There’s this guy in my neighbourhood who apparently I find very attractive 😂 I didn’t realize that until recently, I always avoided him until one day I had to talk to him and I turned red and started smiling like an idiot.
This happened twice and both times, when I got home, I started crying… not because of what happened, but it felt as if I was losing something??
All I know about this “reaction” is that this guy isn’t my usual type, I just find him physically attractive and when I get home I cry and think about those guys I actually felt a lot for (mostly platonically) and it hurts 🤕 wtf
And today I was almost telling myself to “stay on track”??? Like thinking about the others and thinking “that’s the life you want, that’s what would make you happy” and just wishing this didn’t have such an effect on me.
Did you just… Say all cis women are attracted to 2 types men? A ‘stud’ and a ‘dependable’ type? Because they are also the only types and never shall the two combine?
Like, all of us women? All of us?
Which cartoon told you this? And who told you to repeat this strange teen movie trope with such a sense of confidence?
Wtaf
Did you just read someone’s comment with the least possible generosity you could? Why?
I have very few feelings of generosity for men explaining the apparently concrete and defined preferences of women, especially when they’re the dated, stereotypical and unfounded assertions that underpin the incel and PUA ideologies.
OP seems young and naive given the content of her question. His response to her gives her the impression of experience and a confidence in ‘how things are’ and it’s 4chan bullshit.
I’ll save my generosity for people more deserving.
You give yourself the impression of experience and confidence in ‘how things are’, I actually think you are the naive one. And assuming you’re not young since you called me that, I’d say you’re the dangerous type of naive.
Oh I read your responses and it confirmed my initial thoughts.
I had nothing useful to provide you in terms of your original post and others have attempted here and you seem happy with their answers.
But I don’t read tripe like the reductive, false waffle that guy wrote and not call it out. I write how I speak. I don’t speak in slogans so I’m not sure what you’re referring to.
I’m likely old in relative terms to you, yes. Young isn’t an insult. It’s contextualising my scorn (to use your word) for his response to someone who is.
You’re pretty fired up in your responses to me. I only hope you grow to direct that passion towards people espousing that drivel he wrote instead.
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Did you really just not even finish the first paragraph after reading the first sentence?.. The second sentence is literally “Obviously best combined in one person”
But just those 2 right? Because that’s… How our brains are wired or something? Based on… Something you saw in a movie from 1997 or something?
That’s not what it said at all but good for you people. Your thought says more about the way you are: don’t read, don’t understand but just speak in the way that gets you approval.
That’s NOT the meaning of the message, and before reading this comment I read it and totally got what it meant.
Simply put, one person wasn’t that worried about the upvotes but making the message easier = communicating with me, not thinking about how someone could take the initial draft of a thought just to find faults in it and twist it around.
And the other is here just for upvotes, didn’t even bother to answer my question ??
We could find faults in anyone’s answers here, but obviously you go for what would trigger most people and then you feel happy and satisfied. Even if you had understood the message and was doing it for the right purpose, that’s not the way to go about it. And the dynamic is pretty clear, just look at people’s reactions… Sad. When something gets hype on the internet there’s something wrong with it, just a reminder. Hope this clarifies things a bit.
If people wanted to readn and understand the whole message it is pretty clear, and clearly it was just an initial draft and clearly it could go different ways since he was just outlining his thought, “simple attraction to this, but society (…)” vs “commitment, normality, etc.”. And this outline can then be applied to the different things one could be judged for and the different things that different societies find normal.
Don’t assume others are as “stupid” as you are. Maybe sometimes it’s you who’s not comprehending. Also he’s talking about judgment and how that is wrong, wtf with you saying he’s saying just that? HE WAS TALKING AGAINST THAT.
SINCE LATER IN HIS POST HE TALKED ABOUT SLUT SHAMING IT’S PRETTY CLEAR HIS MESSAGE WAS NOT TO BE READ THE WAY YOU WANTED TO, CAUSE THAT’S NOT WHAT HE MEANT, THAT’S NOT THE WAY HE IS. So really shame on you for this, this to me is criminal.
This was just sad, annoying and useless in the way it was discussed with the misunderstood party AND useless to the entire post.
Stfu
I love you, you understand me. I completely agree with everything you wrote. Of course there aren’t only 2 types in total. I just thought what you wrote sounded like these 2 types.
And the answer to mine and the downvotes are exactly what I’m talking about, they are the social conditioning speaking. My views have to be dismissed without looking at what I’m actually saying, because it goes against this conditioning. No one is actually talking about your problem/issue/question anymore.
Luckily I don’t care about downvotes/disagreement. If someone is clearly not even reading past the first sentence I don’t need to spend my energy engaging with them more, trying to work against their offendedness.
Even the way you express yourself and use emphasis… Really I’m happy for you, you surely have no problem in navigating our kind of world.
This is so ridiculous, I’m glad I didn’t see this when answering him cause now I get it even better, how ridiculous it is.