I’m being very specific for a reason. I think I have a clue what family bond love is, but I don’t think I had experienced any type of romance in my 34 years of life.

I’m aware this answer will vary, but that’s why I’m expecting diverse answers and then I could make a sum of all of them.

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    It’s just oxytocin…

    There’s no deep spiritual meaning/feeling.

    Just oxytocin, dopamine, and some other shit.

    Because of human variation, no two people will experience it exactly the same

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        I mean. That wasn’t an argument, that’s what happens

        It’s all hormones and neurotransmitters, and we can get accustomed to it. Then when we dont get it, our body’s don’t like it.

        A broken heart is just going thru withdraw.

        A rebound is just not quitting cold turkey.

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          I cant say you’re wrong, but it feels over simplified.

          Like if you had learned that water evaporates into the air and when there’s too much, it rains, and then said that’s it. That’s all rain is. You wouldn’t be wrong, but you’re leaving out all the other factors like air pressure, warm and cold fronts, and the muthafuckin Coriolis effect!

          Yes, it’s brain chemicals, but there’s also past trauma, core memories, and the muthafuckin Coriolis effect scrambling up those brain chemicals and turning them into brain hurricanes and hailstorms.

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          I’m expressing myself only because I’m well aware your description won’t be accepted by everyone since many give the human state of “in love” spiritual and even religious connotations.

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        Because of human variation, no two people will experience it exactly the same

        Because it’s incredibly subjective.

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      I don’t disagree with you about how it functions but would you say that differentiates romantic love from love for family or a pet for example?

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        Yeah, theres lots of different kinds, English just uses one word because English is (by and large) a shit language.

        The Greeks had like 5 or 6 different words, English just uses adjectives which is just as functional.

        However language changes the way we think. And English being so lazy like this leads to people “rediscovering” shit over and over.

        On a biological level, yeah, different things get different levels of different things.

        It’s a constant cocktail of shit, so different things hit different, even just randomly sometimes for no reason