Women USUALLY have less problems showing vulnerable emotions like crying, people, even sometimes strangers will ask her if everything’s fine… Boys on the other hand can’t show weakness, especially adults. You’re a failure or less of a man if you cry and you need to keep it all inside. If you’re a family man it’s even worse, you’re usually the rock of the family.
Depends on where you are. It is an idea that originated from patriarchal structures and is today enforced by both men and women. Patriarchy fucks us all, let’s dismantle it.
Right, and that leads to issues with men seeking help. Men don’t get needed therapy at the same rate, and our suicide rates are way higher. So I guess one can answer your original question with: women can get help without as much social stigma.
Note to anyone reading: It’s not weak to see a physical therapist, so it’s not weak to see a mental one. You see a therapist to be strong, regardless of the which part of your body (muscles or brain) you’re training. You also don’t need to be having an issue in order to get therapy. Sometimes it’s just nice to talk through everyday things, and learn ways to cope with small things.
So I would never cry in public (I almost never cry really) and I think I have just as hard of a time asking for help carrying anything as a guy would, I’m not even sure I’d have an easier time accepting the help when offered. Even when I had a broken foot I remember a guy from across the street waving me down and offering to help me carry whateve bags I had with me and I was like “thanks I’m fine!”, but I totally could have used the help. So maybe it’s just my perception that nothing is different for me…? I mean I see the obvious differences in the way guys behave towards us vs other males (and honestly I like the chivalry when it happens) but I guess, as I think about it, I don’t attach different rules to myself.
Hope there’s enough people to answer…
To make this a more balanced “poll” I’ll do another post for the guys too later on.
I’m here and happy to answer but I honestly can’t think of anything! Do you have any examples of types of things you’re looking for?
Women USUALLY have less problems showing vulnerable emotions like crying, people, even sometimes strangers will ask her if everything’s fine… Boys on the other hand can’t show weakness, especially adults. You’re a failure or less of a man if you cry and you need to keep it all inside. If you’re a family man it’s even worse, you’re usually the rock of the family.
Yup. Patriarchy is a bitch.
It’s mostly women who enforce this behavior, not men. If you want to call that patriarchy, I think you’re applying the term a little too broadly
Depends on where you are. It is an idea that originated from patriarchal structures and is today enforced by both men and women. Patriarchy fucks us all, let’s dismantle it.
Ok. How, specifically, in this case?
Right, and that leads to issues with men seeking help. Men don’t get needed therapy at the same rate, and our suicide rates are way higher. So I guess one can answer your original question with: women can get help without as much social stigma.
Note to anyone reading: It’s not weak to see a physical therapist, so it’s not weak to see a mental one. You see a therapist to be strong, regardless of the which part of your body (muscles or brain) you’re training. You also don’t need to be having an issue in order to get therapy. Sometimes it’s just nice to talk through everyday things, and learn ways to cope with small things.
A few answers so far:
If I cry in public people will ask if I’m okay
I can ask for help with heavy/awkward things
I can just hand a meat cleaver to my friend in a public library and no one will be freaked out
So I would never cry in public (I almost never cry really) and I think I have just as hard of a time asking for help carrying anything as a guy would, I’m not even sure I’d have an easier time accepting the help when offered. Even when I had a broken foot I remember a guy from across the street waving me down and offering to help me carry whateve bags I had with me and I was like “thanks I’m fine!”, but I totally could have used the help. So maybe it’s just my perception that nothing is different for me…? I mean I see the obvious differences in the way guys behave towards us vs other males (and honestly I like the chivalry when it happens) but I guess, as I think about it, I don’t attach different rules to myself.
The meat cleaver thing cracks me up though!
Classic library meat cleaver!