I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.
You’re allowed to have romantic feelings to people you’re not sexually attracted to! Been through something similar on my journey, what I thought was attraction was envy and had the oops I’m trans moment, and turns out I’m kinda not sexually attracted to people’s bodies. Still attracted to people, but for who they are and how they act rather than for what they look like. This really helped me figure out my attraction to men, because obviously I felt different about them than women and didn’t have the feelings about them physically (gender envy in disguise) but still had feelings for them, without that physical attraction. Ended up hooking up with some guys and liked it/them. Certainly not suggesting this is the case with you, just… Attraction, romantic and sexual, are complicated things, and it’s ok to not have it all figured out. Just try to keep an open mind for yourself, it’s a lot easier to question yourself and reflect when all answers are acceptable, you know?