• I Cast Fist@programming.dev
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    4 months ago

    What I want to know is if our friend there would be up for a game of Tarot. He has the cards, just gotta learn how to play!

  • DarkSirrush@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    Isn’t this the guy who married an old woman in part because she hated her family and wanted them to get nothing?

    I mean, they apparently had a very wholesome and good relationship, but it was definitely a relationship founded in part of spite on her end.

    The relationship saved his life though. She took him off the streets, gave him a loving home, helped him enjoy life again, and then passed on after giving him everything in her will.

  • henfredemars@infosec.pubEnglish
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    4 months ago

    To a surprising extent you can infer a lot about a person directly from appearances and circumstance. I learned this through people watching when I was in school. It can be a fun hobby realizing how much you can conclude, but there’s a dark side to the skill of judging a book by its cover.

    It’s a dangerous and addictive path because it’ll feel like the sheer number of times you’re right outweighs the scarce few when you’re wrong, diminishing the significance of those people who you misjudged. The moment you begin taking actions based on those inferences you must realize there’s a difference between statistical likelihood and fact. Being right 99% of the time is a fascinating skill. Being wrong even once and treating a person based on those assumptions makes you an asshole. Rhetorically speaking, ask me how I know.

    Yes, I understand the point of this post is in the gullibility, but I wanted to share anyway because I find it fascinating that it seems simultaneously true that you can judge a book by its cover, but at the same time you can’t because those are still assumptions and not completely infallible.

    • ricecake@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      A lot of it is also casting a wide net, and relying on people remembering your accuracy more than your inaccuracy.
      “I’m getting the feeling that there was someone you were close with who’s no longer in your life, and that their departure happened in the fall or winter, or around then.”

      Everyone has someone die or lose touch, and the given timeframe is nearly the entire year. The person will likely tell you the hit, and then you can build on it by agreeing with the detail they shared.

    • SirDerpy@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      I’m sometimes hesitant to speak to people because I can’t remember if they told me the personal thing or I deduced it.

    • The Snark Urge@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      4 months ago

      Good nuance in that. People are and aren’t simple, we contain multitudes without trying to be obfuscatory. Stay humble in your estimations of others.

  • Rolando@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    So there’s one approach to fortune-telling where you convince them that you have some magical ability to figure out their secrets, and then you use cold-reading techniques to trick them into thinking you have mystic powers.

    But there’s a better approach where you give someone an open-ended set of symbols, and you use those to help the person think through the issues in their life. You’re giving them the opportunity to reflect on things from a new perspective.

    • a Tarot card might have symbols for “loss in worldly matters” and be in a position that represents their past
    • another card might have symbols for “an older person, very patient” and be in a position that represents their current circumstances
    • another card might have symbols for “the end of a time of plenty” and be in a position that represents the conflict of their current circumstances
    • another card might have symbols for “gain through cooperation” and be in a position that represents their future

    So you talk to the person and describe what each card means, and they think about how it applies to their life. They might ask questions like: “does ‘loss in worldly matters’ mean money?” and you say “sure, it can, or it can mean something else like being reprimanded at work.” and they might say “oh, I think in my case it means (whatever).” And then you can think together how that applies to the rest of the reading. People have a lot of things going on in their lives, things can just slip by, and this gives them a chance to step back and think it all over.

    • radix@lemm.ee
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      4 months ago

      Someone did my tarot recently, and I didn’t realize the second way existed. Paired with introspection after the fact, the experience was quite therapeutic.

  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.netOPEnglish
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    4 months ago

    I actually find this wholesome because while dude was initially mocking tarots, what he was really doing was being an active listener and being available for people.

    So I’m all for this type of “prank”.