I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.
If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?
I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.
If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?
Based on your comments here, and your post history, it sounds like you may live somewhere with an awful culture. It also sounds like you’re really negative and disdainful of others, and also pretty passive, being willing to move twice for strangers who wanted your table. All this sets you up for a bad time.
The way to not be bullied is to not let yourself be bullied. Don’t give someone else the power to decide how you feel. Laugh at them or ignore them and move on instead of dwelling in anger or resentment.
I live in the US, and while bullying does happen, it’s far outside the norm. I’ve never experienced it in my professional life, and instances even when I worked retail and grocery when I was younger were always addressed. Bullying is something children do, and adults with personality problems.
Thanks for looking at my post history. I’m sure if I told him I won’t move, I would be labelled as aggressive, uncooperative and problem creating.
You can never win.
“You seem so disdainful” yeah maybe it’s because I’m nice to people every day and all I do is get treated like fucking garbage and this is my only outlet
Still don’t appreciate you trying to insinuate it’s my fault
Almost every single reply of yours in this post is negative and accusatory toward the person you’re replying to. Maybe your definition of “nice” doesn’t quite jive with many others’ definitions.
If you define winning as everybody always liking you and nobody ever having a bad opinion of you then yes, you can never win.
The trick is not to define “winning” as some impossible task like everyone always liking you.
I don’t know if I was insinuating that your experience here is your fault as much as I was giving explicit reasons why it’s probably your fault.
Labelled by who? The stranger who wants your table? And then what? And why do you care? This is all you, trying to people please and avoid conflict. Assertiveness is a skill you can learn and would go a long way toward helping you with the problem you’re describing.
You’re being unnecessarily antagonistic
I added “And why do you care?”, but you didn’t respond to anything I said anyway, so why does it matter
It helps to be a tad more productive/casual in one’s responses to things like this, not give someone the Foghorn Leghorn treatment and expect it to be the final word.
If I expected what I said to be the final word, why would I have cared about them straight up ignoring what I said. If they didn’t want an honest response to their problem, they shouldn’t have asked a question in this community. Also do you mean “productive/casual” or “superficial/pleasant”
You’re being thick-skulled.
We are telling you what the problem is. Listen, or continue to have the problem. It’s your choice.
There’s a difference between being nice and letting people walk all over you.
I mean to say, I always begin each interaction with being nice. I don’t come to them with a crap mood or aggression
Ethics is more complicated than you think it is.
There is absolutely no reason that the set of rules you learned first would be the actual set of rules that governs people.
As you have learned, being non-aggressive is not sufficient strategy to avoid others’ aggression.
There’s no reason to think it would be, except that it was in kindergarten when large authority giants would easily overpower any aggressor, and would by policy do so on behalf of the nonagressive ones.
Don’t confuse kindergarten rules for global culture. Huge mistake.
Actual culture evolved from nature, and in nature in order to protect yourself you must retaliate when attacked. Every organism has weapons. Every organism.
Meditate on that. Why would every organism use some of its previous energy budget building weapons? Why would evolution select for that 100% of the time?