• callyral [he/they]@pawb.socialEnglish
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    10 days ago

    even though inferior men seem to have no problem doing so

    there’s his problem. thinking of others as inferior (and of yourself as “superior”) is egocentric.

  • Gjolin@lemmy.ml
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    9 days ago

    I’m going to go a bit against the trend here and say that his main issues are probably a lack of social opportunities (he’s probably some kind of techbro living in a sausage factory) and an inability to play his part in terms of making the moves.

    If it necessitated a good personality to attract women, as you all on here seem to believe, the world would be a much better place than it really is. And I also find it ironic that the implication is that women are somehow the better sex that is above the same ugly worldviews that a man might have. Again, I do not see any evidence for that. Think of the most evil man along any dimension and he had a woman or multiple ones.

  • ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    The hardest thing to change for 4channers is losing the right wing, authoritarian, hierarchy stuff. Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people and they will treat you the same. The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don’t care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.

    • Track_Shovel@slrpnk.netOPEnglish
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      10 days ago

      I get it. I was young once, and my lizard brain did all the driving. I didn’t pull my head out of my ass until 27, and the pop could be heard around the globe. That actually coincides with the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27. Life before then seems so unbelievably cringeworthy.

      The thing, though is that men in general do not bond or mentor each other, generally, or at the very least, we don’t surround ourselves with people who we can learn from, because funni.

      Men need to work on helping each other grow. Memes are great. Booze is fun. However, there should be something deeper than context based friendships, and that all starts with being comfortable talking and being somewhat vulnerable with each other, and honest with ourselves about what we are feeling internally.

      • kautau@lemmy.world
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        10 days ago

        I would argue that “men don’t bond” if they were raised on the alpha male bullshit you escaped from on the internet. I met my best friend in high school, we went to college together, and then he moved across the country over 10 years ago. We’re both in our early thirties now. But we chat still nearly every weekend, talk about life, boost each other’s spirits, chat politics, hopes, dreams, regrets, give each other advice based on our individual experiences. We never were part of the “kick each other in the balls = friendship” crowd, and while it’s certainly there, I think that saying generally men all feel that way is a bit disingenuous

      • Rolando@lemmy.world
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        10 days ago

        the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27.

        Wait, what? I don’t think I got the memo on that one. This isn’t some “manosphere” thing, is it?

    • uis@lemm.ee
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      9 days ago

      The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don’t care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.

      Sometimes hormone level go so high, that 4channers shart to develop academia-level projects and (presumably) inspire MIT researchers. I talk specifically about PPP from /mlp/, but there is also /chag/.

    • Night Monkey@sh.itjust.works
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      10 days ago

      😂 political beliefs have nothing to do with this. If you’re a creep and have the personality of a roll of duct tape you probably won’t attract anybody. Political affiliation or religion has zero to do with any of it. These people are just mental midgets.

  • li10@feddit.ukEnglish
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    10 days ago

    Always going on about height 🙄

    Yes, there are some women who will outright say no due to height, but don’t act holier than thou like you don’t have any physical preferences that you would choose if given the option.

    It’s also not the dealbreaker they think it is most of the time, it’s just cope so they can blame something out of their control and say that it’s women’s fault for being shallow.

    • MutilationWave@lemmy.world
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      9 days ago

      You’re right, but untalls really got the short end of the stick. The most desperate virgin I’ve ever spent time with was 5 foot nothing, fat, ugly as fuck with a fucking haircut that looks like his mom cut it for him.

      Those are a lot of hurdles to jump, but he insisted that he was the most masculine man. Full testosterone top to bottom. He was an absolute creep with women and annoying as fuck to everyone. He was so unaware that he was spouting his conservative bullshit in a park slope bar and he kept laughing at the guy who said he was going to beat his ass. I dragged him out of there.

      He rode a Ducati bike that he had to sit side saddle at red lights because his feet didn’t reach the ground. We worked together on a few jobs but we were in Brooklyn for three months. He’s the most pathetic person I’ve ever met and it fucked with me that he was so happy and upbeat while I was a miserable alcoholic at the time.

    • watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      9 days ago

      Two of my exes were significantly shorter than me, and I think at least half of them were my height or shorter. I don’t give a fuck, height is such an unimportant and arbitrary characteristic. I don’t know many women who care about it.

      But I guess if you’re looking for shallow contact, you’ll find shallow people.

    • S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      10 days ago

      Yeah the guy could work in not viewing success in a vagina access based way. That would help hus personality for sure.

      • [email protected]@sh.itjust.works
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        10 days ago

        When in that state, it’s immensely difficult to understand what exactly is going wrong, let alone fix it. I still remember being an awkward idiot kid confused about my isolation, flailing at shadows and endlessly making a nuisance of myself by reveling in the discomfort my presence bred. Misery one way glass. Hope anon finds someone to pass him notes.