She lives to work
He works to live
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Or she grew up in a society where women have to overachieve in order to get the same recognition as men and now she struggles with a need for external validation like many other women.
This must be doubly as true for sectors like IT.
I think I just learned how to understand my wife a little better.
I hate my bitch husband.
What an absolute cretin.
This is the type of marketing usually reserved for onlyfans contractors.
What I read: I require external validation instead of finding it from within.
Realistically all these achievements mean nothing when you die and are forgotten. It doesn’t necessarily invalidate the work and accomplishments but I’d argue it doesn’t give an individual the “higher ground” to belittle a partner on social media; they may not value it the same.
I require external validation instead of finding it from within.
I am not on LinkedIn, but from the outside this seems to be the trend there.
Where is the belittling?
Is this a rhetorical question? Or does this comes down to perspective? For the latter I would explain it as me seeing contempt from this person’s messaging around their partner seeming OK with not achieving things she defines as important. She then takes, what I would consider a personal conversation, to social media for what I can only assume is support from like-minded people to validate her.
TL;DR the premise itself is belittling
Is it? It seems more introspective than anything. She acknowledges her initial confusion at his contentment despite not achieving those things, then turns right around to ask why she herself has trouble finding contentment that way. She only really brings up the “belittling” comments to immediately subvert them.
“Founder @ Hacker in Heels”
Yikes
And CEO !
How did I miss that? Edited, thanks
The board meetings must be a riot 🤣
The board meeting: the hacker in heels having a conversation while facing a mirror.
The answer is patriarchy and if you think this is her trashing him instead society pressuring her, then check your privilege.
You used the bad p words: patriarchy and privilege. How dare you?!
Correct. Sadly, conversations about gender inequality is beyond the grasp of most on Lemmy.
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Those who can, do.
Those who can’t, certify.
There is a sketch in Poland about freudian slips. Two guys are talking in a bar about them, one tells a story of him dancing in a club, seeing an attractive blonde, approaching her, wanting to say “can I have this dance?” but instead saying “can I have this breast?”, getting slapped and wasting his “chance”. So the other, married dude goes “oh yeah I know that feel, I wanted to ask my wife to pass the salt but I thought about other things and instead I said ‘you old whore you wasted 30 years of my life’”.
It feels to me like the dude will have a similar freudian slip at some time of his life.
It’s funny. I got a promotion a bit ago and I announced happily to my family that my career progression has ended for good.
I don’t want to grow in responsibility, in don’t want to work extra hours, I don’t want to study for work, I don’t want to “network”.
If yearly rises somewhat follow the cost of living (relatively common in my workplace), I don’t even want to job hop.
I want to cruise at work and live my life.
Some still don’t understand because “line go up” mentality.
Dated someone like this. She needed constant external validation. Had self-esteem issues. Narcissistic. Never satisfied. Extreme anxiety. Separation anxiety. Hot and cold all the time. Always hopping from new infatuation to the next.
I was already deep in corporate and she couldn’t understand why I was content when I found something stable. We split when I got tired of the constant cheating and dumped her. Everything was a pissing contest and she always had to win. She was furious I dumped her first, even.
She’s successful now but still never content. Found out she was bipolar which explains so much from the past.
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Hah, you never know. She does go through partners at an incredible rate.
Have a friend same kinda deal. Not the cheating thing but is poly so it’s a vibe. Grew up poor, got a degree decent job decent pay. The MOMENT she got stable she wanted to go back to school for a doctorate. Student loans, stressing herself out to high hell. Current events got her having mega breakdowns cuz her field is affected. Broke again. The cycle continues
Edit: also bipolar…clearly
JFC what a sociopath.
If you actually read the post, she’s not “blasting” her husband. She’s seeing him be perfectly content without chasing all those markers of career success, and questioning why she cannot do the same. She’s realising that she relies on external validation to feel happy, and that that’s not a good thing.
Yeah she doesn’t speak bad about him for it. She does pose the question at the end to others if it would change their views of people they knew if they didn’t want those types of accomplishments though. She doesn’t answer if it does herself necessarily, so there is not really any clear answer. It’s pointless to analyse.
That’s the kind of people who constantly change positions, switch projects, get promoted etc. The success of the projects depends on stable people like her husband.
These people in the comments are so fragile.
Not only that a whole lot of people here don’t have reading comprehension, the level of salt and misogyny are weird and not in a good way…
people misinterpret something
must be misogyny?
It’s the literal definition of a humblebrag though. Or at the very least, worded in a bait-ey way to try and get attention from appearing to be controversial. If you strip away the style and fluff from the post, then yes you can read it in the way you’re saying. But that controversial-ness is clearly intentional.
At the most charitable, it’s a failed attempt at humor. The less charitable read is that the second half of the post is just providing some plausible deniability to her being yet another insufferable Linkedin self-promoter.
Is it blasting though when she then turns it against herself? She’s actually asking what it is that makes her need outside validation to feel good.
