My go to is the “See yourself as the price.”-approach. When you jokingly set her up that she is hitting on you. For example:
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Me: Oh I see, already trying to get me drunk, eh?
Be best friends with her for yyears. Then literally just look at each other, shrug and say “Meh…might as well fuck”.
Here is my favorite technique:
“First treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek goddess, then a person again.” -Shawn (Psych)
Treating some like a person first is really the most important thing. Everything else is optional but people like to be treated special for a while before being a person again.
You sound 12, no offense. It’s also “prize”, not “price”, within the context of what you said.
I find that cringe tbh. Just be curious about the other person and talk like a human, not like a creep. Asking shit like “are you trying to get time drunk?” might sound funny to a man, but it is a legitimate concern for women and makes you sound like an arrogant teenager.
How in hell did your rational take get downvoted… The Lemmy hive mind is certainly just as bad as Reddit’s.
Yep, the more you spend here the more you realize it’s just Reddit but ad-ftee lol
Become a ball of anxiety, never talk to them, remain alone.
Be a normal person around them without trying anything. If they like you, you’ll notice it.
… usually randomly 5 years afterward.
I have seen many women do this actually. Never worked
I have had friends say years after things like “oh I’d screw your brains out the second you wagged your finger at me”. Or “oh so men and women can’t be just friends” when they were interested in me and I was into them. I do flirt and show interest, rarely have any response, yet years later, when we are just friends (or if she or I are in a relationship) I get confessions. Maddening.
Prize, not price. And thinking unrealistically high of yourself will only attract low self-esteem girls. If that’s your thing, great for you.
The best strategy in my experience is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive. Self confidence is more attractive than narcissism, at least for my type of girl.
is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive.
If I’m understanding you correctly. Those things aren’t necessarily exclusive to each other in my opinion. I am constantly thinking of something funny to say because I like saying funny or flirtatious things. And you can learn these things, yet still hold true to oneself.
Yes, there is overlapping. You make an effort to say funny and witty things, partly because you think it will make you look smart, hence attractive, and partly because you enjoy making her laugh. Which part is the biggest influences how confident you seem.
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Wait are you hitting on them at their place of work, as a customer? Don’t fucking do that.
as a customer?
No, no, as her supervisor.
Ok, that’s funny. I’d go on a date with you.
“Hi, I’m an ultra boring nerd girl. I’m on several Fediverse platforms. …No, I don’t know Nicole. Please don’t follow me. No seriously please don’t.”
I’m not very good at socialising, sorry
swoon
Being near them for 4 years as a casual acquaintance and hoping they eventually initiate something.
And how’s that going for ya?
For guys, saying “hi”.
For girls, I have to go hunting a Dragon with the sword of King Arthur to be considered worth of a cup of coffee.
Must a be one hell of a coffee.
Showing genuine interest in their personality and hobbies with eye contact. Asking questions about the aforementioned hobbies.
If you ever have the opposite situation, like say you are taken but someone has started flirting with you. You can either say you are spoken for or do the opposite of the above advice and talk only about yourself, adding some petty complaints about your life in general.
Lost me at “eye contact”.
In my experience flirting effectively has been about being open to possibility without becoming attached to any particular outcome. Someone sent me this video as a joke years ago and I’ve come back to it dozens of time because there’s a lot of truth hiding behind the silliness. We view flirting as thing you do, but I prefer to see flirtatiousness as a mindset I sometimes embody. https://youtu.be/B4g-IlGtpZg
What a cool video, thank you!
Completely ignoring and never talking to them.
I’m kind of bad at actively flirting with someone. My flirting technique is to be interesting to look at while I listen intently. But it’s kind of worked out for me so who knows?
be interesting to look at
Do you mean, like, facial expression, makeup, or…?
