There’s this guy in my neighbourhood who apparently I find very attractive 😂 I didn’t realize that until recently, I always avoided him until one day I had to talk to him and I turned red and started smiling like an idiot.

This happened twice and both times, when I got home, I started crying… not because of what happened, but it felt as if I was losing something??

All I know about this “reaction” is that this guy isn’t my usual type, I just find him physically attractive and when I get home I cry and think about those guys I actually felt a lot for (mostly platonically) and it hurts 🤕 wtf

And today I was almost telling myself to “stay on track”??? Like thinking about the others and thinking “that’s the life you want, that’s what would make you happy” and just wishing this didn’t have such an effect on me.

    • boogetyboo@aussie.zone
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      2 months ago

      I have very few feelings of generosity for men explaining the apparently concrete and defined preferences of women, especially when they’re the dated, stereotypical and unfounded assertions that underpin the incel and PUA ideologies.

      OP seems young and naive given the content of her question. His response to her gives her the impression of experience and a confidence in ‘how things are’ and it’s 4chan bullshit.

      I’ll save my generosity for people more deserving.

      • Colorfulhipp@lemmy.worldOP
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        2 months ago
        • You don’t bother answering the post
        • you don’t bother having a mature discussion with the person you’re disagreeing with
        • not even responding to my answer and explanation, I’m not even sure you bothered to read it or anything else at all
        • from the way you spoke here I wouldn’t say you’re a reader in general, you’re just tuned to some other channel and live in your bubble.
        • Your hobby is judging other people in other bubbles.
        • you probably don’t have an answer other than just repeating your slogans, because there’s no way to justify your behavior and you probably don’t even get it
        • you speak with scorn and can’t give an answer to discussions unless it permits you to say what you have already prepared. That says a lot about you.

        You give yourself the impression of experience and confidence in ‘how things are’, I actually think you are the naive one. And assuming you’re not young since you called me that, I’d say you’re the dangerous type of naive.

        • boogetyboo@aussie.zone
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          2 months ago

          Oh I read your responses and it confirmed my initial thoughts.

          I had nothing useful to provide you in terms of your original post and others have attempted here and you seem happy with their answers.

          But I don’t read tripe like the reductive, false waffle that guy wrote and not call it out. I write how I speak. I don’t speak in slogans so I’m not sure what you’re referring to.

          I’m likely old in relative terms to you, yes. Young isn’t an insult. It’s contextualising my scorn (to use your word) for his response to someone who is.

          You’re pretty fired up in your responses to me. I only hope you grow to direct that passion towards people espousing that drivel he wrote instead.