop just wasting the one go around you get feeling bad for yourself. Envision what you want in this life, and then go get it. And enjoy the ride. It’s not that hard. Just get the mind right because it’s all coming from there.

        • Nobody@feddit.orgOPEnglish
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          2 months ago

          I’ve seen all those videos, I grew up with Arnold movies FFS, I’m not him. I don’t have his qualities, I really don’t some people aren’t born like that. And fuck Joe Rogan, he mocks the things i still like.

          The illusion of “is a game” doesn’t work for me, I’ve playing games for 25 years, I know the difference between what’s real and not, in a game you can try all the times you want, real life failure and humiliation destroys you. You can’t repeat anything. And this suffering isn’t just on my mind, I feel it on my heart. I don’t wanna dream big, especially since that won’t make me happy, my family never dreamt big yet my parents got married, eventually divorced but at least got their failed kid.

          • jo3jo3@lemmy.world
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            2 months ago

            Listen to what I said. Reread everything you wrote. It’s in your mind. Stop being defeated. You’re finding an excuse for everything. Knock it off. Nobody can pull you out of your shit negative way of thinking but yourself. You’re wasting time. Your choice, listen to the advice everyone gave you, or drown in that fucking puddle you’re wasting away in. Your choice.

            • Nobody@feddit.orgOPEnglish
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              2 months ago

              I have. 4 times, I am not finding excuses, just realise that not everyone is like you and not everyone is as lucky as you. And again fuck Joe Rogan, he’s a bully on steroids mocking things that I like. If anything I would feel weaker and humiliated following his videos.