So I used to run a successful construction business but last year an accident happened during an assignment & not only did the business go bankrupt but also went into huge debt from all the legal stuff I had to pay off. Sold house, sold cars, sold everything valuable. Now I have a day job which doesn’t pay super well. I have a son and I feel like I’m letting him down, even though he’d never admit it; on the contrary, he always comforts me & tells me he’s happy with what we have. I basically cut off all of my personal expenses to spend the money on him. I feel so bad everyday.

  • Kyrgizion@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    People with depression often fall into this trap. You set a standard you can’t possibly reach and then get upset you aren’t reaching said impossible standard.

    Nah, plenty of us set teeny, tiny, attainable goals and then still consistently fail to reach them for decades. It’s called being totally inept or an idiot. Unfortunately there’s no cure except switft application of lead suppositories.

      • Kyrgizion@lemmy.world
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        3 days ago

        Touché.

        I meant clearly easily attainable by others. If I start comparing myself to them, well, it’s like comparing a '97 Pinto vs a 2022 EV.

        • GetOffMyLan@programming.dev
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          3 days ago

          Indeed. But everyone has different levels of ability. Again mental health can drastically increase this difference.

          My advice for dealing with this is using yourself as the measuring stick. Are you better than you were a year ago? Etc.

          Aim to beat your personal best and that’s still good progress.