• Sas [she/her]@beehaw.org
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    5 months ago

    Why is that? I’m not a native speaker and in German we usually list ourselves last so I’ve used that before.

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      5 months ago

      It’s a rule in English that “and I” is only used when it’s the subject not the object of a sentence. (Subject is the thing doing the action, and the object is the thing being acted upon)

      The proper way to say this would be “she’s coming over me and my girlfriend’s movie night” because “she” is the subject in this sentence since she is the one “coming over”.

      Hope that makes sense.

      • Sas [she/her]@beehaw.org
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        5 months ago

        Thanks for the explanation. I don’t know if I’ll really change my habit though. It’s been ingrained into me over and over from a young age on that the “ass (donkey) always names themselves first” and it’s a bit uncomfy to do so now. I also mostly don’t feel bad about breaking that rule as it seems a bit arbitrary.

    • labhras@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      5 months ago

      I’s is not the actual possessive form. It would be like saying “ichs filmnacht” instead “meine filmnacht”

      In English, the proper way to say it would be “my gf’s and my annual bad movie night”

      It’s funny; when I was learning German, I thought genitive was so weird, but it honestly makes so much more sense than how we do it in English

      #MakeEnglishGermanicAgain