• Smoogs@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Counting someone else’s tragedy as a personal blessing AKA when the privileged make someone else’s tragedy about them.

    “I’m so blessed” whilst looking upon someone who’s struggling with mental or physical issues/homeless. And they explain it as their way of having gratitude.

    I’m all for the gratitude lists but it’s not meant to be another channel wax on the narcissism and quell esteem issues by comparing yourself to others. Need a benchmark to know you’re doing well? Compare yourself with where you were yesterday. Not where someone else is today.

    Esteem boosts shouldn’t come at the cost of pulling attention from someone else’s tragedy to pat yourself on the back.

    • curious_dolphin@slrpnk.net
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      9 days ago

      making someone else’s tragedy about them

      esteem boosts

      Interesting take. When someone says they are blessed or grateful for whatever reason (even in the context of another’s tragedy), I see it more as acknowledging how much of our own circumstances are outside of our control, a perfectly normal and healthy thing to recognize and nothing to do with boosting one’s own self esteem.