Hi friends ,

I’ve known my best friend since I was 6 years old. He’s always been very, very successful. I’ve always looked up to him, and still do.

A couple of years ago, I confronted him about Elon. I was very concerned. Elon was becoming something I could no longer support. My friend said that he would support Tesla through thick and thin, and here we are today.

He’s made a lot of money off of Elon and I’m happy for him, but I am very concerned that I should not be supporting someone that’s making a living off of someone that possibly is a Nazi. I’m considering ending my friendship. I want to do the right thing. I care about you. I care about us, and I’m very scared for our future.

I’m asking you for advice on whether or not I should give up on my best friend. We’ve been friends for almost 40 years, and I love him dearly. I’m crying right now making these statements. Should I still seek his support?

I am just so angry. My world is becoming so hostile, and I don’t know if I should separate myself from the negative influences around me. What do you guys think?

  • intensely_human@lemm.ee
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    5 days ago

    If you define people who see things differently than you as negative, then your world will only get increasingly hostile.

    My advice is to spend time with people who are chill. Pay attention to which of your friends spend their time expressing hostility, which of your friends tend to define themselves by whom they hate, which of your friends spends time talking about who should be hated, who’s worthy of hate, etc. Then cut out those friends.

    I mean, if you want “the world” to seem less hostile, that’s your best bet. Cut the most hostile people out of your life.

    And if you aren’t sure who’s the most hostile, just spend some time noticing what people do, where they put their focus, how they choose to use their heart day to day. Hostility is an emotion, a stance, an energy, a vibe.

    Therefore the way to reduce the hostility of “the world” (as you experience it) starts with regular vibe checks: “Is this person promoting hostility right now?”