An old friend/aquaintance I’ve not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she’s had two babies by two different guys. They’re ~6 months and ~2-3 years.
She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I’m not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I’ve frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it’s something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she’d be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she’d have to bring the kids along.
I don’t want to be a dick but I’m really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They’re mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don’t really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.
AITA? How do I tell her I’m really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?
tldr: you are the asshole if you don’t want to meet. people with young kids need you, they deserve meeting with you! look how lonely they are, you cannot just decline!
Holy misinterpretation batman! Its fine to not want to meet. OP seems to think its rude that someone with a baby can’t just dump them somewhere so they can meet up for adults only coffee. Its the indignation that makes them the asshole.
You are not entitled to anybody else’s time.