Edit: I just realized this is more a meme community, if this is not allowed please remove my question

My wife has ADHD, she was officially diagnosed. I never got tested but I would not at all be surprised if I have ADD or ADHD.

My son is almost 6 and I think it’s very possible he will develop ADHD.

At school he is the ony child that has his own little desk, because he gets very distracted working in a group.

At home he can completely get absorbed in something he does, like lego or watching tv. To the point where I have to turn the TV off to ask him a question (otherwise he just doesn’t respond at all). He forgets to eat or drink when we don’t ask him multiple times.

I would like to hear from people that have ADHD, what would you have liked your parents would have done when you where really young?

For example would you think it’s better to try to get a diagnose asap or would it be better to wait until he is older?

What other things could work to get daily things done? Like getting dressed without me having to ask 16 times.

  • Tuukka R@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Not much time to write a better answer, but here’s something that worked for me (for first).

    My parents believed they would have restricted my life in some manners if I had an official diagnosis. Instead they put a lot of effort into telling me throughout all my childhood and youth how each person has their pluses and minuses and nobody is objectively better than the others. And they kept making sure that I understand that every humam has a right to be themself and should be proud of their good sides. This gave me a lot of coping mechanisms that have been if huge help for me! I’ve learned to circumnavigate all kinds of problems caused by ADHD, which means I’ve been able to fully take advantage of all the good things ADHD brings.

    However, this also meant that I was absorbing information very efficiently and therefore never had to do my homework and got almost the best possible grades anyway. But around the age of 15 that started to seriously backfire. Not only did the school grow more difficult and my ADHD started to have an actual effectively on my learning. Learning the habit of doing my homework without any ADHD medicine was almost impossible and I would have flunked school of my teacher hadn’t said: “I’m not accepting this quitting, I’m not going to look at that paper. If someone in this school deserves to pass, then that’s you. You’re 18. I’ll offer you a beer at a bar and we’ll talk about it!”

    At thenage of 24 I finally understood I had ADHD and learned the meanings of so many words (now my children want my attention; will write more later!)