I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

  • person420@lemmynsfw.com
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    4 months ago

    Complimenting another guy’s physique is a bit weird I think unless you’re trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.

    As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.

    As a hetero male, of course I’m happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I’m married and a women’s comment, while nice, isn’t actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).

    • waz@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      That is a tough situation.

      How about “Jesus, put the weights down occasionally and leave some pussy for the rest of us!”? It acknowledges your effort, but is clearly they are not trying to hit on you.

    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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      4 months ago

      At this point I’ll take what I can get. I put a lot of effort in my physique and pretty much only ever hear about from other dudes. I’ve had one woman mention it to me in 8 years. I don’t work out just to get complements but I’m happy with my results and it’d be nice to know I’m not delusional. I suspect part of the problem is that I’m very short for a dude, I hear about that all the time.