• CryptoKitten@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    This is not funny and any man wearing this would probably not pass a similar test using any woman’s criteria. If I saw someone wearing this my first thought would certainly not be “hey this is a guy with a great sense of humor and I would like to hang with him!”.

  • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Gonna sound racist but deal with it.

    I constantly meet asian developers (Singapore , India, China, etc) with this edgelord personality. They come to American conferences and meetups, say some wild sexist shit, and someone has to politely let them know not to.

    Some backtrack. Some apologize. Some literally freeze up and pretend like it didn’t happen.

    • jol@discuss.tchncs.de
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      3 days ago

      We do still live in a bubble in the west. We’re fighting for equity across genders and race, while some parts of the world are still questioning if sexual harassment against women at work is really that big of a deal.

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      3 days ago

      Many of my guy coworkers have been (and are) sort of misogynistic, and homophobic (I’m in India). It makes me really uncomfortable. Might start reporting people to HR one day.

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        Just get to know HR first. They might be mysogynists themselves (even if they are female).

    • Maggoty@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      That last part is a face saving culture reaction. If you’re feeling culturally sensitive the thing to do is just move on and see if they do it again.

      • fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
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        3 days ago

        Uh, no no. The rule is “half my age plus seven”. I’ve no idea what your other term is supposed to represent.

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          He’s saying it goes both ways. The upper limit is a women who you would be half her age plus 7.

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            3 days ago

            This “rule” only works for a small set of ages from 14 ~ 30ish

            If you are 14 then the range for “age” is 14 - 14
            If you are 30 then the range for “age” is 22 - 46
            If you are 40 then the range for “age” is 27 - 66

            At 30 the upper level is 16 years different; while it could work it is a big gap to bridge. It only gets worse the older you get.

      • lennivelkant@discuss.tchncs.de
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        3 days ago

        Good point.

        Should be age > (@my_age / 2) +7

        FTFOP - now my age is some value defined outside the immediate query.

        More likely, the GIRLS would be a view of some table persons and you could query my_age from that table too.

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          3 days ago

          Thank you. I assumed the reader would be educated enough to guess I meant a variable. But yeah, should used @my_age

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            23 hours ago

            Pretty sure “People who know enough about SQL to know about variables” is a subset of “People who know enough about SQL to be pedantic about it” :p

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    One of the reasons women will find this repugnant is because they didn’t normalize their tables. Should be boyfriend_id is null.

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      That structure doesn’t handle polyamorous and cheating relationships very well. It should probably have and (select top 1 1 from dbo.relationships r where r.partner_a != GIRLS.id or r.partner_b != GIRLS.id) which would handle also LGBT+ relationships or relationships that are better represented as a graph.

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        The relationships table should also have enum for relationship type. It might be friends, family, platonic relations etc. Also might want to check sex_drive to handle ace gals and something to do with kinsey scale not to bother lesbians.

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      Maybe it’s supposed to imply that boyfriend is an attribute of the particular girl. Like saying she isn’t someone’s boyfriend. It’s probably a holdover from the original data architecture and nobody ever bothered to modify the table later on in case there’s a select somewhere that expects that field to exist.

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      3 days ago

      Why is there a separate table for men and women in the first place? Shouldn’t there be a person table with a many to many relationship with itself (because polyamory exists)?

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        To that point a person table with a relationship table. So this way you can reference relationship between two or more persons within the relationship table and that could be joined to the person table if needed. I don’t think you’d really be able to keep it within one table while exploring multiple relationships unless you’re storing a list of ids that is interpreted outside of sql. Also a relationship table would allow exploring other types of relationships such as exes, love interests, coworkers, family, friends, etc

        • Thomrade@lemm.ee
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          Yeah it’d be a person table, and the relationship table indicating the ids of shipped couples. Do you think there’d need to be a status in the relationship table so we can tombstone exes? Or maybe started and ended date columns for each relationship so we can figure out whose cheating on who. But when about on-off relationships then? How would we model Ross and Rachel?

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      Or, if you allow for polyamory and non-hetero relationships, you probably need a rel table (and some joins in the query).

      Maybe GIRLS is just a view…

  • RobertoOberto@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    Who says programmers don’t have a sense of humor?

    No one. It’s just what you pretend people say to make yourself feel like some kind of special exception.