• FRYD@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    12 days ago

    I have a playlist of songs that I can’t stop myself from singing along to. That usually helps a ton.

        • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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          9 days ago

          If you we’re in my neighborhood I would feed youm that goes for anyone.

          There’s that ‘lasagna for love’ organization, I’ve never used it, but I’ve heard about it. Give it a go?

          I hate using Amazon, and I am absolutely on snap, but maybe I could send you some noodles or something? You just set up a list and I can purchase it for you.

          A number of years ago, reddit had that page, idk the name I forgot, but so many people sent us food when we were struggling. I absolutely can pay it forward today. Lmk

          • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
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            9 days ago

            I really do appreciate that from the bottom of my heart. That being said I’m trying to keep a level of animioty between myself and the internet.

            I’m willing to give up that animioty for full time employment if you’re in a position to help with that.

            I need a job over a hand out. Once again I very much appreciate the offer.

        • AlgonquinHawk@lemmy.ml
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          11 days ago

          Any support circles in the community that can help government or otherwise? Some really nice people in those organizations that are ready to lend a hand

          • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
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            12 days ago

            Pets annoy the hell out me. I hate animals to a point where I became a vegetarian years ago. I’m not trolling, I’m 100% serious.

            • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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              9 days ago

              I don’t hate animals, but pets are expensive. Just spent $225 yesterday on an ear infection. My cat has an allergy we cant figure out. We can’t afford it. Recommending a pet to even a person who likes animals, but stuggles financially isn’t good advice.

              This is my first pet, and I probably won’t get another just because cost is high for vet care and food/litter. We have two cats and we spend probably $200 a month or more just for necessities before vet visits. Flea/tick meds are monthly and $100 just for the two of em. So make that $300 a month on necessities, aye…

        • Victor@lemmy.world
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          12 days ago

          I’m glad you are open about it. That’s a good thing. Are you open about it to anyone close to you in your life? Or not close to you? A therapist even?

          • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
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            12 days ago

            I’ve been out of work since April. Trump stop funding the government department that employed me. Instead he sends troops to cities. As an American I can’t afford a therapist. Even if I had insurance I’ve had nothing but bad experience with therepy. I don’t have family that will help me. I’m going hungry most days to stretch my budget.

            In a couple months I turn 40.

            • Victor@lemmy.world
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              11 days ago

              I’m sorry this is happening to you. Maybe you could live with someone as a room mate until things turn around.

              How’s job hunting? Are you active in that?

              I hope your birthday will be a good day, buddy. Cheers!

        • Victor@lemmy.world
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          12 days ago

          If you’re in a rough mood, you would rather pet your cats than have sex if you could choose, is what you’re saying? Not judging, just trying to gain perspective.

          Male/female/other?

          • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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            12 days ago

            Sometimes what we would choose isn’t what’s best for us.

            There’s just something about sitting in a depressed lump on the couch and having a cat hop up and snuggle into your lap that does wonders for your psyche.

            I am male, the cats vary.

            • Victor@lemmy.world
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              11 days ago

              I mean, I had several cats over a span of 22 years, but sex is much better for my psyche. 😅 Whatever makes you feel good though, friend, that’s what you do!

    • toomanypancakes@piefed.worldOPEnglish
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      12 days ago

      My dad’s been trying to get me into that, I’ve gone on a couple rides with him on a 1970s Yamaha 500, I forget the exact model. I focus mostly on what I’m doing and what I need to do coming up while I’m riding, don’t suppose you know how to stress less and focus on the experience more while you’re riding? Is it just an experience issue?

      • FigMcLargeHuge@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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        12 days ago

        As a rider for 40+ years now, I can honestly tell you that I still get the jitters at times, especially when I am on a new bike but I don’t compare that to stress. I find that even when I am nervous on a bike, I still get off the ride and have less stress than when I started the ride. It’s been a long time since I was a new rider, but I have watched a couple of my kids get started and remember the feelings when you are trying to figure out shifting, clutch work, braking and the rest of what goes along with it. I think you nailed it on the head though, and experience will make that part of the ride all but disappear into muscle memory. When you get comfortable with that part of the ride I find that’s when it becomes more of a relaxing time for me. That might sound wrong, but it’s not like I let my guard down, it’s more like the feeling when you are so focused on one thing that everything else fades into the distance. When I am out for a ride things like bills, work, all of the stressors of life just take a backseat. I also don’t play music while I am riding, although I do have a couple of tunes that my brain seems to just belt out as I am going along. That’s when you know you are in the zone, when you start singing a song to yourself. I have two songs that come up all the time, and oddly enough they aren’t really the type of music I listen to, but hey the brain is a funny thing. First is the Smokey and the Bandit song - Eastbound and down… And the second for some ungodly reason is the opening theme song for Gilligan’s Island. Don’t ask…

        I am curious what other riders have as their head music when they are riding. Now get out there and ride more with your Dad. I am sure it means a lot to him to have you along. You are welcome to ride with me as well. And let me know what song pops up in your head when it happens.