Just bought box wine the other day cuz I knew I had to have a super uncomfortable conversation that could not be avoided and I needed to be anaesthetized for it
It worked and I know in retrospect I really needed it to be that way
Edit/Update: person I had convo with just texted me and apologized for combativeness and I mutually apologized for not dealing with it sooner and we’re along and on to solution mode. The system works, please dont drink if you dont have too but dont forbid yourself from using a tool to improve your situation and try to always be honest. The less you lie or hide, the less influence you will have to unnecessarily drink
Anxiety is necessary sometimes. It’s fine to be anxious and it’s ok to be uncomfortable. You are having trouble managing your anxiety seek a therapist. Alcohol will trick you into thinking it’s a solution. Be careful, this is very similar to how my alcoholism and my fathers started.
Yes, I barely if ever drink alcohol. I’m not social and hate talking to people or crowds, I’m also pretty ND so I can’t fake or pretend I give a shit about what other people are talking.
Alcohol helps a lot, if I have to meet whoever and their friends and they’re asking me about work or how I would design an app that does blah blah I definitely need to be like 4 beers in to tolerate that conversation.
That being said I don’t drink for things like school presentations or other events that require me to speak, like conference stuff. I just bite the bullet and it sucks, but I’d rather be sober and speaking coherently than feeling like I am.
Hmmm, may drink strategically to dodge rules like no self brought alcohol on the festival, or a way to feel the effect good enough before needing to run to the bus.
But to deal with drama? No that I’m taking fully in so I can learn from it if someone similar happens again
Everyone high roading you here is probably on anti-anxiety meds lol
As a general policy I don’t drink alcohol if I feel I need a drink.
Oh absolutely. I don’t drink much outside parties (less and less nowadays) but I like having a stiff drink sometimes before doing something laborious or something requiring a bit of creativity. Nothing like a glass of whisky while messing around with the homelab servers.
My baseline circadian rhythm doesn’t let me get sleepy until the sun starts coming up. In a bygone era, I would’ve been the guy tending the fire and watching over the camp until the early birds got up. In the modern era, night shift jobs are generally terrible. I strategically drink to fall asleep at a somewhat reasonable hour, so I can participate in modern society.
I know everyone in here’s saying no but I do. If I’m going to a social occasion I might have a drink beforehand; not much, just enough to feel it. I’m not the most comfortable in social situations and a beer can just take the edge off. I don’t get drunk or anything and I’d only do it if there’s going to be alcohol there anyway.
I also drink sometimes to help me sleep. I have ADHD and I struggle to switch my brain off. Sometimes I hit like 2am and if I think I need it I have a bottle of whisky downstairs that I’ll go and have a drink off. Again, just enough to feel it. I have pills and medicine that help me sleep, and they work also, but they leave me feeling groggy the next day. With a little whisky I don’t even feel it the next day and it seems to work just as well. I don’t do it too often, maybe once every 3 or 4 weeks.
I strategically refrain from alcohol or other drug consumption. And my life has improved drastically ever since.
Whatever the reason that you feel you have to abuse drugs as a coping mechanism, it will only make things worse. You will not be able to process your emotions, you will not be able to think clear about what is your best way forward and you will not be able to grow stronger while drugged up.
The fact that you say you “needed to be anesthetized” for an uncomfortable conversation screams that you are either already having a drug abuse problem and that you have issues with your emotional regulation.
I am glad this is working for you, but not everyone has the same caustic relationship with recreational drugs that you do. Alcohol has been around since over 5000 years BC, but somehow you and a great deal of others have gone on this mini “prohibition” movement and have it all figured out. Good for you, but let’s not let this turn into a new movement where “I know better than you” becomes an excuse to tell others how to live their lives. Prohibition in the US started just like this.
I had the opposite situation several times. Conversations that involved fair quantities of alcohol derailed gradually, and afterwards I realized everyone’s attitude had shifted in a more aggressive direction, including my own. So this wouldn’t be a useful strategy for myself 😊.
fair enough
Short answer… no. Long answer… Noooooooooooooooooooo
PSA to the youngs who see Box of Wine and think QUANTITY.
Box of wine actually stays best longest because the tapped bag doesn’t take in O2 and start to sour. So box wine is usually pretty par for paced domestic drinking and cooking.
I’m sure someone has smashed the box, but they also serve people who are more likely to leave the last glass in the bottle too long.
Bought Box does not mean Drank Box.
I do this every time I go visit my father. His wife is a crazy narcissistic loon and I just cannot fucking stand being around her, so I drink when I’m there because it’s the only way I can tolerate being around her. But my dad drinks with me, so I dunno, our relationship has been so strained and awkward for so long, I think we both do it to ease some of that tension.
Yes, my strategy is I don’t drink and in turn I don’t get hangovers
